How Are You Supposed to Feel About Someone After the First Date?

01/12/23 • 34 min

Is it normal to be confused or hesitant about whether to see someone again after the first date? I get this question often from clients, and unfortunately, there’s no formula that’ll work perfectly to answer this for everyone. But you can still look at certain things to gain some perspective or ask yourself some questions.

In this episode, I cover a few things to think about after the first date to help you determine whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing.

7:48 - The two ends of the dating or relationship spectrum you don’t want to be in

11:40 - Where you want to be when you’re dating someone new

14:41 - Why I like to give people two or three dates (with one exception)

17:01 - Rule of three: what that means, what mine is, and why I encourage you to have it

19:58 - Why you should consider dating someone you normally wouldn’t

24:58 - The tricky thing about feeling bored in a relationship

26:22 - Ask yourself this when in doubt about your feelings

28:48 - One last thing you need to know about this topic

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How Are You Supposed to Feel About Someone After the First Date?, here are your next steps:

Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
Get my book You Are Meant for Love or listen to my six-part “How I Found Love” series: Part 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6.
Listen to past episodes about liking bad guys vs. good guys: 99, 127, and 135.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

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In this episode, I cover a few things to think about after the first date to help you determine whether or not a relationship is worth pursuing.

7:48 - The two ends of the dating or relationship spectrum you don’t want to be in

11:40 - Where you want to be when you’re dating someone new

14:41 - Why I like to give people two or three dates (with one exception)

17:01 - Rule of three: what that means, what mine is, and why I encourage you to have it

19:58 - Why you should consider dating someone you normally wouldn’t

24:58 - The tricky thing about feeling bored in a relationship

26:22 - Ask yourself this when in doubt about your feelings

28:48 - One last thing you need to know about this topic

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How Are You Supposed to Feel About Someone After the First Date?, here are your next steps:

Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
Get my book You Are Meant for Love or listen to my six-part “How I Found Love” series: Part 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, and 6.
Listen to past episodes about liking bad guys vs. good guys: 99, 127, and 135.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Previous Episode

How to Not Get So Attached To New Relationships with Andree-Anne

Long-time listeners might get a sense of déjà vu with today’s show. This is a coaching call from 2019 but a very popular, timely, and super relatable one. That’s because what my guest Andree-Anne and I discuss is something a lot of women, including myself, have experienced.

If you tend to get wrapped up emotionally (and physically) with new partners long before any real connection gets made, you’re not alone. Listen in as I help Andree-Anne discover the truth behind her relationship attachment tendencies and offer strategies for breaking the pattern.

5:56 - Questions to keep in mind as you listen to this coaching call

10:07 - Why Andree-Anne feels she gets attached to guys too fast

13:24 - The pattern she has seen since the age of four that she fears is playing out in her own love life

18:43 - A short, complete-the-sentence exercise to get to the uncomfortable truth behind her issue

21:45 - What she believes a relationship will provide her that she can’t provide for herself now

23:00 - How she can connect with herself and find her identity, regardless of what’s happening romantically

28:17 - Andree-Anne put on the spot with a hard question to answer

30:13 - Tangible ideas to put into practice to help release relationship attachment

32:45 - Andree-Anne’s biggest takeaway from our coaching call

40:08 - Why you do know the answer to this question I asked Andree-Anne, even if you think you don’t

43:00 - Something that needs to be said before I wrap up the episode

46:00 - Recapping a couple of questions to answer in your journal

48:00 - Answering a question that comes up a lot with potential clients

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to this episode, here are your next steps:

If you’re interested in being coached on the Love Life Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Next Episode

How to Date When You’re Shy, Haven’t Dated in Years, or Don’t Trust Yourself After a Devastating Breakup

Nina hasn’t dated anyone in 13 years. Now, she’s beyond scared at the thought of getting back into the dating world. But that 13-year stretch isn’t the real issue...

When Nina was last in a relationship, so many things in her life changed--relocating, losing lots of friends, etc. However, things went sour, and she was left to pick up the pieces and rebuild from scratch. So she carries fear from the relationship that sparked her long dating sabbatical.

On top of that, Nina has three specific reasons why she has this anxiety about re-entering the dating world. In this episode, she reveals what those reasons are, and I talk to her about working her way up to dating again when she lacks trust and confidence in herself.

7:42 - Questions to consider as you listen to this coaching call

9:04 - Fears that prevent Nina from being comfortable with the idea of dating

11:14 - What drove Nina to make the decision she made in her prior relationship

19:29 - Where Nina can look to build confidence in herself

24:02 - The big story Nina has built up in her head about dating again

29:25 - Some action steps Nina can take next

34:18 - If you’re a survivor of cancer (or some other illness) and haven’t brought it up in your relationship

39:27 - Recapping highlights, takeaways, and next steps from the coaching call

43:39 - Are you shy, introverted, or reserved? How to tell and the difference between all three

46:45 - Action steps to help you get back into dating if you’re shy or have had a long layoff or bad breakup

I hope you enjoyed this episode! Find me on Instagram or email me with your feedback. I look forward to hearing from you!

After you listen to How to Date When You’re Shy, Haven’t Dated in Years, or Don’t Trust Yourself After a Devastating Breakup, here are your next steps:

Take my free Emotional Availability Assessment here.
Listen to some past episodes about getting over a breakup: 337, 316, and 230.
Listen to the December bonus episode, “The Four Stages of Shifting Your Relationship Patterns + A Brief Chat on Interpolitical Dating.”
If you are interested in being coached on the Love Live Connection, sign up for my waitlist here.
With my impactful introductory coaching session, you’ll walk away knowing exactly what’s blocking you in love. Learn more about working with me 1-on-1 and schedule your Introductory Session here.
Finally, If you get value from the Love Life Connection, please rate & review it on Apple Podcasts. It only takes a sec to impact our ranking + it’ll help other women find our community!