#6 Eva Oh - BDSM, Domination and Consent
03/10/21 • 92 min
Today's guest is Eva Oh, an international, professional dominatrix. She runs her slave training with carefully crafted courses that reveal who she is and how she wants her slaves to serve her. She also organizes something called #teakink, where she talks with BDSM community members to demystify BDSM and sexuality through the intimacy of tea ceremony.
I don't know much about domination or the BDSM community, so I was really looking forward to our meeting, and I was very grateful to be able to talk with Eva. She is a cheerful and lovely person, and she did a great job of leading me through the mysteries of the BDSM world. I intended to focus on consent and pushing boundaries within BDSM practice, but naturally, we covered some other topics like work during the pandemic and her overcoming self-doubt.
00:03:30 - start and intro
00:05:40 - Growing up in a Christian and a female-dominated environment
00:13:50 - First sexual experience
00:15:30 - First contact with pornographic images/film
00:20:45 - Work in pandemic time
00:25:55 - Lifestyle vs Professional Dominatrix
00:27:40 - Consent and boundaries in domination (lifestyle part)
00:34:50 - The typical day of work
00:37:30 - Difference between sub and slave
00:40:10 - Slave position - what is it?
00:41:50 - What slaves learn during the training on youwillpleaseme.com / BDSM identities discovery
00:45:04 - Physical vs psychological punishment
00:48:25 - Crossing boundaries in corporal punishment, where to draw the line.
00:55:50 - Recruitment of slaves
01:00:55 - Financial domination
01:07:45 - Eva explains how she cares for her mental health in this emotionally demanding work
01:09:45 - Things that a professional dominatrix never does
01:11:40 - Kinks and fetishes that Eva enjoys the most
01:19:15 - Overcoming self-doubt
01:22:45 - Tips for couples who would like to start practising dom and sub relationship
01:22:50 - Recommendations for any woman who would like to start working as a dominatrix
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
Today's guest is Eva Oh, an international, professional dominatrix. She runs her slave training with carefully crafted courses that reveal who she is and how she wants her slaves to serve her. She also organizes something called #teakink, where she talks with BDSM community members to demystify BDSM and sexuality through the intimacy of tea ceremony.
I don't know much about domination or the BDSM community, so I was really looking forward to our meeting, and I was very grateful to be able to talk with Eva. She is a cheerful and lovely person, and she did a great job of leading me through the mysteries of the BDSM world. I intended to focus on consent and pushing boundaries within BDSM practice, but naturally, we covered some other topics like work during the pandemic and her overcoming self-doubt.
00:03:30 - start and intro
00:05:40 - Growing up in a Christian and a female-dominated environment
00:13:50 - First sexual experience
00:15:30 - First contact with pornographic images/film
00:20:45 - Work in pandemic time
00:25:55 - Lifestyle vs Professional Dominatrix
00:27:40 - Consent and boundaries in domination (lifestyle part)
00:34:50 - The typical day of work
00:37:30 - Difference between sub and slave
00:40:10 - Slave position - what is it?
00:41:50 - What slaves learn during the training on youwillpleaseme.com / BDSM identities discovery
00:45:04 - Physical vs psychological punishment
00:48:25 - Crossing boundaries in corporal punishment, where to draw the line.
00:55:50 - Recruitment of slaves
01:00:55 - Financial domination
01:07:45 - Eva explains how she cares for her mental health in this emotionally demanding work
01:09:45 - Things that a professional dominatrix never does
01:11:40 - Kinks and fetishes that Eva enjoys the most
01:19:15 - Overcoming self-doubt
01:22:45 - Tips for couples who would like to start practising dom and sub relationship
01:22:50 - Recommendations for any woman who would like to start working as a dominatrix
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
Previous Episode
#5 Jason Domino - HIV, PrEP and The Industry
Today's podcast is the first one where a sex worker speaks in-depth on a selected topic. The person with whom I had a pleasure to talk with is Jason Domino. Jason is the sexual health and wellbeing lead for the UK Adult Professionals (UKAP) and a practising sex worker. Jason speaks from his own experience and he is very vested in and passionate about sexual health, specifically topics like HIV and PrEP. I have learned a lot from talking to him and he provided me with more information than I have gotten from anyone in the past few years on this topic. I hope you will find it useful and it will help you to ask further questions. The interview was focused around HIV prevention, function and use of PrEP and PeP, the importance of understanding different HIV tests and what is the window period, and how it works.
This podcast contains a lot of detailed information, and at the end of it, you may have more questions. For this (and many other) reasons we have opened a comment section on http://redcheeks.org/jason. If you want to know more, need further clarification or have general feedback feel free to leave a comment. Please remember to be generous and constructive in your comments. Nasty and sarcastic behaviour will not be tolerated.
A disclaimer: Neither of us is a licenced medical professional, so if you are considering to start on PrEP or have any concerns or questions about your health I recommend you consult with your GP (general practitioner) or any other licenced medical professional. Neither of us takes responsibility for your actions or health.
00:00:09 - start and intro
00:04:00 - sexual health - meaning
0016:15 - PrEP and PeP - what's that, what's the abbreviation stands for
00:24:46 - Jason's story on his first time having sex with a person who was HIV positive, and him not knowing it,
00:29:03 - ART (medication is taken by people who are positive on HIV) and U=U (Undetectable equals untransmittable)
00:30:27 - Research about HIV
00:36:20 - Window Period and HIV tests types - what is the window period and how it differed depending on different HIV test
00:58:13 - Where and how to get PeP in case of potential HIV exposure
00:04:05 - Common misconceptions in sex industry about PrEP and HIV
01:05:43 - What are other health checks that people should be aware of/ do when on PrEP
01:11:33 - Pledge - Porn Professionals For Safety Against Discrimination
01:28:31 - How to access PrEP
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
Next Episode
#7 Yasmeena Ali – Islam, Porn and Breaking Free
Yasmeena Ali is a porn performer, BDSM lover and feminist. She was born in Afganistan and raised in an Islamic family who emigrated to the UK when she was nine years old. Right now, she is a strong and independent woman, exploring her sexuality and doing what she loves the most - being in front of the camera and sharing the beauty of her body and mind. We talked about how growing up in Islamic tradition impacted her sexual exploration. Yasmeena walked me through her life and the difficulties she faced when living with her family. We spoke about her mentors, sexual education, and the escape from home to a better and self-depended future, where she decides who to love, what to wear, or do. We discoursed what the adult media industry is missing and what we should be focusing on to make it a better place.
00:03:12 - Start
00:08:50 - Introduction to Yasmeena's background and sex work
00:14:22 - Memories and key moments from life in Afganistan from the perspective of 9 years old girl
00:22:50 - Education in the UK
00:31:50 - The journey from Afganistan to the UK
00:38:50 - Living in the UK - adapting to different culture and lifestyle
00:47:27 - Mentors, people who helped to navigate in the new world
00:50:20 - Sex education in school and exploring intimacy
00:57:34 - First sexual experience
01:05:20 - Non-muslim relationship, first time falling in love, and running away from home
01:26:10 - Discovering own sexuality and pleasure, BDSM
01:33:45 - Introduction to nude modelling and webcamming
01:44:15 - Rules in the relationship between her and her husband to ensure the relationship is growing, open relationship
01:48:15 - First porn shoot and boundaries
01:56:45 - Porn that is designed to please men' needs - Yasmeena's thoughts on this, and things that are missing in porn
02:10:25 - Being respected and in control in a porn shoot, Onlyfans experience and negative payment experience
02:21: 12 - Regrets
02:23:45 - Last question about family and their knowledge about Yasmeena's work
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
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