Sextras

1:10-18:00 Segment: Your worst dating app stories

18:15 Which apps we've used-- what dating apps are there? Different dating apps explained

38:40 How to use dating apps well, how to improve dating app profile

47:00 Starting conversations on dating apps, good opening lines on dating apps + good questions to ask.

Welcome back to season 2 of Sextras! We're so excited to be back and can't wait for you to hear the episodes we have coming your way.

This week we're talk all about dating apps. We've both been doing some market research over the summer, and boy oh boy do we have some very strong opinions on how to use dating apps well and what not to do on dating apps. Listen in if you're just starting to use the apps and wondering how to approach dating apps, or if you're a seasoned user and wondering how to get better at dating apps.

We begin the episode with a segment—how we've missed hearing all of your submissions :') — where we hear your worst dating app date stories, from being blocked by someone because of your star sign to having absolutely nothing to talk about on a date.

We then delve into why we've used dating apps, and which ones we've used. We break down the purpose of dating apps, going through Hinge, Tinder, feeld, Bumble, and Positive Singles and discuss the positives of these dating apps, before launching into a very long debate about what to put on a dating app profile. Unsurprisingly, we've seen some absolutely shocking examples of dating app profiles over the years, and so we explain that we don't want to see any pictures of you at the gym, and that the key to a dating app profile is variety and showing some character.

We then switch to how to make conversations on dating apps, which can be really hard. If you've ever used a dating app we're sure you know how many people just message you 'hey,' and you exchange a few messages backwards and forwards before the conversation fizzles out. We try to cover what you should say in first messages on dating apps, and when the best time is to ask someone out.

We promise that, even though dating apps suck sometimes, there are some positives, and just like dating if you hack the formula for how to use them and making a good profile you can have a good time. It's all about your approach to dating, apps are just a way to facilitate these interactions.

Go forth, create your dating app profile, and thrive!

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Produced by Mable Productions

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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For the last time this season, and thus the last time for a while, we get together to talk about what's going on in our sex life and our relationships, and reflect on the ways the podcast has impacted us and our lives.

We open with an introduction detailing the cruel reality of what it means to run a podcast sometimes: a LOT of technical difficulties. This season finale seemed like a perfect opportunity to give our listeners some behind the scenes of podcasting. Or at least our experience, of what it is like to start a podcast in the last year of university. People always ask us, how much does podcasting cost? Or how hard is podcasting? How much work is podcasting? So we addressed some of the misconceptions of podcasting, as well as outlining how much work actually goes into a podcast.

We begin our episode of reflection by breaking down our expectations when coming into starting a podcast, in contrast to how we feel about it now. As well as reminiscing about where we were at the start of the pandemic and the podcast, in terms of our sex lives and our relationships, and comparing it to where we are now. We spend a lot of the episode reflecting upon our views about love and how they have changed. We're looking back with love, as we've realised that self reflection and growth go hand in hand. In order to keep progressing and to form our identities and find out who we want to be, we have to have self reflection and self awareness. We are not offering a 'self reflection, how to', but in looking back to where we started, and looking back fondly and inquisitively will allow us to keep learning.

Throughout our time doing the podcast, we haven't only grown ourselves, but the relationships to the people around us have strengthened too. We have learnt so much about how to open up in conversations, how to start up conversations, about sex and relationships, and all the intimate details that arise from those conversations, not only with strangers, but also with our friends and family, in particular our mums. Having so many guests, and opening up week after week about ourselves and our relationships provided us with plenty of examples of open conversations to then give us a guideline on how to start difficult conversations with our families and loved ones. Opening up is hard, and we are still working on it, but working on the podcast had provided a lot of clarity and practise in dealing with difficult conversations.

It truly is the end of an era for us, we finish university and are about to enter the real world, we completed a full year of weekly episodes and are concluding the first season of a podcast we love! We are truly so grateful to all our amazing guests for opening up to us and educating us, to our beautiful friends for supporting us, to our parents for believing in us and being forever open minded, and to our listeners, for all their submissions and for making all of this so much more valuable.

Go forth into this hot girl summer and have nothing but fun, we'll see you next season!

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Produced by Mable Productions

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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Welcome to 2023! The start of this year marks a lot of changes for us, as Maria is moving to Paris tomorrow so this is our last episode recorded in our beautiful studio :( to watch the episode in full go join our Patreon (you get a ton of other benefits too!)

In this episode we decided to have a look back at the things we learnt about sex and relationships in 2022, and what our relationship and sex goals are for the coming year, as well as doing a brief and questionable ins and outs list of our dating prediction for 2023.

We start the episode talking about Honey’s year of no sex and what the benefits have been. She’s in two minds about her celibacy era, wanting both to leave it behind and also feeling very comfortable in it, so we discuss everything she’s learnt about herself from her boundaries to crushing on people unlike ever before in her life. We also discuss how Honey’s feelings about men have affected her dating habits in 2022 and that she wants to really embrace her bisexuality and date more women in 2023.

Maria obviously has very different sex goals for 2023 than Honey, mainly because she’s actually having sex and is about to move in with her boyfriend so she’ll be having a lot more, so we discuss what those are and also what she’s learnt from the past year of being in a long distance relationship.

Finally, we end the episode discussing our impromptu ins and outs list for dating and sex in 2023, including everyone spontaneously deleting dating apps to more people eloping.

We’d love to hear if you have any sex and dating goals for 2023, or if you have any ideas about what might be general trends. You can get in touch with us at [email protected], on TikTok, Facebook or Instagram @sextraspodcast, or join our Patreon to continue having conversations we have on the pod. We can’t wait for what the year has to bring, we’ll see you soon for our pleasure miniseries!!

Produced by Mable Productions

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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This week we’re talking all about social media— the good and the bad, and particularly how it affects our relationships with ourselves and our most important relationship- ourselves!

We begin the episode with a segment where we hear from your guys’ feelings about social media, including whether you like it overall and what you hate the most about it. Mostly, people seem to hate that social media is often a facade, or a presentation of the best parts of our lives, so we talk about how that aspect of social media can be extremely damaging to our mental health and our self esteem.

We then move on to discussing social media and relationships, attempting to answer the questions that are most often asked when it comes to dating and social media, such as if your partner should post you on their social media, and if so when, and if they’re not what it means. We also discuss the different ways couples showcase their relationships on different social media apps, and express why we prefer TikTok as a platform because of its video format.

Then, we tell you guys a bit about our personal social media consumption and how it affects our mental health, and attempt to give some tips for how to use social media, or at least how to manage your outlook when constantly taking in hundreds of peoples’ lives in order to stay grounded in your own.

Social media definitely has its dangers and disadvantages, but if you’re smart about your outlook on it and don’t place an extreme amount of importance on it, you might save your mental health and get a bit of entertainment along the way, too.

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Produced by Mable Productions

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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A patriarchy is a system of society or government in which men hold the power and women are largely excluded from it. The bad news is, we live in a patriarchy. And what are the effects of the patriarchy? In this weeks segment we asked how the patriarchy affects your daily lives, from from being able to wear certain clothes, to being told to ‘smile more’, to being too scared to travel alone. We discuss how much we relate to a lot of daily occupancy of inequality, and how sad it is that we do.

There are many problems with the patriarchy, and infinite ways it shows up in our daily lives. Some things are more deeply engrained: like the emphasis on female beauty standards and expectations that negatively impact women’s self perception and self worth. Other issues are more about what women are taught- to be polite, to be mothers, to be submissive- and the ways in which we adopt these roles ourselves.

Touching briefly on family dynamics, we talk about the examples we were set growing up, and the kinds of future we could have when we were older, as well as how perhaps we have internalised sexism, limiting ourselves and our capabilities.

We talk about how the patriarchy even affects our sex lives, although perhaps sometimes it won’t seem like a feminist issue or like something that is a result of the patriarchy, like finding it difficult to say no to sex. However, we establish that it impacts everything, especially the way men and women interact. We break down some of the pressures that we felt sexually with men that perhaps we haven’t felt with women, and how with men we fall into a position of submission.

Ultimately, even though the patriarchy fucks us in many ways every day, we understand that in order to break all of these systems down we need to ourselves be aware of our misogyny and call men out on theirs. Let’s start now, this Women’s History Month. And let’s go and SMASH the patriarchy!!

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Otherwise, we’ll see you next week!

Produced by Mable Productions

Original music by Sacha Puttnam

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