Breaking Free Together: Overcoming Addiction in Marriage | Kris & Adrian | #59
11/13/23 • 57 min
Kris and Adrian Maiava join Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to talk about their
experience in meeting with Dr. Liz Hale. They talk about their experience in coming together
through therapy and overcoming addiction.
About Kris and Adrian Maiava:
Kris and Adrian met in Utah although they grew up in Hawaii and Australia. They share an
incredible story of working through struggles and addictions, separations and learning to love
and trust again. After three years in an intensive treatment program, Kris learned things about
himself and his marriage that changed his life. And Adrian learned patience and experienced
tremendous growth as she hung on to hope and learned to forgive. Together they have grown
stronger than ever and enjoy parenting their 5 year old daughter Lola.
Insights:
- “I guess some questions to ask yourselves as to you know, do you still want to be partners with them, with your significant other? Do you still want to do this with them? If so, if yes. And if they want to as well, then I think it's worth it.” - Kris Maiava
- “Better choices lead to better chances.” -Dave Schramm
- “But there was a point in your life where you decided, this is the person that I want to do life
with. So that should be the person that you offer the most grace to.” -Adrian Maiava
Invites:
- If you are struggling with addiction, seek outside help.
- Have a 10 minute discussion with your partner about something that is challenging your
relationship and find a way to overcome it together
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
StrongerMarriage.org
podcast.strongermarriage.org
Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642
Dr. Liz Hale:
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
Strongermarriage.org
Podcast.stongermarriage.org
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Dr. Liz Hale:
http://www.drlizhale.com
Kris and Adrian Maiava join Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to talk about their
experience in meeting with Dr. Liz Hale. They talk about their experience in coming together
through therapy and overcoming addiction.
About Kris and Adrian Maiava:
Kris and Adrian met in Utah although they grew up in Hawaii and Australia. They share an
incredible story of working through struggles and addictions, separations and learning to love
and trust again. After three years in an intensive treatment program, Kris learned things about
himself and his marriage that changed his life. And Adrian learned patience and experienced
tremendous growth as she hung on to hope and learned to forgive. Together they have grown
stronger than ever and enjoy parenting their 5 year old daughter Lola.
Insights:
- “I guess some questions to ask yourselves as to you know, do you still want to be partners with them, with your significant other? Do you still want to do this with them? If so, if yes. And if they want to as well, then I think it's worth it.” - Kris Maiava
- “Better choices lead to better chances.” -Dave Schramm
- “But there was a point in your life where you decided, this is the person that I want to do life
with. So that should be the person that you offer the most grace to.” -Adrian Maiava
Invites:
- If you are struggling with addiction, seek outside help.
- Have a 10 minute discussion with your partner about something that is challenging your
relationship and find a way to overcome it together
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
StrongerMarriage.org
podcast.strongermarriage.org
Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642
Dr. Liz Hale:
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
Strongermarriage.org
Podcast.stongermarriage.org
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Dr. Liz Hale:
http://www.drlizhale.com
Previous Episode
Parenting With Purpose: Family Life Coaching for a Brighter Future | Dr. Kim Allen | #58
Dr. Kim Allen joins Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to talk about Family Life Coaching.
She talks about what it is, what it isn't, and even a few examples and stories of clients she's
worked with.
About Kim Allen:
Dr. Kimberly Allen is Interim Associate Dean and Director of Academic Programs and Professor in the College of Agriculture and Life Sciences at North Carolina State University, as well as CO creator of the family life coaching Association, and co-owner of Sweet Gestalt LLC. Dr. Ellen has over 20 years experience working with youth and their families. Her research interests include family life coaching, student success, parenting and relationship Education. Dr. Ellen is author of the book “Theory, Research and Practical Guidelines for Family Life Coaching.”
Insights:
“So really at its core family life coaching is taking what we know in Family Science about what's good in couple relationships, what's good and family relationships and partnering that with the process from coaching psychology.” - Dr. Kimberly Allen
“You said the words listening for instead of listening to. You listen for feelings, you're listening
for strengths, and just trying to see things from their perspective” - Dr. Dave Schramm
Invites:
- Learn more about Family Life Coaching on the FLC Association’s website.
- Consider reaching out to a Family Life Coach to help you to improve your interpersonal
relationships.
Kim Allen’s Links:
Organization Website: flcassociation.org
Personal Website: drkimallen.com
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
StrongerMarriage.org
podcast.strongermarriage.org
Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642
Dr. Liz Hale:
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
Strongermarriage.org
Podcast.stongermarriage.org
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Dr. Liz Hale:
http://www.drlizhale.com
Next Episode
Managing Money in Marriage | Ryan Law #2 | #60
Ryan Law joins Dr. Dave Schramm and Dr. Liz Hale to discuss managing money within
strong marriages. He talks about the importance of assuming the best and the 5 Money Habits
to financial success.
About Ryan Law:
Ryan Law is the Director of the Utah Valley University (UVU) Money Success Center. He is an
award-winning educator who teaches the Financial Counseling courses as part of the Personal
Financial Planning program at UVU. Ryan is a Certified Financial PlannerTM professional (CFP®)
and an Accredited Financial Counselor (AFC®). Ryan is the author of the books, “Student Loan
Planning,” “Make Positive Changes” and co-editor of the book “Financial Counseling.” Ryan and his wife, Traci, have been married for 24 years and they live in Utah county with their 5 children.
Insights:
- “I would encourage couples to do two things. First, to not assume bad intent on your spouse's part. And second, to wait until you have all of the facts.” - Ryan Law
- “Those who give and find a way to give in a way that they both agree to are healthier, happier, and even richer.” -Dr. Liz Hale
- “Nobody wins really, as soon as it erupts and it becomes emotional when you get defensive and name calling everything you had just doesn't just does not go well” -Dr. Dave Schramm
Invites:
- Think of an experience when you had wrong assumptions about the way that they spent
money and think about what you could do differently next time to assume the best. - Join Ryan Law’s email list to learn about more tips that will help you to master the money side of your marriage
Ryan’s Links:
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
StrongerMarriage.org
podcast.strongermarriage.org
Facebook: StrongerMarriage.org
Instagram: @strongermarriagelife
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DrDaveUSU
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Facebook Parenting Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/542067440314642
Dr. Liz Hale:
Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:
Strongermarriage.org
Podcast.stongermarriage.org
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/
Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579
Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/
Dr. Dave Schramm:
Dr. Liz Hale:
http://www.drlizhale.com
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