4: Lack confidence? You might be hanging out with the wrong people.

05/13/20 • 22 min

This week on The Bold Life podcast, I'm talking about battery chargers and battery drainers. How certain people fill us with positive energy, but others drain our energy and prevent us from reaching our goals.

I’m sharing why I love to watch the Olympics (I’m glued to my TV for two weeks while they’re on), and a story from the 1996 Olympic Games where a young woman named Kerri Strug inspired the world.

People who are potential battery chargers could be:

People who inspire us, fill us with energy.
Family, friends, a mentor or others who are close to us
People we aspire to be like such as an athlete or a leader in our field

Listen in to find out why all battery chargers have one thing in common, what happens after we interact with these positive people, and how we feel around battery drainers. Learn why a growth mindset is essential for battery chargers, and how those with a fixed mindset are often battery drainers.

Show Highlights

[02:01] My all-time favorite Olympics story from the 1996 Women’s Gymnastic team vault session.

[06:35] Why battery chargers make us feel “bigger” and more confident.

[07:50] The emotional fallout of spending too much time with battery drainers.

[11:37] Why you can have a fixed or growth mindset in one area of your life but not another.

[14:24] Why our brains thrive being around battery chargers

[17:54] Ways to find more battery chargers in your life.

[20:15] How to tell if someone is a battery charger or a battery drainer.
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People who are potential battery chargers could be:

People who inspire us, fill us with energy.
Family, friends, a mentor or others who are close to us
People we aspire to be like such as an athlete or a leader in our field

Show Highlights

[02:01] My all-time favorite Olympics story from the 1996 Women’s Gymnastic team vault session.

[06:35] Why battery chargers make us feel “bigger” and more confident.

[07:50] The emotional fallout of spending too much time with battery drainers.

[11:37] Why you can have a fixed or growth mindset in one area of your life but not another.

[14:24] Why our brains thrive being around battery chargers

[17:54] Ways to find more battery chargers in your life.

[20:15] How to tell if someone is a battery charger or a battery drainer.
Subscribe Today!

Links | Resources

IG: @DrNicoleByers

Facebook: Dr. Nicole Byers

Website: drnicolebyers.com

Email [email protected]

Drnicolebyers.com/quiz

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3: Building Confidence When You Feel Like Hiding Under Your Bed

This week on The Bold Life Podcast, I’m talking all about how to find courage when it feels like everything around you is out of control. When I recorded this episode, our lives had been turned upside down by the COVID-19 pandemic. It’s hard on our brains when we don’t know what to expect, but it doesn’t take a global crisis to make us feel out of control. Every day, we face challenges and roadblocks. In this episode, I’m sharing how courage comes from taking action, even when life is throwing curveballs.

Did you know that our brains need to face adversity to grow? You don’t become braver or more confident doing the same thing every day. Your brain learns courage by being challenged, just like any other muscle in your body.

But when our brains feel out of control, they resist. They try to talk us out of changing by imagining the worst-case scenarios. This creates stress on our bodies and minds. In this episode, I share one technique to focus and calm your body and mind so you feel more in control.

Remember, you can control where your brain focuses; you can choose to have courage and move forward. Listen to this episode and learn how to stay off the stress hamster wheel, and click on the link to take my free Stress Personality Quiz I mentioned in the episode.

Show Highlights

[00:49] Has your world been turned upside down with this pandemic?

[01:22] Why it’s super hard on our brains when we don't know what to expect next.

[06:16] Courage comes from taking action when we feel things are out of our control.

[11:38] Our brains are great at talking us out of trying something new.

[14:06] Courage isn't the absence of fear, it's feeling fear and moving forward, anyway.

[15:55] When our brains have to work hard to figure out what comes next, it creates stress on our bodies and minds.

[17:25] Have you ever been on the hamster wheel of fear and uncertainty?

[18:52] One technique to slow your body’s stress response.

[22:16] Remember, you can control where your brain focuses, you can choose to have the courage and move forward.

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5: Why Your To Do List Is Burning You Out

Are you a working mom who doesn't feel like you have enough time in your day to reach your dreams and goals? I've spent years learning how our brains work and what holds us back from having the courage to achieve our dreams. Each week I'll be sharing practical strategies to help you to find more time in your day, build your confidence, fight back against mom guilt, and reach your goals. Learn to thrive from home and at work with The Bold Life.

This week on The Bold Life podcast, I'm talking about why your giant to-do list might actually be burning you out. I also share how to make a to-do list that works, and why having a shorter list can actually make you more productive.

To-do lists are great for:

Keeping our brains on track
Tracking productivity
Realizing how much work we have completed in our day
Making our day productive and not just “busy”
Getting us closer to our goals

Listen in to find out why to-do lists can have a downside, how big lists can make us feel frustrated with not getting enough done, and why holding ourselves to super high standards can lead to high stress. Learn how to recognize the first signs of burnout, and how to focus your to-do list to get the things done that actually make a difference in your day.

Show Highlights

[01:04] Why to-do lists are great, until they’re not

[05:04] Physical signs of stress and burnout from having a giant to-do list.

[08:19] Being busy doesn’t mean you’re being productive.

[11:05] How to laser focus your to-do list to feel less stressed and more productive.

[18:10] Not everything is going to get done on our to-do list and that’s OK.

[21:38] Our bodies are going to burn out from the stress of always being busy if we don’t take control!

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