Better in Bed: 15 Oral Sex Tips

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09/30/22 • 22 min

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Boost your sexual confidence and pleasure with some very specific tips and techniques for hotter oral (clitoral edition). From the "cross-my-fingers" to the "pussy pocket," Jess shares 15+ approaches to hotter sex in this quickie episode. If you're feeling 'inspired' after listening to this podcast and want to add some excitement to the bedroom, check out WeVibe and their extensive list of products to tickle your pickle, vibe your vulva or pleasure the prostate (and more). Use code DRJESS to save when checking out! Save 25% with code PODCAST for the Mind Blowing Oral on the Happier Couples website. If you have questions for the podcast, submit them here. And please be sure to subscribe so you don’t miss an episode! You can find the podcast on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Podbean, Google Podcasts, Amazon Music & Stitcher! Rough Transcript: This is a computer-generated rough transcript, so please excuse any typos. This podcast is an informational conversation and is not a substitute for medical, health, or other professional advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the services of an appropriate professional should you have individual questions or concerns. Better in Bed: 15 Oral Sex Tips Participant #1: You're listening to the Sex with Dr. Jess podcast sex and relationship advice you can use tonight. Hey. Hey. I hope you are in a good mood already to be put in a good mood because I'm in a good mood right now, mostly because of the topic I'm going to be tackling today. This is better in bed. 15 oral tips and techniques for hotter pleasure, greater excitement, intense orgasms. All for the vulva and the clitoris. And we are just going to dive right in. I've got 15 tips for you today. I think some of them are practical, but many of us need the reminder and some of them are a little bit more technical. Some specific moves and techniques you can try if you want to pleasure yourself or pleasure a partner. I mean, you can't do all of them on yourself unless you're super flexible with your ribs and your ABS and your tongue, but I'm sure you can make do. So let's get started. I'm going to run through these 15 tips. I think it's a bit of a quickie episode today because I am heading out on the Desire Cruise to the Greek Islands and Turkey as well. And I will not have the WiFi on the ship that's strong enough to actually upload a podcast. I'm doing it before I go on my own because Brandon apparently has his own job and I can't afford them. So here we go with 15 oral tips and techniques for the clit and the vulva. So, number one, if you are going down on a partner, regardless of gender, this applies across the board. It doesn't matter what your gender rules are, what your gender identity is, get yourself turned on, okay? So focus on your own pleasure while you go down on them. I think good lovers, generous lovers, sometimes hold themselves back by being too hung up on their partner's reaction, by being too hung up on the technique, by being too into being good in bed. So kind of counterintuitive. But focus on yourself. So get yourself turned on. The more you enjoy yourself, the more your partner will enjoy the experience, the more you'll follow the natural rhythm of their body, of their hips, rather than getting hung up on their specific response or a specific outcome or whether you can do a specific technique. So how do you do that? How do you get turned on? Maybe you fantasize, maybe you touch yourself. Maybe you rub yourself. Maybe you insert or wrap a toy, whatever, around your body. Make sure that you are aroused while you go down on them. And this is also going to help them, especially folks who have evolva have probably received negative messages about our genitals, right, growing up and into adulthood. It doesn't taste good, it doesn't smell good, it doesn't look good. It doesn't look like a Barbie, it doesn't look like a porn star. And of course,

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