HOST JACKIE TANTILLO - She Demands a lot From Those Closest To Her with Guest Career Coach And Counselor Sophee Payne
03/29/22 • 27 min
Deborah, Sophee's mother, "is in her own world and she's happy there and I come in and out of that world and that's ok," continues Payne who's never felt that she's had to live near to her parents. Payne is comfortable saying, "I care for them deeply, I just feel that closeness to them is not a priority." A Florida native, now living in Vancouver, CA, Sophee is happily ensconced in her full time career, helping other's fulfill their dreams.
After six years, getting straight A's and doing all that she was 'supposed to do,' completing her bachelors degree and getting a Master's Degree in Industrial Design, she realized that she wasn't happy. My guest loved the design work but really missed the one one one interaction with people.
After watching her mother struggle in an attempt to start her own business and fail, Sophee felt so much 'self doubt' that she never thought she'd be capable of starting her own. Again, interesting dynamics between the two women often got in the way. Payne feels that her mom likes having people around so they can do things for her that she doesn't necessarily like to do. "She demands a lot from the people closest to her," admits Sophee. "I think of her as a sun, even from a distance I can feel this warmth, she gives direction, but at the same time, the closer you get the more uncomfortably warm you get and also the more you're kind of forced to evolve around her," reflects Payne.
Sophee is comfortable saying what works for her now regarding her relationship with her mom. It's about "showing my mom compassion, compassion with boundaries."
WEBSITE: BEST LIFE COACH COLLECTIVE
https://bestlifecoachcollective.com/coach/sophee-payne/
PERSONAL WEBSITE:
Discover More
https://www.instagram.com/sopheepaynecareercoaching/
https://www.sopheepayne.com/blog
https://www.tiktok.com/@purposewithmoney
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.
Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:
SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024
“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”
Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.
Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.
This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.
I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.
Gina Kunadian
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship.
Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.
Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.
A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who crea...
Deborah, Sophee's mother, "is in her own world and she's happy there and I come in and out of that world and that's ok," continues Payne who's never felt that she's had to live near to her parents. Payne is comfortable saying, "I care for them deeply, I just feel that closeness to them is not a priority." A Florida native, now living in Vancouver, CA, Sophee is happily ensconced in her full time career, helping other's fulfill their dreams.
After six years, getting straight A's and doing all that she was 'supposed to do,' completing her bachelors degree and getting a Master's Degree in Industrial Design, she realized that she wasn't happy. My guest loved the design work but really missed the one one one interaction with people.
After watching her mother struggle in an attempt to start her own business and fail, Sophee felt so much 'self doubt' that she never thought she'd be capable of starting her own. Again, interesting dynamics between the two women often got in the way. Payne feels that her mom likes having people around so they can do things for her that she doesn't necessarily like to do. "She demands a lot from the people closest to her," admits Sophee. "I think of her as a sun, even from a distance I can feel this warmth, she gives direction, but at the same time, the closer you get the more uncomfortably warm you get and also the more you're kind of forced to evolve around her," reflects Payne.
Sophee is comfortable saying what works for her now regarding her relationship with her mom. It's about "showing my mom compassion, compassion with boundaries."
WEBSITE: BEST LIFE COACH COLLECTIVE
https://bestlifecoachcollective.com/coach/sophee-payne/
PERSONAL WEBSITE:
Discover More
https://www.instagram.com/sopheepaynecareercoaching/
https://www.sopheepayne.com/blog
https://www.tiktok.com/@purposewithmoney
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.
Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:
SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024
“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”
Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.
Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.
This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.
I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.
Gina Kunadian
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship.
Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.
Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.
A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who crea...
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HOST JACKIE TANTILLO - She Made me Feel Loved, Protected and Secure with Guest Children's Book Author Gramps Jeffrey
SHLTMM CAN NOW BE HEARD ON YOUTUBE:
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As I mention in the introduction of my show, Gramps Jeffrey, I believe is the first grandfather I've interviewed on SHLTMM, so that's pretty great. I was so happy to hear how engaged he is with his grandchildren.
Gramps' mother's name was Faye and she really left quite an impression on him and his brother. Faye was the youngest of 3 children, with two older brothers. Growing up during the Depression and WWII, known as The Greatest Generation, was a very challenging time, "and my mother lived up to every expectation", continues Gramps.
While raising her two boys, she insisted they turn off the tv and read-no if, ands or buts. "We loved our mother," says Gramps, referring to him and his brother. They grew up in a small town in Ohio, about 50 miles outside Columbus, where they were free to play outside and knew when to come home in time for dinner. He had relatives nearby as well, including lots of love and support from his grandmother and uncle.
Gramps brags, "mom always had a positive attitude. Her glass was always half full and she was always looking at the 'bright side of life." That philosophy and her passion of reading certainly influenced Gramps and his interest in writing. It's clearly stayed with him even today because he continues to write and read to his 6 grandchildren.
"Mom would remind us regularly that we were very fortunate and had a good life, but that we can't forget other people. This world is hard and she knew it," remarks Gramps. Faye had learned many life lessons from her paternal grandmother who lost her husband suddenly when he was only 49. She was left to raise her children on her own, including Fay's dad. She also raised her nephew who had also lost his parents. But her grandmother was always smiling regardless of her hardships.
Gramps Jeffrey is very concerned about the different parenting styles today. Most concerns him most and feels is most important for every child is 'one on one attention' from the parent. Gramps feels so blessed to have had such a devoted mother, and hopes that parents still take the time to put the phone down, turn the computer off and just sit and read or spend that precious time with your children.
Gramps' mom gave him such a sense of security. "We could always go home and feel secure, you felt love, you felt protected," remarks Gramps about his mom. One of his mom's favorite quotes was "when you love, you will teach others how to love."
Gramps Jeffrey is truly committed to sharing this message. He's got every little child on his mind in hopes that they get all the loving that they truly deserve.
Gramps Jeffrey is his pen name. His real name is Marc Joseph. Here is a link to his LinkedIn profile:
https://www.linkedin.com/in/marcjoseph/
Reviews of I Don't Want to Turn 3
Here are links to the site, Facebook, LinkedIn, Twitter, Instagram, Pinterest and the book on Amazon and Barnes & Noble:
https://www.facebook.com/Author-Gramps-Jeffrey-102652905388092/
https://www.linkedin.com/in/gramps-jeffrey-3b022b214/
https://twitter.com/AuthorGramps
https://www.instagram.com/authorgrampsjeffrey/
https://www.pinterest.com/hellogrampsjeffrey/_created/
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.
Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:
SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024
“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”
Jackie Tantillo’s “Shoul...
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HOST JACKIE TANTILLLO – She Never Told Us The Whole Story… with Guest CPA and Podcast Host Scott Gazzoli
Should Have Listened To My Mother Podcast (SHLTMM) is now available on YouTube @:
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCoUWxgQECqrMqI1ylVH9Dpw
It wasn't until two years ago that my guest, Scott Gazzoli, now 32, learned the truth about why his father suddenly disappeared back in 1995. When Scott was 5-6 yrs old, his dad suddenly vanished, leaving his mother, Caroline, to raise Scott and his younger sister Sable by herself in Brooklyn, NY. Caroline did everything possible to give her children what ever they wanted and needed. One could say, even if it meant using the Robin Hood Effect.
Scott Gizzoli is a successful financial advisor and podcast host of "Causing the Effect," a show covering philosophy/ psychology and helping others try and find their true self.
From his own personal experiences, Scott has learned about the downfalls of always doing what others want you to do, whether it's regarding your education, career choice, personal relationships, etc. He's done so many wonderful things, accomplished so much-above and beyond most of his contemporaries, however, he's learning now that he wants to live his own life and do what makes him happy and not what others want. "Being our true self is one of our biggest gifts we can give ourselves," say Gazzoli as he shares about his podcast and the special guests he has on the show. "No more living by other peoples expectations and perceptions."
Scott and his sister Sable, were fortunate to have a hard working Mom taking care of them. I can't wait for you to hear this interview and get to know their mom, Caroline.
Scott is a Managing Director with the Quest Organization, a boutique advisory firm that caters to the needs of High Net Worth Individuals and Families. Scott prides himself on his ability to create solutions and build relationships with his clients. Scott is also a comedian by night!
https://www.causingtheeffectpodcast.com/
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" is an ongoing conversation about mothers/female role models and the roles they play in our lives. Jackie's guests are open and honest and answer the question, are you who you are today because of, or in spite of, your mother and so much more. You'll be amazed at what the responses are.
Gina Kunadian wrote this 5 Star review on Apple Podcast:
SHLTMM TESTIMONIAL GINA KUNADIAN JUNE 18, 2024
“A Heartfelt and Insightful Exploration of Maternal Love”
Jackie Tantillo’s “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast is a treasure and it’s clear why it’s a 2023 People’s Choice Podcast Award Nominee. This show delves into the profound impact mother and maternal role models have on our lives through personal stories and reflections.
Each episode offers a chance to learn how different individuals have been shaped by their mothers’ actions and words. Jackie skillfully guides these conversations, revealing why guests with similar backgrounds have forged different paths.
This podcast is a collection of timeless stories that highlight the powerful role of maternal figures in our society. Whether your mother influenced you positively or you thrived despite challenges, this show resonates deeply.
I highly recommend “Should Have Listened To My Mother” Podcast for its insightful, heartfelt and enriching content.
Gina Kunadian
"Should Have Listened To My Mother" would not be possible without the generosity, sincerity and insight from my guests. In 2018/2019, in getting ready to launch my podcast, so many were willing to give their time and share their personal stories of their relationship with their mother, for better or worse and what they learned from that maternal relationship.
Some of my guests include Nationally and Internationally recognized authors, Journalists, Columbia University Professors, Health Practitioners, Scientists, Artists, Attorneys, Baritone Singer, Pulitzer Prize Winning Journalist, Activists, Freighter Sea Captain, Film Production Manager, Professor of Writing Montclair State University, Attorney and family advocate @CUNY Law; NYC First Responder/NYC Firefighter, Child and Adult Special Needs Activist, Property Manager, Chefs, Self Help Advocates, therapists and so many more talented and insightful women and men.
Jackie has worked in the broadcasting industry for over four decades. She has interviewed many fascinating people including musicians, celebrities, authors, activists, entrepreneurs, politicians and more.
A big thank you goes to Ricky Soto, NYC based Graphic Designer, who created the logo for "Should Have Listened To My Mother".
Check out our website for more background information: https://www.jackietantillo.com/
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