#4 - Richard Lawrence
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01/25/21 • 87 min
Today I am talking with Richard Lawrence, the owner and funder of Feck.com the company that runs a few different platforms with erotic media.
Richard started with an intention of humanising the idea of porn. He did not want to show it through the male gaze perspective and he thought that it would be more interesting to give a woman a camera and to let her express herself. This is how I Shot Myself, Beautiful Agony and I Feel Myself were created.
In today's podcast, Richard told us different stories from his personal life, and one of them stood out for me the most, and it was the story of his first kiss with the babysitter. We also talked about more serious topics like socially responsible erotica and the importance of values that the porn portraits.
I really enjoyed my conversation with Richard, and I hope you will enjoy this interview too. He is a very interesting person with a tone of experience to share.
00:00:40 Start
00:02:10 Teenage years
00:18:20 First kiss (babysitter story)
00:20:50 Favorite sexy scene from a film (Fear and Donnie Darko)
00:23:10 Feck.com, ISM, BA and IFM - description of the company
00:32:20 Why porn is taboo - Richards take on this
00:38:15 Confessions from Beautiful Agony
00:46:20 Concept of socially responsible porn
00:47:47 Ethical porn - Richards understanding of this concept and how Feck introduces ethics into their production
00:50:20 Porn as a source of sex education for people
01:01:40 Porn and "charmless rendering of human sexuality"
01:13:47 Situations where something did not go to the plan on the shoot day
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
Today I am talking with Richard Lawrence, the owner and funder of Feck.com the company that runs a few different platforms with erotic media.
Richard started with an intention of humanising the idea of porn. He did not want to show it through the male gaze perspective and he thought that it would be more interesting to give a woman a camera and to let her express herself. This is how I Shot Myself, Beautiful Agony and I Feel Myself were created.
In today's podcast, Richard told us different stories from his personal life, and one of them stood out for me the most, and it was the story of his first kiss with the babysitter. We also talked about more serious topics like socially responsible erotica and the importance of values that the porn portraits.
I really enjoyed my conversation with Richard, and I hope you will enjoy this interview too. He is a very interesting person with a tone of experience to share.
00:00:40 Start
00:02:10 Teenage years
00:18:20 First kiss (babysitter story)
00:20:50 Favorite sexy scene from a film (Fear and Donnie Darko)
00:23:10 Feck.com, ISM, BA and IFM - description of the company
00:32:20 Why porn is taboo - Richards take on this
00:38:15 Confessions from Beautiful Agony
00:46:20 Concept of socially responsible porn
00:47:47 Ethical porn - Richards understanding of this concept and how Feck introduces ethics into their production
00:50:20 Porn as a source of sex education for people
01:01:40 Porn and "charmless rendering of human sexuality"
01:13:47 Situations where something did not go to the plan on the shoot day
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
Previous Episode
#3 - Abigail Williams
Abigail Wiliams, a very intelligent, good-hearted activist and sex performer, who completed her degree in anthropology and sociology. Now she works toward her PhD that talks about regulation of online pornography in the UK and how this affects the people who produce it. She gives lectures on a university and she works together with National Ugly Mugs UK - a charity that works toward ending violence against sex workers.
We talked about her personal experience as a porn performer, her attraction toward women and why it was hard at first for her to understand being attracted to anyone else than men. Abigaile talked about how she gained her first sexual experience in a threesome and how her abusive (past) relationship directed her toward porn. We dived deeper into talking about her favourite fetishes and how porn can help young people to explore their sexuality.
I also would like to note small friction that went unnoticed during the recording of this podcast. We had some sound issues and sometimes the audio may go very low, sorry for this! Likely the audio problem is only on my side, and you can hear perfectly fine everything that Abigail says, and her message is the one that is powerful and must be heard!
So If you are eager to hear from Abigail jump on this podcast and hopefully you will enjoy it as much as I did.
00:04:20 - The way Abigail came up with her stage name
00:06:18 - Abigaile's childhood and family
00:08:48 - Discovering her sexuality
00:10:31 - Sex education
00:15:25 - Describes her attraction toward women
00:19:40 - First sexual experience
00:23:50 - The single moment that turned Abigail toward the porn industry
00:29:10 - The first shoot experience
00:33:52 - "The conversation"
00:36:15 - Disclosing to partners the nature of her work
00:39:00 - The PhD thesis on an idea called legal consciousness - how people interpret and interact with the law and how this presents itself in UK BDSM porn
00:42:50 - Fetishes
00:46:39 - How else we can use porn
00:54:04 - Porn and sex work being stigmatised - Abigail's take on this.
01:05:36 - Advice to someone who is getting into the industry
01:07:31 - The biggest failure and the learnings
01:11:55 - Things that Abigail wished to know before working in porn
01:15:00 - "Before the shoot" rituals
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
Next Episode
#5 Jason Domino - HIV, PrEP and The Industry
Today's podcast is the first one where a sex worker speaks in-depth on a selected topic. The person with whom I had a pleasure to talk with is Jason Domino. Jason is the sexual health and wellbeing lead for the UK Adult Professionals (UKAP) and a practising sex worker. Jason speaks from his own experience and he is very vested in and passionate about sexual health, specifically topics like HIV and PrEP. I have learned a lot from talking to him and he provided me with more information than I have gotten from anyone in the past few years on this topic. I hope you will find it useful and it will help you to ask further questions. The interview was focused around HIV prevention, function and use of PrEP and PeP, the importance of understanding different HIV tests and what is the window period, and how it works.
This podcast contains a lot of detailed information, and at the end of it, you may have more questions. For this (and many other) reasons we have opened a comment section on http://redcheeks.org/jason. If you want to know more, need further clarification or have general feedback feel free to leave a comment. Please remember to be generous and constructive in your comments. Nasty and sarcastic behaviour will not be tolerated.
A disclaimer: Neither of us is a licenced medical professional, so if you are considering to start on PrEP or have any concerns or questions about your health I recommend you consult with your GP (general practitioner) or any other licenced medical professional. Neither of us takes responsibility for your actions or health.
00:00:09 - start and intro
00:04:00 - sexual health - meaning
0016:15 - PrEP and PeP - what's that, what's the abbreviation stands for
00:24:46 - Jason's story on his first time having sex with a person who was HIV positive, and him not knowing it,
00:29:03 - ART (medication is taken by people who are positive on HIV) and U=U (Undetectable equals untransmittable)
00:30:27 - Research about HIV
00:36:20 - Window Period and HIV tests types - what is the window period and how it differed depending on different HIV test
00:58:13 - Where and how to get PeP in case of potential HIV exposure
00:04:05 - Common misconceptions in sex industry about PrEP and HIV
01:05:43 - What are other health checks that people should be aware of/ do when on PrEP
01:11:33 - Pledge - Porn Professionals For Safety Against Discrimination
01:28:31 - How to access PrEP
Join the workshop Intimacy on Screen at RedCheeks Academy to learn about the ethical intimacy.
This workshop is very different from typical education. There are no tests or grades. I believe that the best way to learn is by doing. You will learn useful techniques and strategies, but mostly you will get to practice the skills that are essential for the ethical production process.
If you want to:
🎬 Learn how to produce intimate scenes in an ethical way
🗣️ Improve communication skills about complex topics
🎭 Practice troubleshooting real-life situations on the set
👥 Gain confidence in your people skills
💼 Do more meaningful work
🔄 Change your mindset
Roll up your sleeves and prepare for:
✅ 5 weeks of intensive learning experience
✅ making meaningful connections
✅ 1-on-1 coaching sessions
✅ Guest talks by industry experts
✅ Ongoing support after the workshop
Apply on RedCheeks Academy.
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