EP 204: A Council on Matrimony with Stephen Jenkinson
02/19/24 • 64 min
With special guest host Stephen Jenkinson, Kimberly and Stephen consult with three engaged couples and an unmarried woman to wonder aloud about the institution of marriage.
Stephen describes his experience, when he was asked to marry several couples, how he did his homework.
- What does it mean to approach matrimony as something other than a predictable, foreseen conclusion?
- Are weddings overly performative?
- Is it possible for a wedding to feel authentic?
Kimberly describes what she learned from having a wedding in the working terreiros culture of Bahia, Brazil.
Stephen describes why a ceremony has no audience - it only has witnesses and participants. Stephen and Kimberly contend with how contemporary couples, longing for ceremony in their matrimony, strive for integrity in their union.
This episode is just the tip of iceberg. Starting February 25th, Stephen and Kimberly will start their 5-part Online Series "Forgotten Pillars: Patrimony, Matrimony, Kinship, Ancestors & Ceremony." They will dive much deeper into the lessons gleaned from working cultures of the past to inform meaningful ways for couples, families, and communities to come together for experiences that linger long past the "big day." Find out more or join us: https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/forgotten-pillars/
With special guest host Stephen Jenkinson, Kimberly and Stephen consult with three engaged couples and an unmarried woman to wonder aloud about the institution of marriage.
Stephen describes his experience, when he was asked to marry several couples, how he did his homework.
- What does it mean to approach matrimony as something other than a predictable, foreseen conclusion?
- Are weddings overly performative?
- Is it possible for a wedding to feel authentic?
Kimberly describes what she learned from having a wedding in the working terreiros culture of Bahia, Brazil.
Stephen describes why a ceremony has no audience - it only has witnesses and participants. Stephen and Kimberly contend with how contemporary couples, longing for ceremony in their matrimony, strive for integrity in their union.
This episode is just the tip of iceberg. Starting February 25th, Stephen and Kimberly will start their 5-part Online Series "Forgotten Pillars: Patrimony, Matrimony, Kinship, Ancestors & Ceremony." They will dive much deeper into the lessons gleaned from working cultures of the past to inform meaningful ways for couples, families, and communities to come together for experiences that linger long past the "big day." Find out more or join us: https://kimberlyannjohnson.com/forgotten-pillars/
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EP 203: Reflections on a Wedding Ceremony
In this episode, you hear reflections on Kimberly’s wedding, just weeks out from the event in Salvador, Brazil. With guest host/podcast producer/cousin, Jackson Kroopf, you will hear Kimberly sit with all of the proceedings: from spiritual preparation to rehearsal to ceremony to celebration. What does it mean to be married in the traditions of a spouse’s culture? Who is a wedding for? What role do children play in their parent’s ceremony? How do we understand the relationship between matrimony and contemporary weddings? In this open hearted conversation, you will hear family reckon, reflect, and bask, in real time, on their expanding family.
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EP 205: Apprenticing the Web - Mothering, Co-Parenting, and Love as Our Compass with Kendra Cunov
Summary
In this episode, friends Kimberly and Kendra share their experiences and insights around mothering and the complex webs of care in non-traditional family structures. They discuss the beauty and challenges of single parenting, parenting young children while dating, forming new care structures, and navigating professional roles while mothering children of all ages. They also discuss their co-led upcoming retreat Apprenticing the Web taking place in Booneville, California this September 2024!
Bio
Kendra Cunov has been studying, facilitating, and practicing Authentic Relating, Embodiment Practices & Deep Intimacy Work for over fifteen years. Kendra has worked with thousands of men, women & couples in the areas of embodiment, intimacy, communication & full self-expression. She co-founded “Authentic World & Fierce Grace,” as well as “The Embodied Relationship Training Salon” (with John Wineland), and pioneered some of the most cutting edge relation work on the planet. Kendra has consulted for companies such as Genentech & been on staff for 4PC, an elite mastermind for the top 4% of coaches in the world. She works with organizations & leaders, as well as men, women & couples, who know that embodied presence, truth, connection & integrity are our truest access points to success – in business & in love.
What She Shares:
–Non-traditional family structures
–Co-parenting with young children
–Love as a guiding compass
–Mothering and professions
–Upcoming retreat with Kimberly and Kendra in September
What You’ll Hear:
–Apprenticing the Web Retreat September 2024
–Blended families, partnership, and parenting non-traditionally
–Mothering and marriage traditionally and non-traditionally
–Ease as a compass in hard situations
–Kimberly’s pregnant in Brazil
–Making partnerships for co-parenting
–Feeling alone in single parenting
–Mothering alone in marriage
–Centering the child/children
–Facilitating opportunities for children to connect with fathers
–Inquiring in co-parenting
–Love as an invitation to the co-parent
–Dating while single parenting young children
–Work changes through mothering
–Love as a compass
–Managing finances while single parenting
–Wanting to be in the world sooner while parenting young children
–Older children needing more mothering than younger
–Traveling and working while mothering young children
–Creating community as single parents and living abroad
–Benefits of single parenting
–Not wanting to be a buffer while co-parenting
–Unpacking child at the center
–Mothering the culture
–Maiden-Mother-Crone transitions
–Something to “keep up” with while mothering
–Mothering through menopause
–Accepting missing out in mothering
–Responding to life in the moment
–Cultivating capacity for discomfort and the unknown
–Trusting self to respond in the moment
–Being willing to fail relationally
–Curiosity over shaming
–Upcoming retreat in September, California!
–Kendra buying land near Mt. Shasta
–Stewarding the land before building
Resources
Website: https://kendracunov.com/
IG: @kendra_cunov
Retreat Details: https://kendracunov.com/apprenticing-the-web/
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