55. I Got Dressed Up for Him… And His Response Was NOT It | Coaching Call with Jenna
02/19/25 • 35 min
Ever put in the effort to feel sexy for your partner, only to feel totally unseen? That’s exactly what happened to Jenna. She got all dressed up, expecting a reaction that never came. Instead, she got a casual “You look cute.” And just like that... BAM—hurt feelings, a major argument, and a downward spiral of insecurity.
But here’s the twist—Jenna and her boyfriend actually started working through it before our session. And in this coaching call, we go even deeper. We unpack covert expectations, the anxious-avoidant cycle, and how to communicate your needs without setting yourself up for disappointment.
You might want to listen if:
- You’ve ever felt rejected or unappreciated in your relationship
- You struggle to communicate your needs without it turning into a fight
- You feel like your partner just doesn’t get it when it comes to emotional connection
- You catch yourself overanalyzing your partner’s reactions and spiraling into self-doubt
- You want to feel more secure, confident, and heard in your relationship
FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member for only $97 a month!
- Join our Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.
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Ever put in the effort to feel sexy for your partner, only to feel totally unseen? That’s exactly what happened to Jenna. She got all dressed up, expecting a reaction that never came. Instead, she got a casual “You look cute.” And just like that... BAM—hurt feelings, a major argument, and a downward spiral of insecurity.
But here’s the twist—Jenna and her boyfriend actually started working through it before our session. And in this coaching call, we go even deeper. We unpack covert expectations, the anxious-avoidant cycle, and how to communicate your needs without setting yourself up for disappointment.
You might want to listen if:
- You’ve ever felt rejected or unappreciated in your relationship
- You struggle to communicate your needs without it turning into a fight
- You feel like your partner just doesn’t get it when it comes to emotional connection
- You catch yourself overanalyzing your partner’s reactions and spiraling into self-doubt
- You want to feel more secure, confident, and heard in your relationship
FIND OUT MORE!
- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member for only $97 a month!
- Join our Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.
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- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.
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- Apply for FREE Coaching with Jenn
- Become a Relationship Reboot Member for only $97 a month!
- Join our Community! Speak Honest Facebook Group 🧡
- Schedule your Free 30 min Attachment Assessment with Jenn Today!
- Watch Jenn on the 🔴 TEDx Stage!
- Download your free Workbook: Dance of Attachment
- Visit www.speak-honest.com to learn more
- Follow Jenn on Instagram: @speak_honest
- Like the episode? Please write a review, your words help others find us!
DISCLAIMER: Speak Honest podcast content is informational, not professional or medical advice. Jenn is an ICF relationship coach, not a licensed therapist. Consult health professionals for specific concerns. Client opinions do not reflect Speak Honest’s stance. We aim for accuracy but are not liable for errors or outcomes from this information.
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