
The Attack on Blake Lively and Weaponized Distraction in Domestic Violence
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08/24/24 • 9 min
The Attack on Blake Lively and Weaponized Distraction in Domestic Violence
Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence is Discussed
On this Short Talk on Talks with Dr. Shafer, Dr Shafer explores the importance of our attention, using the timely discussion surrounding Blake Lively's media tour in support of her new film, It Ends with Us as an example of the cost of distraction. The world is in competition for our most precious resources: time and energy. The distraction surrounding Blake Lively and the important cause of bringing light to Domestic Violence victims and survivors is being overshadowed, less by the actions of the actress herself, but more by the overwhelming response to it. Dr Shafer highlights the tendency to vilify individuals who speak out about important issues as well as the tendency to vilify and criticize victims of domestic abuse themselves should they speak up about their lived traumatic experiences. Dr Shafer urges listeners to focus on supporting survivors of domestic abuse and how resources like the movie It Ends with Us can serve to bring attention to the issue so that we can begin to do the work to have the difficult conversations and make the world a safer place.
Keywords
#attention #blakelively #press #distraction #itendswithuse #price #resources #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #intimatepartnerviolence #survivors #villain #support #advocacy #podcast #physician #growth #story #storytelling takeaways
- Every choice we make is a trade-off, and we must consider the price of where we direct our attention.
- Survivors of domestic abuse often face vilification and ridicule when they speak out, creating further barriers to seeking safety.
- We should focus our energy on supporting survivors and using resources like movies to bring attention to important issues.
- We all have the opportunity to do better in how we view and discuss domestic abuse and support victims.
- The Price of Attention
- Vilification of Survivors
- "What's the price? We have to get in the habit of always asking, what is the price?"
- "She's vilified not for her efforts to bring light to the experience of women suffering from domestic violence."
- "Can we focus our energy on the fact that this movie exists, that so many people are bravely telling and sharing this story with the world?"
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You are not alone.
The US National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233
Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and build your most beautiful future.
You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, www.drshaferstedronova.com
and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.
This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.
Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.
All Rights Reserved.
Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse
The Attack on Blake Lively and Weaponized Distraction in Domestic Violence
Trigger Warning: Domestic Violence is Discussed
On this Short Talk on Talks with Dr. Shafer, Dr Shafer explores the importance of our attention, using the timely discussion surrounding Blake Lively's media tour in support of her new film, It Ends with Us as an example of the cost of distraction. The world is in competition for our most precious resources: time and energy. The distraction surrounding Blake Lively and the important cause of bringing light to Domestic Violence victims and survivors is being overshadowed, less by the actions of the actress herself, but more by the overwhelming response to it. Dr Shafer highlights the tendency to vilify individuals who speak out about important issues as well as the tendency to vilify and criticize victims of domestic abuse themselves should they speak up about their lived traumatic experiences. Dr Shafer urges listeners to focus on supporting survivors of domestic abuse and how resources like the movie It Ends with Us can serve to bring attention to the issue so that we can begin to do the work to have the difficult conversations and make the world a safer place.
Keywords
#attention #blakelively #press #distraction #itendswithuse #price #resources #domesticabuse #domesticviolence #intimatepartnerviolence #survivors #villain #support #advocacy #podcast #physician #growth #story #storytelling takeaways
- Every choice we make is a trade-off, and we must consider the price of where we direct our attention.
- Survivors of domestic abuse often face vilification and ridicule when they speak out, creating further barriers to seeking safety.
- We should focus our energy on supporting survivors and using resources like movies to bring attention to important issues.
- We all have the opportunity to do better in how we view and discuss domestic abuse and support victims.
- The Price of Attention
- Vilification of Survivors
- "What's the price? We have to get in the habit of always asking, what is the price?"
- "She's vilified not for her efforts to bring light to the experience of women suffering from domestic violence."
- "Can we focus our energy on the fact that this movie exists, that so many people are bravely telling and sharing this story with the world?"
We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Powerful Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!
You are not alone.
The US National Domestic Violence Hotline
1-800-799-7233
Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and build your most beautiful future.
You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, www.drshaferstedronova.com
and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.
This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.
Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.
All Rights Reserved.
Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse
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On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer welcomes Special Guest Eric Fisher, MS, CCC, author of The Martial Art of Recovery: Self-Mastery Practices to Subdue Addiction and Achieve Mental Wellness and certified counselor specializing in trauma, addiction, depression, and mental health. Eric Fisher shares his journey to becoming a counselor, his experiences with the FBI, and his work in addiction recovery. They also explore the role of shame in addiction and recovery, the importance of self-compassion and self-love, and the use of martial arts and accelerated resolution therapy in trauma healing. Fisher emphasizes the need for curiosity, connection, and prioritizing the self in the recovery process.
#counseling #trauma #addiction #recovery #shame #compassion #selflove #martialarts #book #author #counselor #therapy #ART #EMDR #ericfisher #recoveryartscounseling #talkswithdrshafer #physician #healing #growth #drshaferstedronova #podcast
Takeaways:
- Trauma and addiction often go hand in hand, with trauma being a significant factor in the development of addiction.
- Shame and self-criticism can be major barriers to recovery, and cultivating self-compassion and self-love is essential.
- Curiosity and a beginner's mind can help individuals explore their trauma and addiction experiences in a non-judgmental way.
- The use of martial arts and accelerated resolution therapy can be effective tools in trauma healing and addiction recovery.
- Prioritizing the self and connecting with others are crucial for healing and maintaining recovery.
Sound Bites:
- "Shame is often called spiritual suicide."
- "The energy with survival equaling the drug starts to become energy for these different techniques and ways of living."
- "Accelerated resolution therapy changes negative images to positive images in the brain."
Thank you to Eric Fisher, MS, CCC Counseling Therapist, for being on the show!
You can learn more about Eric Fisher on his website
www.recoveryartscounselling.com
Eric Fisher's book is available for purchase at
https://www.amazon.com/Martial-Art-Recovery-Self-Mastery-Practices/dp/1738196216
Follow Eric Fisher on Social Media:
Instagram & Facebook @recoveryartscounselling
LinkedIn linkedin.com/in/eric-m-fisher-5b83724a
We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Powerful Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!
Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and create your most beautiful future.
You can learn more about Dr Shafer on her website, www.drshaferstedronova.com,
and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.
This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.
Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.
All Rights Reserved.
Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse
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The Mindful Doctor's Coach on Yoga, Pivoting and Making an Impact
On this episode of Talks with Dr Shafer, Dr Shafer is joined by fellow physician Dr. Rachel Beanland, MD. Dr Beanland shares her journey of going into medicine and then realizing that she wanted to make a bigger impact globally. Through exploring mindfulness, yoga, and meditation, she found a way to make changes in her lifestyle and career that aligned with her authentic self. Dr. Beanland emphasizes the importance of self-reflection, questioning, and continuously editing our lives to live authentically and find fulfillment. Dr. Rachel Beanland and Dr. Shafer discuss the importance of activities like yoga and meditation as tools for self-care and resilience. They emphasize the connection between the mind and body and the need to bring mindfulness into daily life. Dr Shafer and Dr Rachel Beanland highlight the importance of starting small and finding simple habits that can be incorporated into daily routines. The conversation emphasizes the power of community and finding spaces where individuals can explore and learn safely. Dr. Beanland shares resources such as the Insight Timer app and her website for those interested in exploring yoga and meditation further.
#drrachelbeanland #authentictea #podcast #talkswithdrshafer #meditation #community #drshaferstedronova #podcast #yoga #recovery #pivot #physician #growth #mindset #femalephysician #storytelling
Thank you to Dr Rachel Beanland for being on the show. You can learn more about Dr Beanland at:
https://www.resilienceyoga.fr/
Follow the Authentic Tea Podcast here:
https://podcasts.apple.com/fr/podcast/authentic-tea-the-mindful-doctors-coach/id1547401163?l=en-GB
and on Youtube:
https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLVvs38GuaNxJV5cpHr8UJiFGJJiGESti8&si=kieSnoutskh-i8szSocial Media:
Instagram @dr_rachelbeanland
TikTok @mindful_doctors_coach
Facebook @rachel.beanland.5
We Hope You Enjoy Today’s Enlightening Episode. Please Like And Subscribe To Get The Next Inspiring, Growth-Focused Episode Of Talks With Dr Shafer, And Comment, Follow And Rate The Podcast To Help Spread Dr Shafer's Message Of Growth, Healing, And Reclaiming Your Story To As Many People As Possible!
Talks with Dr Shafer is hosted by Neurologist, Mom, Life Coach, Musician and Author Shafer Stedron, MD, who is passionate about storytelling as a tool to help reclaim your story and build your most beautiful future.
You can learn more about Dr Shafer at
www.drshaferstedronova.com,
and follow Talks with Dr Shafer on Facebook @TalkswithDrShafer, Instagram @talks_with_dr_shafer, TikTok @DrShafer, Youtube @Talks with Dr Shafer, Spotify, Amazon Music, and Apple Music.
This episode does not offer individualized medical advice. Opinions discussed are for informational purposes only, and should not be considered medical advice.
Little House Of Dreams Entertainment, LLC, 2024.
All Rights Reserved.
Music Credit: Shafer Yost, Impulse
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