The Better Show - Better Relationships Redux

Better Relationships Redux

01/14/19 • 108 min

How to deepen relationships with your partner, friends and family. We’ll explore why healthy relationships are so important and share tips & techniques to ensure your relationships are in tip top shape.

Show Notes

1:45 — Why relationships matter
4:39 — Impacts of isolation: from prisoners to monks
7:33 — Week long silent retreats
8:47 — How humans experience loneliness at a cellular level
9:54 — Aristotle's Golden Mean and relationships
10:54 — 3 keys to defining a good friend
14:48 — Ian's story of reconnecting with his best childhood friend after 10 years
19:50 — March's story of reconnecting with his first friend since moving to the US
22:51 — Ian's theory of why people hate high school reunions & love college reunions
25:04 — Uniqueness of experiences = strongest relationships
26:21 — How March burst into tears and confessed his undying love for his future wife
30:05 — They critical component to March's early relationship with his wife
31:32 — Ian explains the "group friend"
33:20 — How Ian founded The Brunch Bunch to strengthen his relationships
37:12 — How Darren met his wife at his birthday party & told work she was his fiancé before he asked her
44:34 — How the Gottman "The Art and Science of Love" workshop strengthened March's marriage
48:12 — March's tips from Gottman's "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work"
54:51 — Darren & Ian's tips from "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
1:01:48 — Tips for dealing with the physiological responses of stress in relationships
1:04:06 — Darren's secret weapon for improving all his relationships
1:12:23 — Ian's tips for dating in the modern world
1:20:28 — How to use your smartphone to maintain relationships from afar...and invented Snapchat before Snapchat
1:26:20 — Ian's story of how pre-planning helps him maintain key relationships
1:26:20 — March will experiment with weekly thank you notes to express gratitude
1:26:20 — Darren will experiment with trying the Gottman seminar March mentioned
1:26:20 — Ian will experiment with eating alone less often, especially during the work week

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Show Notes

1:45 — Why relationships matter
4:39 — Impacts of isolation: from prisoners to monks
7:33 — Week long silent retreats
8:47 — How humans experience loneliness at a cellular level
9:54 — Aristotle's Golden Mean and relationships
10:54 — 3 keys to defining a good friend
14:48 — Ian's story of reconnecting with his best childhood friend after 10 years
19:50 — March's story of reconnecting with his first friend since moving to the US
22:51 — Ian's theory of why people hate high school reunions & love college reunions
25:04 — Uniqueness of experiences = strongest relationships
26:21 — How March burst into tears and confessed his undying love for his future wife
30:05 — They critical component to March's early relationship with his wife
31:32 — Ian explains the "group friend"
33:20 — How Ian founded The Brunch Bunch to strengthen his relationships
37:12 — How Darren met his wife at his birthday party & told work she was his fiancé before he asked her
44:34 — How the Gottman "The Art and Science of Love" workshop strengthened March's marriage
48:12 — March's tips from Gottman's "The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work"
54:51 — Darren & Ian's tips from "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman
1:01:48 — Tips for dealing with the physiological responses of stress in relationships
1:04:06 — Darren's secret weapon for improving all his relationships
1:12:23 — Ian's tips for dating in the modern world
1:20:28 — How to use your smartphone to maintain relationships from afar...and invented Snapchat before Snapchat
1:26:20 — Ian's story of how pre-planning helps him maintain key relationships
1:26:20 — March will experiment with weekly thank you notes to express gratitude
1:26:20 — Darren will experiment with trying the Gottman seminar March mentioned
1:26:20 — Ian will experiment with eating alone less often, especially during the work week

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Show Notes

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9:52— Willpower & habits
15:05— Our 2019 habits we want to create
20:09— The habits we want to break in 2019
23:13— Our personal experiences with habits
31:55— Tips & hacks for habits
43:22— 4 laws for making or breaking habits
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Show Notes

2:25— We discuss our interest in bedding and what inspired us to do this episode.
4:35— We recap recommendations from The Better Show community on what they do to create their ideal bedroom environment.
10:12— A listener, Rachel, shares what motivated her to begin to search for the perfect pillow.
13:42— The ideal sleep position and a healthy sleep posture according to doctors.
15:00— Finding the right balance between soft and supportive with your pillow.
15:57— The different pillows types for side, back, and stomach sleepers.
18:55— Appearance versus comfort in pillow selection and the trial and error process of finding the right pillow for you.
23:05— Pros and cons of memory foam, goose down, polyester filled, water gel, coconut, and bamboo pillows.
27:13— Chantell tells us about her favorite pillow — the Hyrdaluxe pillow.
29:30— Sometimes a teddy bear is the perfect community.
30:41— Pillows to help make sleep more comfortable during pregnancy.
33:15— We discuss the trend of hotels offering pillow menus to guests.
35:58— We discuss the basics of bed sheet construction — materials, weave, and thread count.
39:04— Winter sheets versus summer sheets.
40:49— Chantell tells us about a new innovation in bed sheets that she now swears by: eucalyptus sheets.
43:10— The environmental benefits of eucalyptus as a manufacturing material.
45:15— Other issues that people run into with bedding and some of the solutions available to address them
48:01— Giving the gift of nice bedding and the t-shirt sheets from Oprah’s Favorite Things episode from 1996.