Get Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable with Ally Love

02/07/23 • 48 min

Ally Love is a multifaceted woman, pioneering the slash generation by wearing a multitude of hats. She is the CEO of Love Squad, a community organization empowering women; a Peloton instructor, Brooklyn Nets arena host; an inspiring speaker; and an Adidas global ambassador. Ally was born and raised in Miami, Florida, and moved to New York City (NYC) to pursue her dream of becoming a dancer. As a speaker and instructor, she has inspired audiences from major global corporations, including Google, JP Morgan, Amazon, Salesforce, and more. Ally has been featured in Vogue and the New York Times, has appeared on Good Morning America, and was a co-host at U.S. Open live show in 2022.

Curiosity and hunger are what drove Ally Love—curiosity of what’s next and the hunger of “I want to get to the point where I deserve to be.” She fought for her life from a young age. Her ambition to achieve more, combined with the desire to become a dancer, led her to move to NYC. She received a scholarship from Alvin Ailey, the international dance troupe, and graduated from Fordham University at Lincoln Center, NY. She later became a dancer for the New York Knicks, the professional basketball team based in Manhattan. She also performed with top-named artists such as Beyonce and Pitbull. But she still wanted more.

In her early days in NYC, Ally remembers that she struggled to make friends and adapt to the fast rhythm of the city. However, she did not step back, and she fought through those emotions. She got a modeling contract with Wilhelmina Models, start making money and friends, and learned to love NYC.

Her boyfriend (now husband), Andrew Haynes, encouraged her to tap into her love of reading. Ally admits that Dale Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People and How to Stop Worrying & Start Living are two key books in her life. These books have helped her understand herself and find her purpose in her early days in NYC, as well as recently when she needed to battle a stressful and busy year flying between NYC, where her full-time job is, and London, where she was recording a show for Netflix.

One of the core principles she has grown to believe is that we must be comfortable being uncomfortable. Her mom offered additional advice. “If you're uncomfortable, take a beat. Listen—you're learning something. It doesn't mean run. It doesn't mean change. It doesn't mean leave! So, anyone who's dealing with that fear of what’s next, or fear of making a transition . . . take a beat. Stay where you are. Be steadfast.”

Ally’s high energy, positive attitude, and desire to explore new things earned her a well-rounded knowledge of sports, fashion, public speaking, wellness, and activism. While she admits she’s never taken a course in business or leadership, she has learned to manage her team and business through experience, lots of hard work, and by loving her many jobs.

Her style of leadership is grounded in understanding how to lead from the inside and grow and achieve goals together. Ally believes leaders should be able to bring out the best in people, figure out who's the best in a specific area, and let them do what they do well.

This episode's Thought Leadership Spotlight segment features Liz Haberberger, President of Dale Carnegie Missouri. Liz’s enthusiasm and passion aren’t easily matched. Her number one rule in life is to have fun. If it’s not fun, she’s not doing it. She is at her best in front of a group or working to solve a complex business challenge.

Join us to learn how to take command of our lives, learn what we are good at, manage negative thoughts, overcome fear, and— grow and succeed— to get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Learn more about the new Take Command: A Dale Carnegie Book on takecommand.com

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Learn more about the new Take Command: A Dale Carnegie Book on takecommand.com

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Take Command of Your Thoughts, Your Relationships, and Your Future with Michael Crom & Joe Hart

Happy New Year!

Our first episode of 2023 is dedicated to Dale Carnegie & Associates' newest book, Take Command. The book, like our podcast, focuses on what professionals in the modern world can do to take command and succeed in their personal and professional lives. Our guests today are the book co-authors: Joe Hart, President & CEO of Dale Carnegie & Associates and Take Command Podcast host; and Michael Crom, author, Board member of Dale Carnegie & Associates, and Dale Carnegie's grandson. In this interview, Joe & Michael illustrate how building self-confidence, enhancing our network of support, and becoming more intentional can help us succeed in 2023.

The episode is dedicated to a behind-the-scenes look at the creation of the Take Command book. It is a compilation of real-life stories. The use of Dale’s principles and other leadership philosophies will serve as a manual to take command of our lives.

Our guests have been influenced by Dale Carnegie’s principles. Joe started his career as a practicing attorney. After taking the Dale Carnegie Course, he reassessed his career path and founded an innovative e-learning company. He became the CEO of Dale Carnegie, the global professional development training organization, in 2015. He speaks around the world on leadership, culture, change management, resilience, creativity, and innovation. He is a contributor to Rolling Stone magazine, Newsweek, HR.com, and Forbes magazine. In 2019, the CEO Forum Group awarded him the Transformative CEO Leadership Award. He has hosted the Take Command Podcast since 2020. Michael is currently a board member of Dale Carnegie & Associates. Prior to that, he served in different leadership positions in the organization, most recently as Chief Learning Officer and Executive Vice President for Dale Carnegie & Associates.

In the episode, Michael & Joe share how they leverage the Dale Carnegie principles and apply them in different situations. Learn how to control our thoughts, build relationships, and envision our future. The book’s goal is to familiarize younger generations with core communication and leadership principles from Dale Carnegie and others.

Joe says that a fundamental purpose of this book is to offer readers some insights and learnings that he and Michael wish they had known when they were younger. The people interviewed and included in this book not only faced similar challenges as the authors did, but they thrived during that time period. This should become a guidebook for readers to follow, understand, and grab onto.

Michael & Joe conceived the book as a set of concentric circles, with each of the three sections—complementing and depending on each other.

In Part I, “Taking Command of Your Thoughts and Emotions,” the authors focus on self-awareness, stresses, fears, and insecurities, and ways to understand and manage negative thoughts.

Part II, “Taking Command of Your Relationships,” reviews building trustful relationships as a critical part of life success. Joe explains that today, building meaningful relationships has become more difficult because of our polarizing world. Part II principles and tips to deal with people come from How to Win Friends and Influence People.

The last section, Part III, “Taking Command of Your Future,” draws on the famous Dale Carnegie Course that asks participants to write their short- and long-term vision. When they follow through, they will ultimately get the most out of their lives. Part III asks: What are the things that are important to you? What are your values? How do you want to be remembered? What's the impact you want to have?

Both Joe and Michael want readers to act. Their goal is for this book to be a manual, a roadmap, and something that can activate people to really take control. It's not only there to help you think about your life, to study, or learn by research. The book says, “Hey, take command and make it happen.”

Also, Take Command is a guide to creating a “strength inventory.” The book influences readers and helps them build an intentional life. Intentionality is about giving people time and space to understand what’s important to them and how they can condition themselves for success so that every day, they become better and stronger. Having a North star helps us follow the steps to get us there.

Michael explains, “You know, we're made up of many great strengths and a few perceived weaknesses. So, let's begin to focus on those strengths, the positives that are going on in our life.”

Joe and Michael believe that young people can and will make a huge difference on this planet by bringing about unity rather than division. “Let's make a difference. Let's bring this to be a better place for all of us to live in.”

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Play the Game of Now with Suneel Gupta

Suneel Gupta is an accomplished entrepreneur and best-selling author whose mother immigrated to the United States from Pakistan. She secured a position as the first female engineer at Ford, and her inspiring story influenced Suneel's career trajectory. Suneel has helped thousands of individuals develop better habits and achieve success through his best-selling book, "Backable: The Surprising Truth Behind What Makes People Take a Chance on You." He is also the founding CEO of RISE, a company that partnered with then-First Lady Michelle Obama to provide affordable healthcare services to underserved communities. His start-up, which was named "App of the Year," was successfully sold to the NASDAQ-listed company One Medical. Additionally, Suneel serves as a Visiting Scholar at Harvard Medical School and as an Emissary for Gross National Happiness between the United States and the Kingdom of Bhutan. Suneel co-hosts a documentary podcast series with AmEx. Suneel's older brother is America's top medical correspondent for CNN, Dr. Sanjay Gupta.

Suneel grew up in the Detroit area. His mother's story of overcoming poverty in Pakistan and pursuing her dream of working for Ford in the USA inspired Suneel to embrace his mother’s rules of the "Game of Now," a philosophy that emphasizes taking action without waiting for the courage to arise. She also taught him that short-term embarrassment can lead to long-term success and that making mistakes is an essential aspect of growth.

Suneel notes that many successful companies, such as Airbnb, faced significant challenges before achieving success. He personally experienced the ups and downs of entrepreneurship, starting two unsuccessful companies before founding RISE. He believes that the key to success is learning from failures and continuing to move forward.It's great to see that Suneel approaches both winning and losing as opportunities for growth. Rather than creating a typical New Year resolution list, he focuses on what he can learn and how he can continue to grow. Suneel's desire to create a TV show about leadership and how it differs in different parts of the world, similar to Anthony Bourdain’s food show, is a great example of his curiosity and willingness to take on new challenges.

It's also interesting to see the impact that Dale Carnegie has had on Suneel and his family. His mother's positive experience with the Dale Carnegie course and the relationship and communication skills she acquired through it encouraged Suneel to take the course himself, leading to increased confidence and speaking skills that he applies in his career.

Join us and listen to Suneel’s leadership and life insights and take command of your thoughts, energy, and enthusiasm to become more successful.

In our Thought Leadership Spotlight, Phil Zeller's story about the power of positive thinking and doing our best is a great reminder that our mindset influences our success and opportunities for growth. By filling our minds with positive beliefs, we overcome our limitations.

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