How To Not Have Hookups and Too Much Texting Derail Your Love Life

07/28/22 • 24 min

We have all these rules around dating, especially as women. We get told, “Don’t do too much” or “Don’t seem too needy.” So when it comes to hookups and texting, you probably find yourself questioning when (and whether) it's good or bad to do it.

In this episode, I talk about how you can prevent harmful hookups (emotionally speaking) and constant texting from getting in the way of your dating life.

2:14 - One thing I have to say before diving into the meat of this episode

4:39 - Reasons why guilt or shame come up after hooking up with someone

6:06 - When hookups can be harmful and going for what I call “conscious hookups” instead

10:39 - Why I think constantly texting with someone is a huge red flag

14:47 - What to do if you want to get out of or go beyond constantly texting with someone

18:27 - Are you currently doing this in your relationship?

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How To Not Have Hookups and Too Much Texting Derail Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

Listen to previous episodes expressing my views about the Law of Attraction: 290, 269, 223, and 199.
Listen to episode 193: “How to Know If Friends With Benefits Is a Good Idea for You”.
Listen to episode 313: “How to Resist the Urge to Reach Out to Your Ex (Again) with M”.
Sign up for Embodied Dating.
Join the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life.
Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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In this episode, I talk about how you can prevent harmful hookups (emotionally speaking) and constant texting from getting in the way of your dating life.

2:14 - One thing I have to say before diving into the meat of this episode

4:39 - Reasons why guilt or shame come up after hooking up with someone

6:06 - When hookups can be harmful and going for what I call “conscious hookups” instead

10:39 - Why I think constantly texting with someone is a huge red flag

14:47 - What to do if you want to get out of or go beyond constantly texting with someone

18:27 - Are you currently doing this in your relationship?

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How To Not Have Hookups and Too Much Texting Derail Your Love Life, here are your next steps:

Listen to previous episodes expressing my views about the Law of Attraction: 290, 269, 223, and 199.
Listen to episode 193: “How to Know If Friends With Benefits Is a Good Idea for You”.
Listen to episode 313: “How to Resist the Urge to Reach Out to Your Ex (Again) with M”.
Sign up for Embodied Dating.
Join the on-demand workshop, The 5-Step Strategy to Banish Anxiety and Overwhelm in Your Love Life.
Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Previous Episode

How You Can Use Inner Child Work to Make Meaningful Changes in Your Love Life with Rondi

Rondi has taken a deep dive into inner child work since we began working together. She’s realizing all types of connections between events in her life and beliefs she’s taken on. But her inner child is still having trouble making real sense of it all and connecting it to her specific situation now.

If doing the deep inner work feels a bit vague or you’re unsure how to apply it, then you’ll love this episode! In it, I help Rondi explore what all this inner child work means and how to apply it to her life now.

6:01 - Rondi explains the circumstances behind her recent breakthrough

10:45 - Some beliefs that may have come up for Rondi and how she’s playing those out as an adult

15:56 - The big difference between Rondi now and her five-year-old self (and this goes for everyone)

19:26 - How Rondi’s weird situation with a texting pen pal reflects her wounded inner child

24:44 - The two stages of getting over an ex (most of the time, one’s far easier than the other)

31:17 - How you can apply the process in this coaching call with Rondi to your own life

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How You Can Use Inner Child Work to Make Meaningful Changes in Your Love Life with Rondi, here are your next steps:

Get my book You Are Meant for Love or enroll in my two-week course Crappy to Happy to help you begin to connect the dots.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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Next Episode

How to Re-Energize Your Excitement (or Will) To Start Dating Again

I’ve often said to clients to date for fun, not for the one. Having fun puts you into a state of super presence, like a puppy or a child just enjoying themselves without a care in the world. But what if the thought of dating feels very meh right now, and you’re looking to pump yourself up to do it?

That’s the situation that today’s caller Amelia finds herself in right now. In this episode, I help her discover why she feels so blah about the idea of dating again and what she can do to start clearing up her issues around all of her relationships. But I also spend some time touching on how you can protect yourself regarding recent socio-political events causing you to feel stressed or hopeless.

1:49 - A few things I need to get off my chest in the wake of the Roe vs. Wade decision

14:11 - Amelia describes her relationship struggle with men and how it ties back to childhood

20:09 - Why Amelia finds it difficult to allow herself to be vulnerable with men

22:45 - I reveal part of Amelia’s issue and what she needs to do next

26:47 - Why the thought of dating can feel exhausting and doing an inventory of your relationships

35:05 - The three things I want you to take away from this coaching call

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Re-Energize Your Excitement (or Will) To Start Dating Again, here are your next steps:

Check out emilyinyourphone on Instagram.
Check out my Embodied Dating workshop.
Listen to episode 314 where I talk about fear-based vs. intuitive-based actions.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1 on 1 and schedule your session here.
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my wait list here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!