07: Teaser: When Creators Collide
10/31/22 • 28 min
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I’m offering up an appetizer–because today’s show is a teaser for an upcoming two-part episode. Disagreements, conflicts, and drama are part of normal life, but there CAN be mutual respect and understanding at the same time.
I’m talking with Kate Leggett, a student in her final semester of graduate school to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. Kate uses her TikTok channel to help restore relationships, and we became aware of each other because of a video exchange on TikTok. Our relationship certainly didn’t begin well, but we are making strides in communicating with respect and understanding around disagreements and conflicts. Come along as we model real-life conflict, relationships, and reconciliation. Join us for a closer look!
Show Highlights:
- How Kate felt the need to fill in the gray area in relationships around boundaries and toxic relationships
- How online interactions can be transactional, personal, and very different with someone with whom you have a prior relationship
- A look at the TikTok videos that started the interaction between Kate and KC–and the thoughts behind the comments
- How people hold conflict in different and vulnerable ways
- How KC and Kate made space for deeper conversations around their conflict
- The difficulties around communication and conflict in the social media space
- An overview of Kate’s podcast, RR The Podcast, which you can find on YouTube and Spotify (Part 1 of Kate and KC’s conversation is up now!)
- Kate’s perspective on the much-used phrase, “You teach people how to treat you.”
- How to listen to the rest of our “respectful drama”
Resources:
Connect with Kate: Website, TikTok, Podcast
Connect with KC: TikTok and Instagram
Get KC's Book, How to Keep House While Drowning
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
I’m offering up an appetizer–because today’s show is a teaser for an upcoming two-part episode. Disagreements, conflicts, and drama are part of normal life, but there CAN be mutual respect and understanding at the same time.
I’m talking with Kate Leggett, a student in her final semester of graduate school to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. Kate uses her TikTok channel to help restore relationships, and we became aware of each other because of a video exchange on TikTok. Our relationship certainly didn’t begin well, but we are making strides in communicating with respect and understanding around disagreements and conflicts. Come along as we model real-life conflict, relationships, and reconciliation. Join us for a closer look!
Show Highlights:
- How Kate felt the need to fill in the gray area in relationships around boundaries and toxic relationships
- How online interactions can be transactional, personal, and very different with someone with whom you have a prior relationship
- A look at the TikTok videos that started the interaction between Kate and KC–and the thoughts behind the comments
- How people hold conflict in different and vulnerable ways
- How KC and Kate made space for deeper conversations around their conflict
- The difficulties around communication and conflict in the social media space
- An overview of Kate’s podcast, RR The Podcast, which you can find on YouTube and Spotify (Part 1 of Kate and KC’s conversation is up now!)
- Kate’s perspective on the much-used phrase, “You teach people how to treat you.”
- How to listen to the rest of our “respectful drama”
Resources:
Connect with Kate: Website, TikTok, Podcast
Connect with KC: TikTok and Instagram
Get KC's Book, How to Keep House While Drowning
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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06: Is Too Much Self-Compassion a Bad Thing? with Dr. Lesley Cook
In our first episode, you heard my conversation with Dr. Lesley Cook about executive functioning. Because she has so much great information and wisdom to share, I decided to bring her back to discuss self-compassion. Is it a bad thing to have TOO MUCH self-compassion? Join us for the conversation with Dr. Lesley!
Dr. Lesley Cook is a psychologist who does a lot of work with ADHD and other neurodivergencies. Born and raised in Hawaii, she now lives in Virginia and works with children, adolescents, adults, couples, and families.
Show Highlights:
- How to find the balance between the message of self-compassion and the need for better life management and progress
- A basic understanding of self-compassion from Dr. Kristin Neff’s writings
- A closer look at shame and how we experience it in relation to self-compassion
- How to gently shift shame into self-compassion
- How self-compassion can become a learned behavior that we pass down to our children
Resources:
Connect with Dr. Lesley: TikTok and Instagram
Connect with KC: TikTok and Instagram
Get KC's Book, How to Keep House While Drowning
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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08: When Creators Collide, Part II with Kate Leggett
If you joined us for Episode 7, you heard the beginning of my series with Kate. If not, you can listen to Part 1 on the Restoring Relationships Podcast. Kate and I met because of our differing viewpoints as we interacted through TikTok videos. We have since taken the time for discussion, proving that disagreements, conflicts, and drama are part of normal life that should be approached with mutual respect and understanding.
I’m continuing the conversation with Kate Leggett, a student in her final semester of graduate school to be a Marriage and Family Therapist. Kate uses her TikTok channel to help restore relationships. Even though our relationship didn’t begin well, we are making strides in communicating with respect and understanding around disagreements and conflicts. The ability to gain a fresh perspective and engage with another person in the face of disagreement is an important topic in today’s world! Listen in and be the “fly on the wall” as we model real-life conflict, relationships, and reconciliation. Join us for a closer look!
Show Highlights:
- Why KC’s initial reaction to Kate was aggravation
- The idea behind KC’s context: “How people treat you when they are angry is more revealing than how they treat you when they are happy.”
- The idea behind Kate’s context: “Anger isn’t necessarily the issue, but the lack of repair after the anger is the issue.”
- What our backgrounds and upbringings teach us about anger, hurt, abuse, relationships, and our worthiness
- Why it’s different trying to communicate to the masses, like online, rather than on a one-to-one basis in a relationship
- What Kate wishes she had done differently in her initial exchange with KC
- Why we should be able to expect creators, especially those with expertise, to be accountable for their words
- Why it’s tricky to make mental health content on social media
- Why therapy content can’t replace in-person therapy
- Thoughts on relationship boundaries, “gray areas,” and why “people are not disposable”
- The difference in “Setting boundaries” vs. “Being boundaried”
Resources:
Connect with Kate: Website, TikTok, Podcast
Connect with KC: TikTok and Instagram
Get KC's Book, How to Keep House While Drowning
Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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