Don't Let A Hijackal Harden Your Heart. Harden Your Attitude Towards Them.
11/14/23 • 33 min
When you're on guard every minute, hypervigilant about the next accusation, you might think I'm suggesting something impossible...maybe even crazy. I'm not.
It's important to recognize that you can stay in charge of yourself, no matter what kind of crazy-making the Hijackal or narcissist engages in.
Difficult? Yes, but not impossible. Worthwhile? Definitely!
Learn this invaluable approach to taking good care of yourself, even though you may be rattled daily by a Hijackal now.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Be hard on issues, Soft on self.
- Why Hijackals may NOT harden your heart: you won't give them your permission!
- Harden your attitude towards the Hijackal, but keep your heart safe.
- Hijackals don't care who they hurt.
- Do your best not to take it personally.
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
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When you're on guard every minute, hypervigilant about the next accusation, you might think I'm suggesting something impossible...maybe even crazy. I'm not.
It's important to recognize that you can stay in charge of yourself, no matter what kind of crazy-making the Hijackal or narcissist engages in.
Difficult? Yes, but not impossible. Worthwhile? Definitely!
Learn this invaluable approach to taking good care of yourself, even though you may be rattled daily by a Hijackal now.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Be hard on issues, Soft on self.
- Why Hijackals may NOT harden your heart: you won't give them your permission!
- Harden your attitude towards the Hijackal, but keep your heart safe.
- Hijackals don't care who they hurt.
- Do your best not to take it personally.
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
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Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
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#hardenmyheart #hardenmyattitude #narcissiststakeandtake #hardenmyattitudetothenarcissist #heartopen
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist
#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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Previous Episode
Stop Being "Too Nice!" It encourages Hijackals.
You may think that it's impossible to be "too nice." It's not. It actually can make things worse...and that's just what it does when you're in a relationship with a narcissistic Hijackal.
You do all the giving and then, more is expected, right? Not working! Listen in to recognize the ways being "too nice" works against you.
Hijackals LOVE to take advantage of someone who will fall all over themselves to keep the Hijackal happy. Remember, though, the Hijackal is dedicated to never being happy for more than a hot minute...if that. Then, it will be right back to blaming you for everything.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- People-pleasing can be part of being "too nice" and can lead to chronic codependency
- Don't let someone else's opinion of you matter more than your own opinion on you
- Hijackals will find fault with you no matter how nice you are and how much you do for them
- 5 ways Healthier Humans behave differently than Hijackal Humans
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
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Next Episode
27 Sneaky, Nasty Ways Narcissists Try to Rule the Roost
Some Hijackals are subtle, some are sneaky. All are to keep your relationship in chaos, preferably with you giving in to their whims, demands, and expectations. Most of all, they want to be in charge and in control of all the things. Be informed. See them for what and who they are.
They are always wanting to create a fracas, a commotion, an upset, and a mess. When you can see what they're up to, it's easier to see their ploys, tricks, and defaults. Then you an choose your responses in healthier ways.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Hijackals, narcissists, anti-socials: all need to win and be right
- 27 mean ways they try to keep things chaotic, emotionally
- Hijackals love a fracas, a noisy disturbance or quarrel, about anything
- Do everything in your power to avoid responding with reactive abuse
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
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WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
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FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
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Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 3 group Ask Me Anything calls AND online Emerging Empowered Workbooks with prompts!
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#sneakynarcissist #nastynarcissist #narciccistsaaretroublesome #reativeabuse #seeinganarcissist
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist
#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalab
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