Nature Quickie: Pressure and "Performance"
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03/04/21 • 8 min
Sex Outside Nature Quickies are short, 5-minute dives into a specific, practical topic about our bodies and the outdoors. This one features a conversation with sexual and reproductive health specialist Dr. Justin Houman about why so many of us are focused on sexual “performance” when it comes to erections, how we don’t talk about erectile dysfunction often enough, and some of the ways biological processes, mental health, and pressure from sexual partners can contribute to anxiety around getting hard.
Mentioned in this Bonus Content:
- Find Dr. Justin Houman on Instagram: @justin.houman.md
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Additional Resources:
- National Anxiety Center: CBT-Informed Practice Activities for Sexual Performance Anxiety
- The Journal of Sex Research via JSTOR- Effects of Social Pressure on Erections and Evaluation of Erotica
- International Journal of Impotence Research- Epidemiology of Erectile Dysfunction
- Healthline- Is Erectile Dysfunction Common?
- Sexologies Journal- Current Epidemiology of Erectile Dysfunction, an Update
- Healthline- Can Stress and Anxiety Cause Erectile Dysfunction?
- The Guardian- Erectile Dysfunction or Performance Anxiety? The Truth Behind a Modern Malaise
Hosted by Laura Borichevsky.
Cover artwork by Hailey Hirst.
Music by Calica licensed via MusicBed.
Sex Outside Nature Quickies are short, 5-minute dives into a specific, practical topic about our bodies and the outdoors. This one features a conversation with sexual and reproductive health specialist Dr. Justin Houman about why so many of us are focused on sexual “performance” when it comes to erections, how we don’t talk about erectile dysfunction often enough, and some of the ways biological processes, mental health, and pressure from sexual partners can contribute to anxiety around getting hard.
Mentioned in this Bonus Content:
- Find Dr. Justin Houman on Instagram: @justin.houman.md
- We want you to be a part of the Sex Outside community!
- Subscribe to the show
- Find Sex Outside on Instagram! @sexoutsidepod
- Want to support Sex Outside?
- Leave a 5-star review in Apple Podcasts or the app of your choosing!
- Head to the Sex Outside Shop to find stickers, shirts, and underwear!
- Need a transcript for this bonus episode? Find it here.
Additional Resources:
- National Anxiety Center: CBT-Informed Practice Activities for Sexual Performance Anxiety
- The Journal of Sex Research via JSTOR- Effects of Social Pressure on Erections and Evaluation of Erotica
- International Journal of Impotence Research- Epidemiology of Erectile Dysfunction
- Healthline- Is Erectile Dysfunction Common?
- Sexologies Journal- Current Epidemiology of Erectile Dysfunction, an Update
- Healthline- Can Stress and Anxiety Cause Erectile Dysfunction?
- The Guardian- Erectile Dysfunction or Performance Anxiety? The Truth Behind a Modern Malaise
Hosted by Laura Borichevsky.
Cover artwork by Hailey Hirst.
Music by Calica licensed via MusicBed.
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We need to open up more discussion about what we find pleasurable in our lives, whether it’s outside, in the bedroom, or both. Because when we untangle harmful assumptions about pleasure, we also begin to fray away at some of the things tying us in knots when it comes to discomfort around sex. Which is why Janette Casolary, a queer artist from Seattle and someone we would label as a pleasure advocate, joins us for a discussion on how we can each access pleasure more in our personal lives.
There’s a lot of times it’s important to stay on trail-- but exploring what gives us pleasure isn’t one of them. This is one path that’s totally yours.
Featured in this Episode:
Janette Casolary
- Instagram: @janettecasolary
- Website: www.janettecasolary.com
- Check out the Nature Quickie Janette did with us: Intimate Outdoor Portraits 101
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Hosted and produced by Laura Borichevsky.
Cover artwork by Hailey Hirst.
Music by The Wild Wild and LWFI, licensed via MusicBed.
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This insight-dense episode is the first of many conversations we’ll have on the show about polyamory, so join us and let’s learn together.
Featured in this Episode:
Alyssa Keegan
- Instagram: @therealalyssakeegan / @freshpathnytherapy
- Website: www.freshpathny.com
- Alyssa’s blog post with free downloadable PDF with questions: Know Thy (Poly)Self
- Check out the Instagram Live Series Alyssa is doing on polyamory: Hump Day Q&A: It’s Not Always About The Sex
- Bonus: Alyssa wrote two children’s books last year. You can find them here and here.
Alina Drufovka
- Instagram: @abstract.hikes
- Website: www.thrudesigns.com
- Check out the Nature Quickie Alina did with us: A “Trail Meet-Cute”
Additional Resources:
- “Sex At Dawn” by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha
- “The Ethical Slut” by Janey W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
- Polyamory-Friendly Professionals Directory
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- Check out what we’ve saved for you on Pinterest
- Want to support Sex Outside?
- Leave a 5-star review in Apple Podcasts or the app of your choosing!
- Head to the Sex Outside Shop to find stickers, shirts, and underwear!
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Hosted and produced by Laura Borichevsky.
Cover artwork by Hailey Hirst.
Music by The Wild Wild, UTAH, and LWFI, licensed via MusicBed.
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