Dating & Dealbreakers: Lessons from Reality TV with Nick Viall

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11/16/21 • 48 min

Nick Viall starred on the 21st season of ABC’s The Bachelor and hosts the popular podcast The Viall Files, where he discusses all things Bachelor Nation. On this episode, Dr. Alexandra chats with Nick about the national conversations that The Bachelor franchise spurs about relationships, gender, and dating, and how these conversations can be both productive and divisive. Nick shares experiences and tools from his own relationship and helps Dr. Alexandra answer a listener question about defensiveness. (CW: brief mention of sexual harassment & abuse)

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon: A Clinical Look at the Break-Up of Katie & Greg (The Viall Files):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-alexandra-solomon-a-clinical-look-at-the-break/id1448210981?i=1000531152178

Breaking Down Marriage 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (The Viall Files):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-down-marriage-101-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1448210981?i=1000505891430

Nick's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/

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Dr. Alexandra Solomon: A Clinical Look at the Break-Up of Katie & Greg (The Viall Files):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/dr-alexandra-solomon-a-clinical-look-at-the-break/id1448210981?i=1000531152178

Breaking Down Marriage 101 with Dr. Alexandra Solomon (The Viall Files):

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/breaking-down-marriage-101-with-dr-alexandra-solomon/id1448210981?i=1000505891430

Nick's Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/nickviall/

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Difference as a Bridge: Cross-Cultural Love with Dr. Adia Gooden

Dr. Alexandra is joined by guest expert Dr. Adia Gooden for an in-depth discussion about loving across a cultural difference. Together they answer a listener question and then broaden out to discuss racial, ethnic, religious, and political differences in intimate partnerships. Dr. Alexandra and Dr. Gooden validate the challenges these couples will likely face while also highlighting the beautiful possibilities for growth, richness, and respect between two individuals with different origin stories. This episode also explores the ways that cross-cultural relationships have the potential to send positive reverberations through families, communities, and beyond.

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Dr. Adia Gooden’s website:

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Pew: Intermarriage in the U.S. 50 Years After Loving v. Virginia:

https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/intermarriage-in-the-u-s-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/

Pew: Interfaith marriage is common in U.S., particularly among the recently wed:

https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/06/02/interfaith-marriage/

Pew: Shared religious beliefs in marriage important to some, but not all, married Americans:

https://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2016/10/27/shared-religious-beliefs-in-marriage-important-to-some-but-not-all-married-americans/

Next Episode

Getting Your Needs Met: Relationship Boundaries with Shadeen Francis

Therapist Shadeen Francis joins Dr. Alexandra to respond to a listener who is interested in opening up her marriage, but is facing resistance from her partner. They use this question as a springboard to explore the topic of disclosed non-monogamy, unmet needs, mental health and communication in a long-term partnership.

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Shadeen’s Website:

https://shadeenfrancis.com/

Shadeen’s Instagram:

https://www.instagram.com/shadeenfrancis/

Terry Real's book, "I Don't Want to Talk About It":

https://terryreal.com/product/i-dont-want-to-talk-about-it/

Learn more about the topics covered in this episode:

The Flexibility of Female Sexuality with Wednesday Martin (The Psychology Podcast)

Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy (Jessica Fern)

Relationship Bill of Rights (Eve Rickert and Franklin Veaux)