How NOT to Confuse BEING USED with BEING LOVED
07/18/23 • 33 min
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It's confusing. You see what you think are loving behaviors. Then, you start wondering, but give a narcissist the benefit of the doubt. Then, you're in a pattern where things have gone lop-sided, pear-shaped, and somewhat south before you realized that you've confused being used for being loved. SO IMPORTANT TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE! Listen in.
You SO want to believe it is love. I understand that, however, you also don't want to be taken in by someone who never intends to love you in any meaningful way, right? That's why this episode is essential to listen to...even if you don't really want to. Nobody WANTS to admit they are being emotionally abused, but you can't change what you can't--or won't--see, right?
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- t0 clear ways narcissists use you
- See the distinctions between being love and being used
- Importance of recognizing when you're being used
- Hijackals® have uses for you, not love to give you
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
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#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist
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It's confusing. You see what you think are loving behaviors. Then, you start wondering, but give a narcissist the benefit of the doubt. Then, you're in a pattern where things have gone lop-sided, pear-shaped, and somewhat south before you realized that you've confused being used for being loved. SO IMPORTANT TO SEE THE DIFFERENCE! Listen in.
You SO want to believe it is love. I understand that, however, you also don't want to be taken in by someone who never intends to love you in any meaningful way, right? That's why this episode is essential to listen to...even if you don't really want to. Nobody WANTS to admit they are being emotionally abused, but you can't change what you can't--or won't--see, right?
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- t0 clear ways narcissists use you
- See the distinctions between being love and being used
- Importance of recognizing when you're being used
- Hijackals® have uses for you, not love to give you
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#beingusedbyanarcissists #imfeelingused #narcissistsuseyou #imbeingusedbyanarcissist #nolovetogive
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist
#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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Previous Episode
Narcissists Use INSULTS Because They Can't Use LOGIC!
Insults are a low, low form of expressing disagreement. Not strange that narcissists stoop that low, is it? Their incessant NEED to win means they will go low in hopes of winning quickly. Sad & nasty! Insults only show emotional immaturity. Think of the playground.
Insults are the arguments employed by those who are in the wrong, said the philosopher, Rosseau. SO TRUE of narcissistic Hijackals!
The philosopher, Jean-Jacques Rousseau, said "Insults are the arguments employed by those who are in the wrong." That certainly rings true in the case of narcissist's. They are more frightened of accountability that almost anything.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- the lack of emotional maturity in narcissists
- Why using insults appeals to Hijackals® so much
- An excellent quote from Jamie Raskin, "An insult is not substitute for an argument." July, 2023
- Why Hijackals and all narcissists try to distract with personal attacks and no logic
- Recognizing that insults are abusive
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#insultisnosubstituteforanargument #lowformofdisagreement #lackofemotionalmaturity #distractfromaccountability #insultsareabusive #insultsonsocialmedia #personalattacks
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist
#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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Next Episode
Stuck on a Partner's POTENTIAL Instead of Their REALITY?
You can get terrible stuck--for a very long time--by buying into a partner's potential. You can see how it could be, so you hope it will be. There's the mistake. See the differences today so you can make healthier decisions right away.
Open your mind to the idea that you keep buying into promises that never materialize. Is that possible? When you step back and look at the patterns, it's often the case when dealing with Hijackals®, or other narcissistic people. They'll tell you anything to get you hooked in this moment, promise you so much. Does it ever happen? Honestly, no, right?
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Why potential is not enough
- Buying potential can bankrupt you
- Being in denial about a partner or parent's manipulations
- Ways to tell if you are stuck on a partner's potential rather than seeing their reality
- Getting clear that things are not going to change in a positive way with a narcissistic person
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#denialaboutanarcissist #potentialisnothing #gettingreadytogetready #stuckbelievinglies #futurefaking
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders #hijackals #narcissist
#hijackals #emotionalabuse #narcissists #toxicrelationships #breakingthebonds #verbalabuse
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