Pornography: why you need to talk about it with your children
11/03/22 • 54 min
This is an episode for parents and caregivers who are: worried their kids might see porn / their kids HAVE seen porn and they don't know what to do. We'd also love to hear from anyone who has dealt with this tricky subject with success (email us [email protected]).
In this episode, Justine and Jenny talk about how confronting it is when you learn your child has seen sexual material online. Topics covered: gaming and grooming; what we've dealt with as parents ourselves; what parents should think about *before* they give their kids a mobile phone; parental controls and filters (see helpful resources listed below); invasion of our kids' privacy versus keeping them safe; the value of talking to other parents -- especially those with older children. They've been through it and have great advice. More topics: TikTok and online sexual exploitation of young people; the power of 'likes' and 'follows'; Heartstopper, a TV show that Justine really likes; the idea of phone contracts; talking with other parents before sleepovers and playdates (are we more worried about offending another adult or protecting our children?); how to talk about porn with even very young children.
Resources we think are good:
eSafety Commissioner (website)
Common Sense Media (website where you can learn about film, TV, games and apps)
Culture Reframed (website pushing back against sexualisation of young people)
Officer Gomez on Facebook (US-based, works in schools and is quite 'zero tolerance' with tech, which may not always be practical however is great for trends, what the latest apps are and how kids use technology -- and some of the tricks they learn)
Family Zone (website, Australian, has filter products and a help service/desk where parents can contact to get help with setting up)
You Know Sex - Cory Silverberg (book, which includes conversation starters)
Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support. Primary resources are listed here and secondary resources here
Send us questions or comments to [email protected]
Thanks for listening!
Jenny + Justine
This is an episode for parents and caregivers who are: worried their kids might see porn / their kids HAVE seen porn and they don't know what to do. We'd also love to hear from anyone who has dealt with this tricky subject with success (email us [email protected]).
In this episode, Justine and Jenny talk about how confronting it is when you learn your child has seen sexual material online. Topics covered: gaming and grooming; what we've dealt with as parents ourselves; what parents should think about *before* they give their kids a mobile phone; parental controls and filters (see helpful resources listed below); invasion of our kids' privacy versus keeping them safe; the value of talking to other parents -- especially those with older children. They've been through it and have great advice. More topics: TikTok and online sexual exploitation of young people; the power of 'likes' and 'follows'; Heartstopper, a TV show that Justine really likes; the idea of phone contracts; talking with other parents before sleepovers and playdates (are we more worried about offending another adult or protecting our children?); how to talk about porn with even very young children.
Resources we think are good:
eSafety Commissioner (website)
Common Sense Media (website where you can learn about film, TV, games and apps)
Culture Reframed (website pushing back against sexualisation of young people)
Officer Gomez on Facebook (US-based, works in schools and is quite 'zero tolerance' with tech, which may not always be practical however is great for trends, what the latest apps are and how kids use technology -- and some of the tricks they learn)
Family Zone (website, Australian, has filter products and a help service/desk where parents can contact to get help with setting up)
You Know Sex - Cory Silverberg (book, which includes conversation starters)
Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support. Primary resources are listed here and secondary resources here
Send us questions or comments to [email protected]
Thanks for listening!
Jenny + Justine
Previous Episode
First times - 'virginity' and does it mean the same for everyone?
This is probably an episode for parents/caregivers of teenagers, but some families will be having conversations about virginity with their upper primary school children.
In this episode, Justine and Jenny look at the outdated notion of 'virginity' and how we can better talk about this concept in a way that is less hetero-centric, more inclusive (what about people who have no interest in sex, and might identify as asexual?) and with less focus on a single sexual act being perceived as something really important. Some of the questions that come up are: what do we think about the term 'sexual debut'; how important is the concept of virginity anyway; why the typical representation in popular culture and mainstream media etc.
Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support. Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/
Send us questions or comments to [email protected]
Thanks for listening!
Jenny + Justine
Next Episode
Special episode: Interview with friendships expert, Linda Stade
In this special episode, Justine interviews teacher and mentor Linda Stade about a topic that is super relevant to parents and children of all ages: friendships. Some of the topics covered are: parent engagement; how to skilfully help your child manage their friendships; are girls' friendships more complex and volatile than boys'?; girls and anxiety; the 'friendship cyclone' (a term created by Rebecca Sparrow); 'relational aggression'; advice to parents on when to step in and when to step back; parent as 'coach'; development and importance of empathy; how the pandemic has affected friendships and social development; online friendships during the pandemic; the importance of boredom, and what a 'friend' means.
Important links:
- Linda Stade, expert on friendship
- 'You know empathy is important but how can you teach it?' (Linda Stade)
- 'The weapon we need in the war on bullying' (Linda Stade)
- Kids Helpline (bullying page)
Check Linda's website above and find her on Facebook at Linda Stade - Education Writer
Please visit our website sexeducationaustralia.com.au where you can listen to our other episodes and also browse our pages for more resources, information and support. Primary resources are listed here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/resources-for-parents/ and secondary resources here: https://sexeducationaustralia.com.au/resources-2/secondary-resources/
Send us questions or comments to [email protected]
Thanks for listening!
Jenny + Justine
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