Should Someone Still Married On Paper Be A Deal Breaker For You?

02/23/23 • 32 min

You just found out the person you’re dating is going through a divorce that hasn’t been finalized yet. Do you pump the breaks on it? And if so, could you actually be convinced not to?

Talk about a hot take! Obviously, not everyone feels the same way. For many people, though, this situation is an immediate deal breaker, and you might be one of them. (In fact, many of my clients agree; I’ve got the DMs and emails to prove it).

But if you find yourself in this scenario, unless there are other red flags in your relationship, it’s at least worth thinking about from a different perspective. It might even surprise you to know that open marriages are quite common, including among people you’ve definitely heard of.

In this episode of Love Life Connection, you’ll learn the story of billionaire investor Warren Buffet’s open marriage and the benefits of staying married even after the love is gone. I also talk about red flags to beware of if you’re dating someone in this situation, as well as the business of marriage and how it still applies if you’re dating and living together.

5:59 - The open marriage of Warren Buffett (and why it was beneficial)

9:32 - The two parts to a relationship (and which part to watch for any red flags)

15:07 - How marriage is like a business

19:31 - The separate or combined accounts conundrum

22:13 - Another area you need to get clear on to have the space for romance in a marriage

25:36 - What if you’re living together but not married?

29:43 - My goal for you when it comes to dating and money

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Should Someone Still Married On Paper Be A Deal Breaker For You?, here are your next steps:

Book your Love Incubator Exploratory Call or read more about the program here.
Read Business Insider’s article on Warren Buffett’s open marriage.
Listen to episode 346: “How to Spend Your Money and Time Dating Better.”
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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You just found out the person you’re dating is going through a divorce that hasn’t been finalized yet. Do you pump the breaks on it? And if so, could you actually be convinced not to?

5:59 - The open marriage of Warren Buffett (and why it was beneficial)

9:32 - The two parts to a relationship (and which part to watch for any red flags)

15:07 - How marriage is like a business

19:31 - The separate or combined accounts conundrum

22:13 - Another area you need to get clear on to have the space for romance in a marriage

25:36 - What if you’re living together but not married?

29:43 - My goal for you when it comes to dating and money

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to Should Someone Still Married On Paper Be A Deal Breaker For You?, here are your next steps:

Book your Love Incubator Exploratory Call or read more about the program here.
Read Business Insider’s article on Warren Buffett’s open marriage.
Listen to episode 346: “How to Spend Your Money and Time Dating Better.”
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Previous Episode

How to Integrate the Inner Work So Things Change in Your Love Life with Paige

Paige is no stranger to doing the inner work. She’s done A LOT of it! When she and I started working together, she’d been in therapy for a while, but her love life wasn’t changing the way she wanted it to. She needed something extra, and she found it through Love Incubator.

Now, Paige is here to talk about the work she did through the program. In this episode, she reveals how the work I taught her through it helped her finally release past hurt, confidently get back online, and deal with fear and rejection differently.

8:41 - Where Paige was stuck when she decided to join Love Incubator and how she healed herself

15:31 - Other things that have shifted for Paige (and how the lockdown helped her)

21:35 - What you can do vs what you can’t, even in the midst of a pandemic

23:40 - What being a part of the Love Incubator group was like for Paige

28:42 - The one hesitation Paige had before joining and what she’s grateful for about the experience

31:46 - What the Love Incubator program is all about and how to join

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Integrate the Inner Work So Things Change in Your Love Life with Paige, here are your next steps:

Book your Love Incubator Exploratory Call or read more about the program here.
If you are interested in being coached on the Love
Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Next Episode

How to be a “Better” Partner in a Relationship with Laura

What do the law of attraction have in common with Christianity?

You’ve probably run into the law of attraction idea of “attracting” circumstances, events, and people into your life based on your beliefs or “vibration” or whatever. Even if what you’re consuming isn’t specifically about the law, it can’t help but pervade personal growth spaces the same way Judeo-Christian standards pervade society even if you don’t identify as Christian.

And this plays a part in a big misconception about inner child work (or personal growth, in general)-- the idea that doing it makes you invincible to problems. If trouble arises in your relationship, for example, then it’s because you didn’t do enough healing and still need to work on yourself.

But there’s only so much work that inner work can do. And this brings me to today’s coaching call on the Love Life Connection podcast. Laura doesn’t like who she’s been attracting in relationships. So she wanted to know how she can be better as a partner without sacrificing too much of herself.

But is she the problem, or is something else going on? In this episode, you’ll learn how to know where you need to grow or heal yourself and when it’s time to just kick the other person to the curb. I’ll also talk about why Laura’s question is such a loaded one and how you can start a relationship off on the right foot.

7:35 - The root of what’s really behind Laura’s dilemma

14:06 - How Laura’s difficulty with boundaries ties back to her parents’ relationship

22:27 - Why you should look at boundary setting from a win-win perspective

25:20 - Where Laura should focus her attention more (instead of on who she’s attracting)

34:09 - Wrapping up with a recap of the call with Laura

37:00 - How you can start a relationship off right from the beginning

41:42 - The power of inner child work to make boundary-setting easier

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Be a “Better” Partner in a Relationship with Laura, here are your next steps:

Listen to past episodes 223, 269, or 290 about the law of attraction and episodes 197, 234, or 239 about how to do inner child work.
Consider reading Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller.
Listen to episode 346: “How to Spend Your Money and Time Dating Better.”
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!