Who You Think You “Should” Be vs. Who You Are
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04/14/25 • 43 min
On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about the "shoulds." They discuss how the "shoulds" or certain, specific expectations of ourselves connect to control, anxiety, and depression, battling the "shoulds" when other people are in a phase of life you envy, why comparison is so innate, what to do when others have expectations for you or of you, what it actually means to "be ready" for something, the "shoulds" of parenting, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:15 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
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On this week's episode of ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about the "shoulds." They discuss how the "shoulds" or certain, specific expectations of ourselves connect to control, anxiety, and depression, battling the "shoulds" when other people are in a phase of life you envy, why comparison is so innate, what to do when others have expectations for you or of you, what it actually means to "be ready" for something, the "shoulds" of parenting, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:15 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group!
Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Headspace: Go to Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days
Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout
Pretty Litter: Go to prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy
Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks
Mint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order
Spot & Tango: go to spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order
Previous Episode
Why Do We Get Authenticity Hangovers?
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee and Jen are talking all about vulnerability and why being vulnerable can feel so good...until it doesn’t. They discuss vulnerability, rejection, and self-protection, where the fear of being seen can stem from, authenticity and the fear of judgment, corrective experiences to regain trust, how to work on vulnerability in therapy, real vulnerability vs. unbridled self-expression, how to discern who is safe to be vulnerable around, and so much more! Tune in to gain insight, awareness, and action! PS: Fast forward to around 8:40 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group!
Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Headspace: Go to Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days
Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout
Factor: Get started at factormeals.com/FACTORPODCAST and use code FACTORPODCAST to get 50% off your first box plus free shipping
Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks
Mint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order
Spot & Tango: go to spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order
Next Episode
Sometimes The Goal is Just Survival
This week on ShrinkChicks, Emmalee shares a recent experience that reminded her that we are allowed to just survive and that we don’t have to constantly work toward "healing" or "growing." Em and Jen talk about radical acceptance, burnout, living in the present moment, shame spirals, control, and so much more. Tune in to hear their humanity and for permission that we're all allowed to take breaks from progressing and doing "better" or "more" to simply live. PS: Fast forward to around 7:45 to skip the intro and get straight to today’s content.
Get Matched With One of Our Therapists at The Therapy Group!
Our Know Yourself Grow Yourself Journal!!
Check out ShrinkChicks on YouTube by subscribing here! https://youtube.com/channel/UCrxuhDqoL4ML3UE8b2J2BBg
A special thank you to this week's sponsors for supporting ShrinkChicks! We have these exclusive offers for our listeners:
Headspace: Go to Headspace.com/SHRINKCHICKS60 to unlock all of Headspace FREE for 60 days
Wildgrain: Get $30 off your first box - PLUS free croissants in every box - when you go to Wildgrain.com/SHRINKCHICKS to start your subscription or use code SHRINKCHICKS at checkout
Pretty Litter: Go to prettylitter.com/SHRINKCHICKS to save 20% on your first order and get a free cat toy
Prose: See the difference custom care can make with 50% off your first haircare subscription order at prose.com/shrinkchicks
Mint Mobile: Shop plans at mintmobile.com/shrinkchicks
Quince: Go to quince.com/shrinkchicks for free shipping and 365-day returns on your next order
Spot & Tango: Go to spotandtango.com/shrinkchicks and use code SHRINKCHICKS to get 50% off your first order
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