EP #62 Using NLP with Illness

07/09/22 • 38 min

This is an inspirational story of a Master Practitioner of NLP who used NLP processes while undergoing cancer treatments. He mentions some of the processes in NLP he used, such as the Outcome Frame (sensory-based), anchoring, submodalities (pain management), the structure of questions, presuppositions, and beliefs (his and others). Other topics include
1. Beliefs and the Bandura curve – a. Belief in treatment, b. Belief in a practitioner, c. Rapport and trust.

2. Mental emotional vs. physical

3. Presuppositions engaged

4. Flexibility and attending to evidence – the medical model

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2. Mental emotional vs. physical

3. Presuppositions engaged

4. Flexibility and attending to evidence – the medical model

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Ep #61 Rapport Isn't Just About What You Do -- Visual Rapport

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Julie Thurburn, as guest host, and Susan Stageman discuss visual rapport -- What are you wearing for the conversation you want to have? Julie is a Certified Image Consultant. In a slightly different format, they talk about rapport from a different angle: how our appearance can make or break rapport from the outside to the internal feelings we have.
After Julie discusses why she got into Image Consulting and the greatest challenges she solves for her clients, they discuss

1. Personal Style is about you – what works best for you. That’s colors, designs, garment details, etc. Being Trendy is about what others want you to wear. They choose the colors for you to buy that season, etc.

2. Trendy is a very expensive wardrobe because you’re stuck in a cycle of pleasing people you don’t even know – and who don’t know you. It’s not a personal look, it’s just buying clothes which must be replaced often (expensive) or prevent you from representing your best self (limiting your opportunities).

3. Why is it so hard to know what to wear for every occasion? Having rapport with yourself is key to having rapport with others when you are doubtful and having internal negative conversations you are out of rapport with yourself and difficult to get into rapport with others.

4. In part, because we often dress to please others and hope that the outfit is conveying the right message, with the ‘right message’ being the one you ‘hope’ others pick up on. When you know what works for your shape and the impact colors have on the brain, you can more confidently choose the outfit that accurately conveys the message you want others to respond to.

5. Having a sense of style helps create rapport with others. Knowing the styles/colors that work best for you helps you represent yourself at a higher level than when you just buy something off a mannequin because someone else chooses for the mannequin but not necessarily for you. So when you know how to choose well for yourself you dress more authentically than when you dress like a mannequin. It can establish visual boundaries and lets others know what kind of conversations you want to have.

5. The internal benefit of easily creating rapport with others is greater confidence in yourself because the results you want are easier to attain.

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EP #63 Tips and Tricks To Make Changes Using NLP

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Kinesthetic anchoring, reframing, and conflict resolution are some of the NLP processes people can use for mental and emotional changes. There are many more but these are processes that people can learn how to use themselves and are simple change techniques.

It is most important to develop a wellformed outcome before using any process to resolve an issue. An outcome is necessary for any change. The brain is directional. Tell the brain where you are going and what you want. It minimizes confusion.
The previously mentioned processes do different things and produce different types of change:

a. Anchoring – feeling changes – how do you want to feel

b. Reframing – working with a part to change a behavior

c. Conflict resolution – visual squash – used to reduce or eliminate a conflict at any logical level

Another important consideration is at what logical level the change needs to take place. There are natural hierarchies of classification of change according to Gregory Bateson. There is often confusion about the logical levels when considering a change. Rules that apply at one level don't necessarily apply to another. Changing something on a lower level could affect a higher level but changing something on a higher level will often change the lower levels to support the higher level change.

Here are some examples of how the logical levels get confused when changing something.

Anchoring – feeling change – when someone feels upset about something and they want to feel curious, resourceful, etc. a collapsed reality will give them choices in how to feel. BUT say a person doesn’t like something someone is doing. Carefully choosing the resource is important. If they feel bad and they want to feel good. They may be feeling good about something where that feeling is inappropriate or even less resourceful than the original feeling. Ice cream versus broccoli is an example of this. Negative anchoring – attaching a bad feeling to something . Sometimes this works and sometimes it backfires.

Reframing – for behaviors – reframe the part that is doing the behavior you want to change.
Conflict resolution – make sure that both sides are on the same logical level: environment, behavior, capability, belief, identity, and spirit.

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