38: Interview with the White Woman Whisperer

06/19/23 • 52 min

Racism. You may think you know what it is and in what ways it exists in our society, but it is a deep and multi-faceted topic. We could spend hours trolling the depths of language, attitudes, behaviors, and nuances that are influenced by race. We are attempting to explore and learn more in today’s show. I’m joined by Rebecca Slue, also known as the White Woman Whisperer. You may know her from TikTok, which is where I found her. We connected when I took an anti-racism course and reached out to her for help, and I’ve already learned a lot from her. Join us for more from Rebecca’s perspective.

Show Highlights:

An example of how KC got into a quandary over comments on social media and the fear of being labeled as a racist
How amazing conversations are happening when we aren’t concerned about perfectionism in our words
What we need to understand about white supremacy
How Rebecca uses a caste system model of values to understand the behaviors that perpetuate white supremacy
Why our understanding of anti-racism is a journey and not a destination
Rebecca’s experience of racial identity as she grew up the child of Jewish and Jamaican parents
How Rebecca’s experience played out when she entered corporate America
How she became the White Woman Whisperer
How racism created a holistic layer of chronic stress for Rebecca
How Rebecca uses a metaphor to explain white fragility, white privilege, and the pinata of white supremacy

Resources and Links:

Connect with Rebecca: Website and Podcast, Instagram, TikTok

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Show Highlights:

An example of how KC got into a quandary over comments on social media and the fear of being labeled as a racist
How amazing conversations are happening when we aren’t concerned about perfectionism in our words
What we need to understand about white supremacy
How Rebecca uses a caste system model of values to understand the behaviors that perpetuate white supremacy
Why our understanding of anti-racism is a journey and not a destination
Rebecca’s experience of racial identity as she grew up the child of Jewish and Jamaican parents
How Rebecca’s experience played out when she entered corporate America
How she became the White Woman Whisperer
How racism created a holistic layer of chronic stress for Rebecca
How Rebecca uses a metaphor to explain white fragility, white privilege, and the pinata of white supremacy

Resources and Links:

Connect with Rebecca: Website and Podcast, Instagram, TikTok

Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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37: Technology Aids for ADHD with Kat Hunt

Technology can be challenging for those with ADHD, and I’ll admit that I’ve struggled at times in this area. If you are someone who responds better to tactile and visual learning, you can probably relate. There are many tools and hacks available to help with executive functioning issues, and I’m excited to learn more in today’s show. I’m joined by technology expert Kat Hunt, who is raising a neurodivergent daughter. Let’s learn more about technological aids that can be helpful for ADHD. Join us!

Show Highlights:

Three specific areas in which neurodivergent struggle and technologies that can help:
Time blindness
Solutions: Apps like Calendly, Artful Agenda, and Taskly
Data loss/overwhelm
Solution: Migrating events/tasks into Google Calendar
Dopamine-seeking or dopamine-resisting behaviors
Solution: Forest app
Why mobile access to these tools is preferable over a physical tool, especially for those who travel or move from home to office frequently
How Kat uses Alexa technology to her advantage in time management with her family and at her office
How the Due app forces you to pay attention to notifications for events and tasks
How parents can use Alexa features with neurodivergent kids to increase independence and self-efficacy while still having parental structure in place

Resources and Links:

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39: Life Coaching: the Good, the Bad, & the Ugly

Coaching is an interesting field with many nuances, and we hear a LOT of buzz about coaching right now. There are coaches for literally EVERY aspect of life. While there are things to appreciate about the field of coaching, there are definitely things to look out for, as well. I’m joined by my good friend, Heidi Smith, who is a Licensed Professional Counselor.

In Part 2 of this conversation, I’m joined by Rachel Ambrose for a coach’s perspective. Rachel is a coach for neurodivergents who has been diagnosed with ADHD and autism. As someone who holds multiple coaching certifications, she is here to give us a better look at the coaching field. She talks about the bounds of coaching and her personal experience around green and red flags in the industry. Rachel shares tips to help people know how to find a helpful coach and be more knowledgeable about the coaching field.

Show Highlights:

How Heidi partners with clients and coaches in her counseling work
Why there are legitimate questions about the training and oversight in the coaching field
Why coaching is, by definition, a less intimidating relationship than with a therapist but is like “paying for a friend”
How coaching and therapy embody very different relationships, lanes, and ethics
What to consider in questions about licensure and certifications
The ethical rabbit hole around the client’s relationship with therapists and coaches
Why the coaching field is like the Wild West right now
Pitfalls in the coaching industry around sexual integrity, case management, interventions, and narcissism
KC’s experience in researching ADHD coaching
The vagueness around a “spirituality coach”
The bottom line about coaching: “Do your research and be aware of potential drawbacks.”
Part 2 from Rachel Amrose:
Green and red flags around coaching around the following:
Power dynamics in the relationship
“I have the cure/the magical answer for your problem!”
Concrete, actionable items
How to know if a coach’s training is worthwhile or not
How to gauge a coach’s willingness to refer out–and stay in their lane

Resources and Links:

Connect with Rachel Ambrose: Website

Get KC’s book, How to Keep House While Drowning

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