Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
The Save Your Sanity podcast offers episodes filled with the expert insights, validation, strategies, and support you need to recognize, manage, and recover from relationships with the relentlessly difficult, toxic--and often disturbing--people that host Dr. Rhoberta Shaler calls Hijackals®.
She offers invaluable help to stop the second-guessing, undermining, and crazy-making traits, patterns, and cycles you have encountered in relationships with folks like those. Understand the ways, whys, and hows that verbal abuse, emotional abuse, and spiritual abuse affect you over time. Whether the Hijackal is a partner, parent, ex, or colleague, what you will learn here will strengthen and empower you to step up, speak up, and stand up for yourself in healthy, assertive ways.
Many Hijackals have behaviors that are considered the same as those who are diagnosed as narcissists, borderlines, psychopaths, sociopaths, and histrionic personality disorder. These insights will help you to make the changes--and good decisions--to move from pain to power, and that's exactly what you want to do! Listen now.
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Q&A: My Partner Is Constantly Blaming Me For Everything
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
08/09/16 • 6 min
Did you do something that you were blamed for?
Did someone else do something you were blamed for?
Are you just blamed for everything going wrong in a #Hijackal's universe?
Big differences!
Learn some skills for dealing with blame that's aimed at you incorrectly. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler discusses the blame game.
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97
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I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!
Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.
Join my Optimize Circles now.
Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.
WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.
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Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: TransformingRelationship.com
Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor
#blamed #blamedfornothing #blamingothers #Hijackalblame
#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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BONUS: Are You Headed For A Breakup?
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
08/22/16 • 6 min
Feel like something is lurking in the subtext of your communication with your partner?
Is a breakup on the horizon?
Is it appropriate?
Is it your choice?
Or, is a #Hijackal always using breaking up as a threat to keep you in uncertainty?
Decipher the cues and listen to this week's episode of Transforming Relationship with Emotional Savvy by Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor.
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97
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I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!
Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.
Join my Optimize Circles now.
Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.
WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.
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Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: TransformingRelationship.com
Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor
#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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Circular Conversation. Crazy-Making
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
08/30/22 • 30 min
So many parallels to being in a blender!. Those conversations that go round and round and get you right back to focusing on the Hijackal. Crazy-Making indeed. Let's recognize those circular, get-us-nowhere-good interactions and know how to exit them somewhat safely.
Involved in repeated arguments that never resolve anything? Feel like you're talking to the wall? Is it always your fault? See the patterns in your relationship after listening to this episode, and begin to remove yourself from circular conversation.
HIGHLIGHTS OF THIS EPISODE:
- Why you want to avoid the spin cycle
- How Hijackals want to entrap you in circular conversations
- 9 things that WILL happen in a #circularconversation
- Why they are crazy-making
I'm here to help. Let's talk soon.
Rhoberta
Introductory session for new clients,only $97
FOLLOW DR. RHOBERTA SHALER...
WEBSITE: https://www.EmergingEmpowered.com
PODCAST: http://www.SaveYourSanityPodcast.com
NEWSLETTER: http://www.HijackalHelp.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpDoctor
TWITTER: https://www.Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LINKEDIN: https://www.LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
INSTAGRAM: https://www.Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
PINTEREST: https://www.Pinterest.com/RhobertaShaler
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
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I'M HERE TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT YOU WANT TO DO ABOUT IT!
If you want to learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships,
join my Emerging Empowered Community now.
Off social media, safe discussion + videos + articles + webinars + 2 group Ask Me Anything calls + a monthly Sunday Seminar, AND online Emerging Empowered Journals with prompts each month!
WOW! Join now. Dr. Shaler's Emerging Empowered Community
#circularconversations #crazymaking #wordsalad #notlistening #powerover #Gremlins1984
#emotionalabuserecovery #emergingempowered #relationshipincrisis #personalitydisorders
#signsofemotionalabuse #amibeingabused #toxicrelationships #narcissist #hijackal #emotionalabuse
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Be Positively Selfish
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
04/22/24 • 20 min
This audio was recorded in 2006, long before Hijackals became Dr. Shaler's focus.
Rethinking Selfishness: "What if I told you that I now value selfishness? Would that be shocking? Not only do I value it, but I encourage others to value it and practice it."
In this first of our upcoming Legacy Files, Dr. Shaler explores the often misunderstood concept of selfishness and redefines it as a positive force. Throughout our lives, many of us have been taught that being selfish is wrong. However, Dr. Shaler encourages us to reconsider this notion, advocating for a type of selfishness that empowers us to better care for ourselves and, in turn, more genuinely care for others.
She delves into how practicing what she terms "positive selfishness" can actually increase our self-esteem, improve our personal freedom, and enhance our abilities to contribute to the world. In this discussion, we'll unpack the differences between detrimental selfishness and beneficial self-focus, explore the importance of setting boundaries, and debunk the myth that loving oneself is an act of neglect towards others. Join us as we lean into learning how to be positively selfish, and why it is crucial not just for personal happiness, but also for fostering healthier relationships.
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We are deeply saddened to share that Dr. Shaler passed away unexpectedly on April 3, 2024.
She left peacefully and without any further discomfort, full of grace. Rhoberta worked hard to maintain her energy to continue offering time and wisdom to clients, members, and strangers alike, who found her voice and demeanor comforting and strengthening as you each faced difficult and overwhelming experiences.
We know it was very hard for her to let go enough to leave her clients and fans behind, and that serving you all was her greatest joy.
If you need some time with her, please visit her youtube channel (youtube.com/@forrelationshiphelp) or listen to other episodes in this podcast. There is a wealth more information among all her body of work, that has not yet made it into the world. We will continue to surface this additional material and content from her deep archive to allow her voice and strength to continue helping you all.
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BONUS: Stop Anger And Aggression From Ending Your Relationship
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
10/07/16 • 5 min
Anger can impact your relationships in negative ways.
Every now and again, everyone experiences anger, but it's what you do with it that matters.
You can express anger in ways that are healthy. Or, you can express anger in ways that are damaging to all concerned.
In this short episode, I am talking about a few key ways to think about anger and aggression...and, make better choices!
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97
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I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!
Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.
Join my Optimize Circles now.
Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.
WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.
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Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: TransformingRelationship.com
Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor
#anger #aggression #flyingintoarage #raging #angerdamagesrelationships
#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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Overcoming Emotional Exhaustion & Restoring Your Health Guest: Dr. Sundardas Annamalay
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
05/29/20 • 36 min
Are toxic relationships ruining your health? Is your immune system being depleted by constant anxiety?
Walking on eggshells is a stressful way to get exercise. You need to change that and here are some ways.
You can do so much for your own health. Dr. Sundardas Annamalay has made this is lifelong study and his mission is to help you recognize and realize all that you can do to overcome the exhaustion of emotional abuse, and other contributors to health issues. Emotional issues create physical issues. You want relief from both, and that's a very good thing to achieve.
BIG QUESTION: Do you feel energized by being with the other person, or not? That answer will tell you so much. We talk about that.
Early childhood patterns also affect our willingness to accept poor behaviors, or unwillingness to clarify and set boundaries. Even more so, to enforce those boundaries.
Are you ready to feel be better...including your physical health? Tune in and hear these invaluable insights from Dr. Annamalay who is revered throughout Asia for his wisdom, skills, and new ways to live by your own design.
Big hugs,
Rhoberta
HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:
- What is meant by "functional medicine"
- Why we have to distinguish between "medicine" and "natural medicine"
- What big health issues are currently being ignored
- The top 3 things to do to promote your own health
- How toxic relationships affect your body
- The difference between being a nice person and being an effective one
- How early childhood patterns can create negative programming and what you can change
GUEST: DR. SUNDARDAS ANNAMALAY
Award Winning Entrepreneur, Best-Selling Author, Strategic Business Mentor, Professor of Natural Medicine and Natural Medicine Practitioner. Dr Sundardas created the Million Dollar Designed Life Formula after working with more than 15,000 individuals from more than 30 countries.
He has shared the stage with some of the most successful entrepreneurs, thought leaders and executive coaches like Bill Walsh and Robert Kiyosaki, to name a few. His client list includes some of the leading Asian actresses and entertainers, diplomats, ambassadors, some of the richest families in Asia, the Middle East, India, and members of the royalty from Malaysia. Organisations include Goldman and Sachs, IBM, as well as South East Asian government bodies like the Ministry of Defence and Education, Singapore as well as the Ministry of Health, Thailand.
Dr. Sundardas has helped companies in the wellness arena generate more than US$25 million in sales by strategic technical positioning. He has worked with diverse industries such as healthcare, engineering, shipping, architecture, restaurants, fresh produce and health food, fashion, copywriting and public relations in the areas of Peak Performance, Personal Branding and Strategic Management.
Dr Sundardas has Asperger's Syndrome and recovered from a near terminal heart failure.
DR. SUNDADAS ANNAMALAY has a gift for you: "Life By Design: How to Design Your Ideal Life To Be Healthy"
Get it here: http://lifebydesign-home.pages.ontraport.net
CONNECT WITH MY GUEST: DR. SUNDARDAS ANNAMALAY
WEBSITE: www.drsundardas.com
FACEBOOK: https://www.facebook.com/SundardasDAnnamalay/?modal=admin_todo_tour
YOUTUBE: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCiN5vyPdJd2lMmtTRgYVEtg
INSTAGRAM: https://www.instagram.com/drsundardas/
TWITTER: https://twitter.com/DrSundardasa
LINKEDIN: https://www.linkedin.com/in/drsundardasannamalay/
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BONUS: Recognize a high-conflict person in a relationship. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
12/10/16 • 7 min
High-conflict people - there's always drama but you can't pin it down.
I talk about my term, #Hijackals, for these relentlessly difficult people, these toxic people. It's important to be able to recognize them as soon as possible, whether you've been with one for ten years or ten hours!
Listen to this episode of For Relationship Help and learn the other signs that signal a high-conflict person.
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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BONUS: Are You Looking for a Fight? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
12/23/16 • 7 min
Sometimes you're speaking up about something you believe in.
Other times, you want to fight and use a topic to make it happen. Can you tell the difference?
Don't be "that person" who is always gunning for an argument, or purposefully trying to get a rise out of their partner. That is bad behavior and totally un-loving.
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97 \
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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BONUS: Q&A Listener questions answered by Rhoberta Shaler, PhD
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
10/20/16 • 25 min
Listeners can submit questions. Rhoberta Shaler, PhD answers many common questions in these videos.
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97
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I WANT TO HELP YOU FIGURE OUT WHAT'S GOING ON AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT!
Learn more, share, ask questions, and feel more powerful within yourself and your relationships.
Join my Optimize Circles now.
Discussion groups safely off social media + videos + articles + webinars + 21 Steps to Empowering Emotional Savvy personal home study program delivered by email + group Ask Me Anything Calls with me.
WOW! Join now. OptimizeCircles.com Only $5 for the first month at any level.
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Good tips for knowing what to do and how to respond.
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: TransformingRelationship.com
Podcasts: RelationshipHelpNetwork.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
Pinterest: Pinterest.com/TheRelationshipHelpDoctor
#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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BONUS: Why Do I Get So Angry? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships
11/09/16 • 2 min
Anger is a challenging feeling AND something you can manage. In ANY relationship, it's super-important to be capable of recognizing and managing your anger while still acknowledging your feelings and getting to the real source of the issue.
Want to work with Dr. Shaler? Introductory session for new clients, $97
CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:
Website: ForRelationshipHelp.com
Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor
Twitter: Twitter.com/RhobertaShaler
LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RhobertaShaler
Instagram: Instagram.com/DrRhobertaShaler
YouTube: YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp
#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #journorequest #prrequest
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How many episodes does Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships have?
Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships currently has 374 episodes available.
What topics does Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships cover?
The podcast is about Questions, Health & Fitness, Society & Culture, Relationship, Mental Health, Podcasts, Relationship Advice, Relationships and Kids.
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The episode title 'BONUS: Are You Headed For A Breakup?' is the most popular.
What is the average episode length on Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships?
The average episode length on Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships is 30 minutes.
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Episodes of Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships are typically released every 6 days, 23 hours.
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The first episode of Save Your Sanity - Help for Toxic Relationships was released on Aug 9, 2016.
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