Episode 27 - Part 2 - Escaping The Control
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09/11/21 • 74 min
Survivor Vera Lee is back to deep dive further into her experience of coercive control, domestic abuse and sexual abuse at the hands of her husband and the escalation of that abuse that occurred after her son was born. In this episode we discuss the importance of other mediums for telling our story than vocally, and the importance art can play in the healing of trauma. Vera Lee outlines the events that precipitated her leaving, and her experience in the courts and systems once she escaped her abuser.
It has been an absolute honour to speak with Vera Lee and to hear her story. This story shows that there is so much life after abuse, and the parthway to healing is a very different one for all abuse and trauma survivors.
We see you, we hear you, we believe you.
Vera Lee has also started the Why Me Movement which is a podcast and website. The WhyMe Movement was founded by Vera-Lee Curnow after multiple near death experiences and adversities in her life. One pivotal moment waking from a coma where she was not expected to survive, Vera-Lee explains how opening her eyes to the world with a fresh perspective, seeing colours with more vibrance, feeling the warmth of the sun like it was the first time again and knowing she never wanted to ask herself WhyMe in woeful unempowered feeling again, She decided that was the last time she was going to feel controlled by adversity into darkness.
To connect with Vera Lee / The Why Me Movement
Connect with Reclaim Me / Madeleine
For advice and support in Australia please reach out to:
For crisis support please reach out to Lifeline
Phone: 13 11 14
Website: www.lifeline.org.au/
For sexual assault and domestic abuse support services please reach out to 1800 RESPECT
Phone: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732
Website: www.1800respect.org.au
Centre Against Sexual Assault (CASA)
Phone: (Victoria) 1800 806 292 (Nationally use 1800 RESPECT)
National Debt Helpline: 1800 007 007
WIRE: 1300 134 130
Women’s Legal Services Australia:
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Survivor Vera Lee is back to deep dive further into her experience of coercive control, domestic abuse and sexual abuse at the hands of her husband and the escalation of that abuse that occurred after her son was born. In this episode we discuss the importance of other mediums for telling our story than vocally, and the importance art can play in the healing of trauma. Vera Lee outlines the events that precipitated her leaving, and her experience in the courts and systems once she escaped her abuser.
It has been an absolute honour to speak with Vera Lee and to hear her story. This story shows that there is so much life after abuse, and the parthway to healing is a very different one for all abuse and trauma survivors.
We see you, we hear you, we believe you.
Vera Lee has also started the Why Me Movement which is a podcast and website. The WhyMe Movement was founded by Vera-Lee Curnow after multiple near death experiences and adversities in her life. One pivotal moment waking from a coma where she was not expected to survive, Vera-Lee explains how opening her eyes to the world with a fresh perspective, seeing colours with more vibrance, feeling the warmth of the sun like it was the first time again and knowing she never wanted to ask herself WhyMe in woeful unempowered feeling again, She decided that was the last time she was going to feel controlled by adversity into darkness.
To connect with Vera Lee / The Why Me Movement
Connect with Reclaim Me / Madeleine
For advice and support in Australia please reach out to:
For crisis support please reach out to Lifeline
Phone: 13 11 14
Website: www.lifeline.org.au/
For sexual assault and domestic abuse support services please reach out to 1800 RESPECT
Phone: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732
Website: www.1800respect.org.au
Centre Against Sexual Assault (CASA)
Phone: (Victoria) 1800 806 292 (Nationally use 1800 RESPECT)
National Debt Helpline: 1800 007 007
WIRE: 1300 134 130
Women’s Legal Services Australia:
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Previous Episode
Episode 26 - Part 1 - The Web Of Control
Survivor Vera Lee details her experience of coercive control, domestic abuse and sexual abuse at the hands of her husband.
In this episode Vera Lee goes into detail the beginning of her relationship with the man who would become her husband. This discussion highlights the entrapping nature of coercive control, the extreme lengths at which the perpetrator would go to for complete control and the massively damaging toll this abuse took on her.
We begin to discuss the nature of healing as a survivor, and touch on topics within domestic and sexual abuse that are often taboo.
Thank you for being so open, honest and raw with part 1 of your story Vera Lee, you are an absolute warrior woman.
Vera Lee has also started the Why Me Movement which is a podcast and website. The WhyMe Movement was founded by Vera-Lee Curnow after multiple near death experiences and adversities in her life. One pivotal moment waking from a coma where she was not expected to survive, Vera-Lee explains how opening her eyes to the world with a fresh perspective, seeing colours with more vibrance, feeling the warmth of the sun like it was the first time again and knowing she never wanted to ask herself WhyMe in woeful unempowered feeling again, She decided that was the last time she was going to feel controlled by adversity into darkness.
To connect with Vera Lee / The Why Me Movement
Connect with Reclaim Me / Madeleine
For advice and support in Australia please reach out to:
For crisis support please reach out to Lifeline
Phone: 13 11 14
Website: www.lifeline.org.au/
For sexual assault and domestic abuse support services please reach out to 1800 RESPECT
Phone: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732
Website: www.1800respect.org.au
Centre Against Sexual Assault (CASA)
Phone: (Victoria) 1800 806 292 (Nationally use 1800 RESPECT)
National Debt Helpline: 1800 007 007
WIRE: 1300 134 130
Women’s Legal Services Australia:
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Next Episode
Episode 28 - Special Episode - Understanding Abuse and Navigating Therapy
In this episode I have a conversation with a wonderful Counsellor Jemma who is the Founder of Bloom Wellbeing. Jemma dispels common myths of the counselling experience and of abuse scenarios. We discuss common presentations to abuse, misconceptions, and how a practicing counsellor may assist with navigating trauma and mental health presentations.
To connect with Jemma / Bloom Wellbeing
Bloom Well-being provides counselling support to people of all ages and has a specific interest in supporting people to integrate experiences of trauma, and reclaim their lives and sexuality. Jemma and co-therapist @therapydogdexter operate from a home-style counselling space in Creswick, Victoria and provide face-face, video and phone appointments.
Please reach out via SMS (0477 110 953) or email 📧 [email protected] to find out more.
*Bloom Well-being is not a crisis service.
Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/BloomWellbeingCo/
Insta: @bloom.well.being
Dexter’s Insta: @therapydogdexter
Dexter's Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TherapyDogDexter/
Connect with Reclaim Me / Madeleine
For advice and support in Australia please reach out to:
For crisis support please reach out to Lifeline
Phone: 13 11 14
Website: www.lifeline.org.au/
For sexual assault and domestic abuse support services please reach out to 1800 RESPECT
Phone: 1800 RESPECT - 1800 737 732
Website: www.1800respect.org.au
Centre Against Sexual Assault (CASA)
Phone: (Victoria) 1800 806 292 (Nationally use 1800 RESPECT)
National Debt Helpline: 1800 007 007
WIRE: 1300 134 130
Women’s Legal Services Australia:
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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