Listeners Share How Past Experiences Impact Adaptability

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04/09/25 • 17 min

In this episode of Shobukai Shift, listeners write in to tell their personal stories about why they struggle to deal with even small unexpected changes. In this introspective episode, host Mary Schaub delves into the deep-rooted origins of our emotional responses and the importance of self-reflection in personal transformation.

The episode explores how our past experiences, particularly from childhood, create "hardwired" emotional responses to unexpected changes. Through listener stories, Mary illustrates how individuals can recognize these patterns and work towards more mindful, adaptive behaviors.

Takeaways:

💡 Our reactions to unexpected changes often stem from past experiences and childhood conditioning

💡Self-awareness is crucial in understanding and evolving our emotional patterns

💡Personal growth is a continuous process of learning and adapting

💡Childhood experiences significantly shape our current behavioral responses

💡Being gentle with ourselves during the process of self-discovery is essential

Compelling Quotes:

🎤"We're all the authors and the main characters of the book we're writing about our lives."

🎤"No matter who you are or where you come from, we all have one thing in common. We're all going to be on this earth for a relatively short period of time."

🎤"Life is the process of figuring out the story you want to live, but we're all also figuring out who our main character is."

🎤"The live wire can be retired. It's not needed anymore."

Show Links:

🔥History of the World in 10 minutes (@melodysheep)🔥

🌟Timeline of World History (@UsefulCharts) 🌟

💜Scientists find heightened attention to surprise in veterans with PTSD - Virgina Tech - Dr. Chiu study 💜

Keywords:

✅ personal growth ✅life purpose ✅emotional resilience ✅childhood trauma

✅self-discovery ✅unexpected changes ✅mental health

✅personal transformation ✅psychological patterns

✅emotional intelligence

#PersonalGrowth #SelfDiscovery #MentalHealth #Transformation #Resilience #Mindfulness #EmotionalIntelligence #Healing #PersonalDevelopment #LifePurpose

Disclaimer:

***The information, opinions, and recommendations presented in this Podcast are for general information only and any reliance on the information provided in this Podcast is done at your own risk. This Podcast should not be considered professional advice.***

Credits: Written, produced and hosted by: Mary Schaub. Theme song written by: Mary Schaub. Mixing Engineer: Dylan Yauch

Contact: Tell us how your transformation is going. Email us at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at ‪(631) 371-3240‬ and we may play it on a future episode.

Website: M. Schaub Advisory (MSA)

** Shobukai Shift is a MSA Production **

Takeaways:

💡 Our reactions to unexpected changes often stem from past experiences and childhood conditioning

💡Self-awareness is crucial in understanding and evolving our emotional patterns

💡Personal growth is a continuous process of learning and adapting

💡Childhood experiences significantly shape our current behavioral responses

💡Being gentle with ourselves during the process of self-discovery is essential

Compelling Quotes:

🎤"We're all the authors and the main characters of the book we're writing about our lives."

🎤"No matter who you are or where you come from, we all have one thing in common. We're all going to be on this earth for a relatively short period of time."

🎤"Life is the process of figuring out the story you want to live, but we're all also figuring out who our main character is."

🎤"The live wire can be retired. It's not needed anymore."

Show Links:

🔥History of the World in 10 minutes (@melodysheep)🔥

🌟Timeline of World History (@UsefulCharts) 🌟

💜Scientists find heightened attention to surprise in veterans with PTSD - Virgina Tech - Dr. Chiu study 💜

Keywords:

✅ personal growth ✅life purpose ✅emotional resilience ✅childhood trauma

✅self-discovery ✅unexpected changes ✅mental health

✅personal transformation ✅psychological patterns

✅emotional intelligence

#PersonalGrowth #SelfDiscovery #MentalHealth #Transformation #Resilience #Mindfulness #EmotionalIntelligence #Healing #PersonalDevelopment #LifePurpose

Disclaimer:

Credits: Written, produced and hosted by: Mary Schaub. Theme song written by: Mary Schaub. Mixing Engineer: Dylan Yauch

Contact: Tell us how your transformation is going. Email us at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at ‪(631) 371-3240‬ and we may play it on a future episode.

Website: M. Schaub Advisory (MSA)

** Shobukai Shift is a MSA Production **

Previous Episode

Finding Awesome Goodness with 'Internet Dad' Rob Kenney

In this conversation, Mary Schaub interviews Rob Kenney, the creator of the popular YouTube channel 'Dad How Do I'. Rob shares his journey from being an introverted sales professional to becoming an internet dad figure for millions. He discusses his childhood experiences, the challenges of mental health in his family, and the impact of bullying on his self-worth. Rob emphasizes the importance of finding purpose, the role of faith and forgiveness in his life, and how he aims to empower others through teaching essential life skills. The conversation also touches on the influence of Mr. Rogers, the challenges of online criticism, and the legacy he hopes to leave behind.

Key Takeaways

💡Rob started his channel to help people with practical life skills but unexpectedly reached millions, becoming known as the "Internet Dad."

💡His childhood experiences of abandonment shaped his commitment to being present for others.

💡Rob emphasizes forgiveness as essential for personal healing, not just reconciliation with others.

💡He believes in the importance of authentic connection in a digital world focused on quick entertainment.

💡Rob shares both practical skills and wisdom, recognizing that fatherhood involves teaching both.

💡His approach to faith is embodied through service rather than preaching.

💡His L.I.F.E. acronym summarizes his philosophy: Learn, Individual gifts, Forgiveness, Embrace the journey.

Compelling Quotes

🎤"I think we long for a wholesome meal, but we settle for fast food because it's easy."

🎤"Forgiveness is setting a prisoner free and realizing the prisoner was you."

🎤"A dad is more than just Mr. Fix-it. Share your heart with your kids."

🎤"People don't care how much you know until they know how much you care."

🎤"I'd like to be remembered as a man after God's own heart."

🎤"Life is what happens while we're making other plans."

Keywords

✅Internet Dad ✅Rob Kenney ✅Dad How Do I ✅YouTube parenting

✅practical life skills ✅forgiveness ✅digital connection ✅fatherhood advice

✅healing ✅faith and service ✅authentic parenting ✅life wisdom

✅viral YouTube success

Hashtags

#InternetDad #DadHowDoI #DigitalParenting #LifeSkills #Forgiveness #AuthenticConnection #FatherhoodJourney #PracticalWisdom #ServiceToOthers #FindingPurpose #HealingJourney #FaithInAction

Links

🌟Dad, how do I YouTube channel

🌟Dad, how do I book

🙏 -Thanks to Rob Kenney 💜

Disclaimer:

Credits: Written, produced and hosted by: Mary Schaub. Theme song written by: Mary Schaub. Mixing Engineer: Dylan Yauch

Contact: Tell us how your transformation is going. Email us at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at ‪(631) 371-3240‬ and we may play it on a future episode.

Website: M. Schaub Advisory (MSA)

** Shobukai Shift is a MSA Production **

Next Episode

Reclaiming Your Creative Voice A Journey of Authenticity and Transformation with Deborah Zelasny

In this episode of Shobukai Shift, Mary engages in a heartfelt conversation with Deborah Zelazny, a writer and content creator. They explore their long-standing friendship, the challenges of teenage years, the impact of influential teachers, and the journey of self-discovery through writing and blogging. Deborah shares her experiences of navigating career changes, the importance of authenticity in content creation, and offers advice for aspiring writers. The discussion culminates in reflections on personal growth, the significance of kindness, and the power of following one's dreams. Warning: this episode may result in your dusting off that unfinished novel!

Takeaways:

💡Embrace continuous personal evolution and be willing to reinvent yourself

💡Support and encouragement are crucial in pursuing creative dreams

💡Authenticity matters more than external metrics of success

💡Creative pursuits often emerge from periods of personal challenge or grief

💡It's never too late to pursue your passions

💡Friendship can shape our identities and experiences.

💡Influential teachers can have a lasting impact on our lives.

💡Career choices often require sacrifices and adjustments.

💡Evolving as a content creator is essential for growth.

💡Writing is a journey that requires perseverance and self-belief.

Compelling Quotes:

🎤"To make a leap and do something outside the box is challenging"

🎤"What's the point of that gift that was given to you if you don't do anything with it?"

🎤"Stick to the authenticity... that's going to bring you the success and joy that you're really looking for"

Show Links:

🌸Beyond Jersey Momma 🌸

🐦‍⬛Jersey Momma Media🐦‍⬛

🔥Key of the Darkhouse book 🔥

💜Unlovable (The Smiths) 💜

Keywords:

✅creative writing ✅personal transformation ✅author journey ✅content creation ✅creative inspiration ✅career evolution ✅authentic storytelling ✅midlife creativity ✅writing process ✅personal growth

#CreativeJourney #AuthorLife #PersonalGrowth #CreativeInspiration #MidlifeCreativity #Authenticity #WritingCommunity #CareerEvolution #StorytellingJourney #CreativeDreams

Disclaimer:

Credits: Written, produced and hosted by: Mary Schaub. Theme song written by: Mary Schaub. Mixing Engineer: Dylan Yauch

Contact: Tell us how your transformation is going. Email us at [email protected] or leave us a voicemail at ‪(631) 371-3240‬ and we may play it on a future episode.

Website: M. Schaub Advisory (MSA)

** Shobukai Shift is a MSA Production **

Shobukai Shift - Listeners Share How Past Experiences Impact Adaptability

Transcript

Mary Schaub (00:00)

Hi, gentle warriors. How are you? Welcome to Shobakai Shift, where we talk about transformations that matter. Nothing too serious. Let's talk about how to navigate the process of finding meaning and purpose in life. You know, late and superficial stuff. Talking about befriending, conscious living, and evolving so that we might become the people we are meant to be. And maybe, just maybe, when we all do that, we find ourselves in a happier and healthier world.