S1E3: Aloha in Action: Choosing Love and Saying Yes to What Matters with Tisha Lehfeldt

07/19/23 • 42 min

In this episode of The Aloha Thumbprint, the discussion revolves around the power of saying "no" when there is a strong "yes" burning within. It is important to say "no" to both the bad and the good in order to achieve the best. The key "yeses" in life include family, oneself, home, God, and what He asks us to do. Even when we feel a strong "no" due to fear, we should still say "yes" to overcome obstacles and make a positive impact in the world. The episode explores the experience of love and Aloha that the narrator received from their family and the importance of operating from a place of Aloha. It touches on finding one's worth in God's perspective and the transformation that comes with it. The speaker shares personal anecdotes about living in a tent, experiencing lack of support, and stumbling into unexpected opportunities. The importance of love and kindness in representing and perpetuating Aloha is emphasized throughout the episode.
Here are three key takeaways from the episode:
1. Embrace the Power of Saying "Yes" and "No":
- Saying "no" to the bad and even the good allows us to prioritize what truly matters.
- Strong "yeses" include family, oneself, home, God, and His call for us.
2. Operate from a Place of Love and Aloha:
- Giving Aloha without expecting anything in return leads to genuine connections.
- When we love God and others, we experience a beautiful and impactful presence.
3. Discover Your Worth and Choose Light and Love:
- Our identity and worth should be rooted in God's perspective, not external circumstances.
- By choosing what is right (pono) and representing love, we counter negativity and perpetuate goodness.
[00:01:47] Honored to have you here, sultry voice.
[00:06:00] Unexpected acts of kindness can perpetuate love.
[00:09:03] Mental mess, allowing others control, choosing anger.
[00:13:45] Mom's love shaped my desire to be liked.
[00:15:06] Love and Aloha shape generations and actions.
[00:21:04] Unintentional paths shaped eclectic career and life.
[00:24:39] Saying no to bad, yes to good.
[00:28:13] Beautiful non-negotiables: sleep, eating well, Jesus
[00:31:06] Beauty in imperfection, tired of performing.
[00:34:53] Thoughts on kissing and sharing love.
[00:40:12] Choose the person you want to become.
[00:42:05] Discover your aloha thumbprint, join us!

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S1E2: Trusting Aloha: Releasing Expectations and Embracing God's Timing with Tiare Lando

In this episode of The Aloha Thumbprint, our guest Tiare Lando opens up about their fear of rejecting God's plans and their transformative personal journey. The conversation delves into international pageants, but also goes deeper to discuss anxiety, depression, and the importance of sharing stories to help others facing similar struggles. Tiare embraces the concept of aloha, emphasizing the power of giving love without expecting anything in return. She also shares her own experiences of overcoming anxiety and depression, finding healing through prayer and therapy. The speaker's passion for empowering others is highlighted through their work in real estate and directing the Hawai International Pageants. She encourages inclusivity and the power of testimonies in making a difference. Overall, this episode explores the themes of healing, growth, and leaving a legacy of love.
Here are three key takeaways from the episode:

1. Embrace the Unexpected: The speaker's fear of rejecting God's plans transformed their personal journey, highlighting the power of stepping into the unknown.
2. Share Your Story: Opening up about personal struggles, such as anxiety and depression, creates a space for healing and helps others face their challenges in a world that needs more understanding.

3. Spread Aloha: The concept of aloha goes beyond a mere greeting—it involves putting out positive energy and love into the world. Releasing expectations and choosing to love without condition or reciprocation can heal not just individuals, but also the world itself.

[00:00:56] Spouse was a wedding planner, stayed at home after child's birth, then joined spouse's company to bring in marketing skills and PR.

[00:05:26] The writer discusses how their success led to the birth of the Learning Center which aims to provide opportunities for disadvantaged youth and native Hawaiians. The partnership between Way Unified and Makaja Learning Center is discussed.

[00:07:36] Learning center was where aloha journey started. Introduced to pono shim. Aloha response experience. Explored aloha tenants, huna, and secret meanings. Life-changing experience.

[00:12:18] Aloha and love are important, as some people have never felt loved before. The message of aloha needs to be shared because it is dwindling. Giving aloha comes back, leading to a sense of fulfillment and connection in the community.

[00:16:31] Grandma taught about God's power, integrity from spouse, and father's wisdom on long-term goals.

[00:20:27] A battle of wills to stay strong, emphasizing the importance of kindness and impact through gestures, being thankful for those who shaped us, and expressing gratitude for support in times of change.

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S1E4: Making a Difference: Connecting People and Resources in the Community with Andria Tupola

In this episode of The Aloha Thumbprint, we speak with Andrea Tupola, a passionate lawmaker who has been organizing a young women prom event for nine years. Andrea aims to inspire and provide role models for young girls, in order to prevent societal issues like teenage pregnancy and domestic violence. The event promotes values such as modesty, self-worth, and empowerment. Andrea also runs a homeless outreach program, focusing on job placement and building a support system within the community. She emphasizes the importance of knowing the names and struggles of the people she serves. Andrea is a choir teacher and compares her work in politics to blending voices. She has been actively participating in community cleanups and believes in involving the voices of the community being cleaned up. Andrea highlights the value of opinions from those who invest in and care about her. She addresses local crime issues and organizes an annual anti-sex trafficking conference. Her primary areas of focus are homelessness, housing, and public safety. Andrea values work that contributes to communities and builds purpose. Join us in this episode to hear Andrea's inspiring stories and insights as she serves her community with passion and dedication.
1. Proactive approach to societal issues: Andrea has been organizing a young women prom event for nine years, with the goal of inspiring and providing role models for young girls. By promoting modesty, self-worth, and empowerment, she aims to prevent issues like teenage pregnancy and domestic violence instead of merely reacting to them.
2. Community involvement and support: Andrea runs a homeless outreach program and believes in going beyond just providing clothing and food. Her program aims to help with job placement, clearing citations and warrants, and building a support system within the community. She emphasizes knowing the names and struggles of the people they serve, creating long-term connections, and involving churches as case workers.
3. Building unity and embracing roles: Andrea, a choir teacher and director, believes in bringing voices together, both in music and in her work in politics. She emphasizes the importance of involving the community in cleanups and crime town halls, addressing the root problems and engaging families. She encourages individuals to be true to themselves and live all aspects of their lives concurrently, while also prioritizing family and self-care.
[00:02:43] Nine-year event empowers girls for self-worth.
[00:04:23] Diverse speakers empower girls to overcome challenges.
[00:09:53] Restore, reconnect, revive: homeless outreach, work, purpose.
[00:14:02] Choir teacher turned community collaborator, blending voices.
[00:16:52] Cleaning street, needs help, pure intent.
[00:22:01] Invest in those who care, ignore the rest.
[00:26:36] Mentorship, church, and homeless outreach efforts crucial.
[00:31:17] Balancing workouts, Sundays, and motherhood is crucial.
[00:33:18] Balancing work and self-care is challenging.
[00:37:09] Congrats Ducky, be your best self.
[00:40:21] Grateful for the warm welcome. Aloha.