5 Key Systems to Mastering Distractions

01/28/21 • 43 min

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Hey look... ->> SQUIRREL!! 🐿 🐿 🐿

Did you look?! We know we would have. 🤣 With major ADHD we are easily distracted.
You?

It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do or how successful you are.
It happens to the best of us.

The important thing is not what distracts you but how quickly you can recover from those distractions to get stuff done.

We all know how easy it is to waste a lot of time with distractions, but what if you could reel it in and put that time into something that brings you freedom and joy? Things that could grow your business and improve your lifestyle.

If you feel like your brain has a million squirrels running around inside, this episode is for YOU!

Mike has always been super, super ADHD, but he’s learned enough about his brain over the years to treat the “challenge” as a creative gift. People are always telling him that they can’t believe how much stuff he gets done. However, he knows, that if he would have focused on just one thing, he’d be richer than he is.

He’s not unhappy. It’s more that he’s learned to accommodate my lack of focus. He’s interested in A LOT of stuff. He likes doing a lot of things, lots of relationships, but when the rubber needs to meet the road, he’ll get stuff done to reach the finish line.

In this episode Gay and Mike share five key systems they’ve developed that not only work for them, but they teach and incorporate them in their advisory work with clients to make sure they’re focused and get what they want.

Here are the steps to move yourself out of distraction quickly:

Make a “to-do” list daily: From 1 – 10 starting with the thing you want to do LEAST. Doing this every day helps set your priorities and stay organized. Both Gay and Mike are big 3×5 card and white board users. (Mike carries them wherever he goes!) Yeah, there are more modern / digitized ways to keep track of the things you need to accomplish in a day but they’ve found that the 3×5 card method really works and lots of uber successful entrepreneurs use the same method (watch the show to see how this is done).
Anchoring + Grounding Exercise: First thing in the morning take a big, deep breath and get totally into your body. Relax through your fingers and toes, all the way to the top of your head. Then imagine shooting roots out of your legs and into the center of the earth. Imagine these roots grabbing the earth’s core like bird feet, tightening and holding the center, but flexible, like a palm tree. Take another big deep breath, get super aware of your surroundings, then ask yourself what emotions or feelings you want to experience today.
Hone in on your Genius Zone: The more you focus on your “genius” and doing what you most love to do, the easier it is to protect against distractions because you’ve got more to protect. You’re protecting your genius. Decide what the price of your freedom is, decide who + what you want to attract and get really, really good at saying NO to the things you’re no good at or don’t want to do.
Wait until the last minute: This one might feel counterintuitive but it works for Mike. He tends to procrastinate but the pressure of a deadline and HAVING to finish a project in time really gets his creative juices flowing. He’s found that if he waits until the last minute to start / finish a project, it takes him less time to complete than if he start weeks before.
A Healthy Lifestyle: Sleep until your body wants to wake up, take healthy supplements, meditate, get outside and connect with nature, intermittent fasting, (this has been a game changer for me. My brain works better on an empty stomach) cut out sugar, caffeine and gluten.

Don’t worry too much about what distracts you, measure the time it takes you to get back. The quicker you can get back to whatever you’re supposed to be focusing on is the key.

Listen to the whole episode to find out why Gay thinks distractions are a POSITIVE thing plus how they’ve been able to buy their freedom, work because we want to and because it gives us an outlet for creativity, connection and impacting others. Listen now and share with someone you love.

Hey look... ->> SQUIRREL!! 🐿 🐿 🐿

Did you look?! We know we would have. 🤣 With major ADHD we are easily distracted.
You?

It doesn’t matter who you are, what you do or how successful you are.
It happens to the best of us.

The important thing is not what distracts you but how quickly you can recover from those distractions to get stuff done.

If you feel like your brain has a million squirrels running around inside, this episode is for YOU!

Here are the steps to move yourself out of distraction quickly:

Make a “to-do” list daily: From 1 – 10 starting with the thing you want to do LEAST. Doing this every day helps set your priorities and stay organized. Both Gay and Mike are big 3×5 card and white board users. (Mike carries them wherever he goes!) Yeah, there are more modern / digitized ways to keep track of the things you need to accomplish in a day but they’ve found that the 3×5 card method really works and lots of uber successful entrepreneurs use the same method (watch the show to see how this is done).
Anchoring + Grounding Exercise: First thing in the morning take a big, deep breath and get totally into your body. Relax through your fingers and toes, all the way to the top of your head. Then imagine shooting roots out of your legs and into the center of the earth. Imagine these roots grabbing the earth’s core like bird feet, tightening and holding the center, but flexible, like a palm tree. Take another big deep breath, get super aware of your surroundings, then ask yourself what emotions or feelings you want to experience today.
Hone in on your Genius Zone: The more you focus on your “genius” and doing what you most love to do, the easier it is to protect against distractions because you’ve got more to protect. You’re protecting your genius. Decide what the price of your freedom is, decide who + what you want to attract and get really, really good at saying NO to the things you’re no good at or don’t want to do.
Wait until the last minute: This one might feel counterintuitive but it works for Mike. He tends to procrastinate but the pressure of a deadline and HAVING to finish a project in time really gets his creative juices flowing. He’s found that if he waits until the last minute to start / finish a project, it takes him less time to complete than if he start weeks before.
A Healthy Lifestyle: Sleep until your body wants to wake up, take healthy supplements, meditate, get outside and connect with nature, intermittent fasting, (this has been a game changer for me. My brain works better on an empty stomach) cut out sugar, caffeine and gluten.

Don’t worry too much about what distracts you, measure the time it takes you to get back. The quicker you can get back to whatever you’re supposed to be focusing on is the key.

Previous Episode

Our Biggest Mistakes and What We Learned From Them

Have you ever thought to yourself, “Man, all of these super successful entrepreneur, millionaires have it so easy. They must have made all the right choices to get where they are.”

That is a MAJOR misconception. We don’t know one successful millionaire or billionaire who doesn’t have a crazy story about “getting there.”

Mike and Gay are successful entrepreneurs.

Between the two of them they have about 80 years of experience and have both made over 100 millions dollars combined, and helped thousands of people.

But it wasn’t without lots of bumps and bruises along the way. They are, by no means, “perfect,” and have made loads of mistakes on their roads to success. (Some of them REAL DOOZIES!)

That’s what this episode is all about. The mistakes they’ve made and what they learned from them. This is a VERY revealing episode. They get into some deeply personal stuff that they’ve never talked about until now. You’re going to want to hear this.

So if you’ve ever felt like you have to be “perfect” to be successful... keep reading and make sure to listen or watch on YouTube.

Let’s start with big personal mistakes... Gay has been married to his beautiful wife, Katie for many, many blissful years now but it wasn’t his first marriage. And the fact of the matter is, he’s done a lot of work to NOT consider his first marriage a giant mistake but rather a giant blessing. (Truth be told he says he’s only about 75% there even though it happened 50 years ago and he still has arguments with her in his head!)

Gay’s grandmother was a huge influence in his life and died when he was just 22 years old. At the time, he didn’t realize how emotionally devastated he was by her death. He was super intellectual, overweight and wore thick glasses, completely unprepared for a deep relationship but ended up marrying an older, wealthy woman.

It was doomed from the start.

He was working his way through college as a disk jockey on the radio, promoting and managing bands and making tons of money, until one fateful winter storm changed everything. He lost it all, was flat broke and emotionally devastated.

Left with nothing but his marriage, Gay realized he had gotten into the relationship to distract himself from the grief of losing his Grandmother. Needless to say the relationship ended and Gay found his true calling (psychology) changing his life forever.

For Mike, growing up, he hated the town he was from (Eagle Lake, MN) and ONLY cared about getting as far away from it as possible. When he turned 18 and was finally free, he enrolled in a technical school and took off in my crappy little car with NO BRAKES. That didn’t work out so well. His dad rescued him by loaning him $1,100 to buy a 1976 Honda Civic.

Mike had never done any kind of drug in my life up until he left home but shortly after he tried smoking weed. His first experience was mind expanding but his SECOND was... devastating. He ended up in a mental ward having a full-blown nervous break-down with my parents and a priest thinking he was somehow “possessed.” Yikes!

Long story short... Mike’s parents never beat him up about it, he learned from it and ultimately got his act together. That experience could have killed him... but he didn’t let it.

Since then he’s had a bunch more potentially devastating experiences that could have ended Mike (including a divorce from my high-school sweetheart and stage-4 cancer) but it’s all about taking those experiences, LEARNING from them and doing something different.

To hear more stories about their biggest mistakes including how poor business decisions and partnerships cost Mike millions PLUS a pretty cool story about how Danielle Day Lewis changed his “out of control” life by spending 2 years as an apprentice to an Italian shoe cobbler, listen now and don’t forget to share this with someone you think will benefit from these stories.

Next Episode

Find Your Voice and Change How the World Perceives You

As a business owner and entrepreneur, 90% of your time is spent selling your product or YOURSELF to potential clients. (We don’t buy from people we don’t like or trust.)

How do you do this effectively and still like yourself at the end of the day?

WITH YOUR VOICE.

Your voice and “persona” can convey confidence, sincerity, knowledge, love, connection and influence to your audience.

That translates into sales and happy clients.

Sounds simple enough, but what if you don’t like the sound of your own voice?

What if there was an easy way to change your voice so that you felt confident speaking or selling to any audience, big or small?

What if we told you that finding your TRUE VOICE could change the way the world perceives you and therefore change your entire life for the better?

Today, Gay and Mike interview the world’s greatest vocal coach, Roger Love. He’s coached some of the most famous, award winning, singers, actors and speakers on the planet (think Selena Gomez, Bradley Cooper, Reese Witherspoon and Tony Robbins) and he’s here to tell you that you are NOT the voice you were born with.

Roger says that some of the sounds that come out of your mouth work with your communication and relationships and some don’t. Today he’s going to show you how to change the ones that don’t work so when you open your mouth, people will understand and appreciate the best of who you are.

This was SUCH a fun episode for Gay and Mike and one that you really need to HEAR or watch on YouTube to get the full effect.

When Roger was 16, he decided he wanted to save the world. He knew the only way he was going to be able to do that with his skill set was one voice at a time. For 17 years, he only taught singers. (people like the Beach Boys, Earth, Wind and Fire and Luther Vandross)

Then speakers like Tony Robbins and John Gray started coming to him wanting to work on their speaking voices and that led him to where he is today. 50% of his clients want to sing amazingly. 50% of his clients want to be incredible speakers, influencers and presenters.

“We live in a world that believes that communication is word-to-word based. If you had the right words, you’d have a great conversation, start a relationship or complete a business deal... if you only had the right words.” But science has proven that the words you say are not effective in the way you should communicate with people.

The way the brain processes spoken information is first, for emotion, then for logic. Words by themselves have no emotion. You have to attach sounds to the words. Roger has spent years helping people stop speaking from word to word, and become in control over sounds like the pitch, the pace, the tone, the melodies of their voice, so that others will really understand how they feel when they speak and showcase the best of themselves in every communication.

Roger doesn’t work exclusively with celebrities and singers. When he’s training a superstar singer to sing, he’s helping them sell more tickets and t-shirts, but when he’s helping someone find their speaking voice... it changes their life because it actually influences the way that everyone perceives them.

People need to know that everyone needs a voice makeover. You’re not “trapped” with the voice you were born with. Most of us hate the way we sound when we hear ourselves on a recording. In fact one of the most popular hashtags in the last 10 years is #ihatemyvoice. We grow up hearing the way our parents and loved ones talk to us and mimic it but it doesn’t have to be permanent.

Think of it this way. Actors create characters for the roles they play but they’re not that person in real life, are they? Most of us have a work voice and a home voice and we all know what happens if you bring the work voice home to your family... It’s not very well received 🤣

Early on, Roger thought his job was just to teach people how to have great voices. Then he realized that was a small goal and he could use voice to help make great people. His goal is to help people use their voices to achieve the next level of success that they want, both personally and professionally, giving them the ability to communicate emotionally because the people that communicate emotionally, are the people that are remembered and believed.

They say that people don’t remember what you say, they remember the way you make them feel and you’re only going to make them feel things with the sound of your voice, not the words.

Roger firmly believes that the sounds that come out of your mouth, make y...