The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice - #3: Swinging 101, How To Explore Swinging Safely With Your Partner & How To Make It Incredible For Both Of You With Cooper S. Beckett

#3: Swinging 101, How To Explore Swinging Safely With Your Partner & How To Make It Incredible For Both Of You With Cooper S. Beckett

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02/14/17 • 58 min

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The Bad Girls Bible - Sex, Relationships, Dating, Love & Marriage Advice

In this episode of the Bad Girl's Bible podcast, I talk to swinger Cooper S. Beckett from the Life in the Swingset podcast. Cooper explains in detail what swinging is, the steps a couple can take to safely explore it, how it can help your relationship (or hinder it!) and more.

Show Highlights 1.25 - how he got into the swinging scene. 4.55 Why monogamy, NOT SWINGING is the right choice for many people. 6.05 - The traditional definition of swinging 6.50 - What polyamory and why it's different. 8.15 - Why swinging and polyamory is definitely not cheating 9.45 - The problem with life's unspoken "social contract." 10.35 - How to start talking to your partner about swinging in a smooth way. 18.10 - Why non-monogamy has improved Cooper's communication skills. 18.35 - How to start your swinging journey with your partner and make sure it's a great experience, and why some couples have a bad first experience. 21.55 - Tips on how to spot and avoid fakers when using swinging sites 23.30 - How to make your first swinger date easy going and successfull. 25.10 - What to do if one partner has reservations. 28.40 - Dealing with jealousy. 33.55 - What to do if swinging doesn't work for you 43.55 - One of the most important benefits of non-monogamy

Show Notes Kinsey scale - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale Cassidy - https://www.kasidie.com - the swinger site Cooper mentioned on the show

More On Cooper If you want to get in touch with Cooper, you can find him online at:

http://coopersbeckett.com/ https://twitter.com/coopersbeckett?lang=en https://www.facebook.com/coopersbeckett/ https://www.instagram.com/coopersbeckett/ Cooper's Podcast Podcast website: http://www.lifeontheswingset.com/ Podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/life-on-swingset-swinging/id354627460?mt=2

Cooper's Collection of Swinging Podcasts: swingset.fm

Cooper's 1st book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/my-life-on-the-swingset-adventures-in-swinging-polyamory/

Cooper's 2nd book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/a-life-less-monogamous-a-novel-by-cooper-s-beckett/ Special Discount for Listeners Cooper kindly gave me a discount code that you can use to get 10% off anything you purchase on his site, coopersbeckett.com. Just enter the word bible in the offer code section and that 10% discount will be applied to your order.

Show Notes Kinsey scale - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale Cassidy - https://www.kasidie.com - the swinger site Cooper mentioned on the show

More On Cooper If you want to get in touch with Cooper, you can find him online at:

Cooper's Collection of Swinging Podcasts: swingset.fm

Cooper's 1st book http://coopersbeckett.com/books/my-life-on-the-swingset-adventures-in-swinging-polyamory/

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#2: More Orgasms, How To Explore Sexual Fantasies & Why "Asking" For Sex Is A Bad Idea With Dr. Lori Buckley

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Sex Therapist Dr. Lori Buckley is my guest on the podcast today. We talk about everything from how to more easily reach orgasm during sex to getting over sexual shame and exploring new fantasies and ideas in the bedroom. You'll also learn why a "judgy" attitude in the bedroom is a bad idea and why "asking" for sex is even worse. Show Highlights 1.35 Lori's background and how she became a sex therapist. 5.10 We discuss why some women struggle to reach orgasm during sex. 9.20 Why getting "out of your head" is vital for reaching orgasm more easily. 11.40 A simple technique to help you orgasm during sex. 15.30 Tips for getting over sexual shame and exploring new fantasies and ideas. 20.00 Simple steps for sharing your sexual fantasies and fetishes with your man. 23.10 Why a "judgy" attitude is going to kill your sex life. 28.30 An easy trick for getting in the mood, IF you are in a long term relationship. 29.15 Why asking for sex is a BAD idea. 35.30 Why women sometimes need their man to be more assertive. 36.20 Why many gifts don't need to cost a cent but still have a massive impact. 37.00 We talk about the deep importance of sexual tension in your relationship. You can learn more about Dr. Lori Buckley at https://www.drloribuckley.com/ and listen to her podcast here on iTunes (https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/looking-for-love/id1146640020).

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#4: The 3 Dangerous Pitfalls That Will Test Your Relationship & How To Deal With Them With Dr. Corey Allen

In today's episode, I talk to family and marriage therapist Dr. Corey Allen on the three dangerous mistakes that can affect your relationship. We dive deep and discuss how to prevent all three from becoming a major problem: money, sex and the in-laws/kids.

Show Highlights

5.00 - Why it's not money that causes problems, it's the meaning attached to money.

6.28 - What to do when you and your partner view money in a very different way so it doesn't become a problem.

10.30 - Why you don't have to agree with everything your partner says or does.

12.40 - Why committed relationships are designed to help us grow up and how we need to grow through problems we face with our partner.

17.55 - Possibly the most important question you can ask yourself before you get married or if you are already married: "Would you want to be married to you?" and then applying this question to specific aspects of your marriage.

18.20 - What to do if you and your partner have different sex drives.

21.20 - The mistake guys make who have a higher sex drive than their wife and how it turns her off.

24.30 - Being honest with your partner and it's amazing benefits.

28.25 - We talk about when making a compromise in your relationship is not really a compromise at all.

31.30 - The issue with the in-laws.

33.45 - Why having a great relationship only requires common sense, but the problem is that we attach emotion to relationship...which make things complicated.

36.50 - Why recognizing that your emotions are going to cloud your judgement in your relationship.

38.00 - The main issue to avoid with your in-laws.

Show Notes

You can find Corey at http://simplemarriage.net and pick up a copy of Naked Marriage at simplemarriage.net/naked-marriage You can also listen to his podcast at https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/sexy-marriage-radio/id472302597?mt=2