Why It's Important to Keep Promises to Yourself - Foster Self Trust & Confidence

03/10/23 • 39 min

RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

The biggest reason to keep promises to yourself is the added effect of becoming more confident while doing so. I'm sharing more about that & other tips & knowledge in today's episode.
Show Notes:

This topic came about after watching Courtney Shields’ stories on Instagram during a Q&A sesh. Someone had asked her how she is able to be so confident on the regular & the first thing she mentioned was keeping promises to herself. This is one of her biggest ways to stay confident because it helps her build trust in herself. And this really stopped me in my tracks because I have often spoke about building trust in yourself, but never thought about the link between keeping promises to yourself & building trust in yourself that would eventually lead to more confidence. It got me really excited, though.

I want to go over the importance of keeping promises to yourself, how doing so fosters becoming our best selves every single day, then share some tips on how we can accomplish this every day.

We already know that keeping promises to ourselves builds self-trust. With self-trust, we can count on ourselves to follow through with commitments & do what we say we’re going to do. And this can be an even more important thing if we don’t have people in our lives that do this. We will WANT to build self-trust EVEN MORE if we know we can at least count on ourselves. Regardless, when we build strong self-trust, we know we will get things done, which can also lead to an increase in self-esteem.

It’s a given that building self-trust will benefit our personal growth in relation to resilience & creating new habits that we need to follow through on for it to become a proper habit that’s actually helpful. Consistency & accountability are being built up, as well, when we start to trust ourselves more and more. And when we learn to become accountable to ourselves, we end up accomplishing more and more without too many setbacks. Also, keeping promises to ourselves can be a form of self-care because when we prioritize what we need to do, it’s us investing in our own wellbeing.

When we consistently keep promises to ourselves, we are also engaging in discipline. You have to have discipline to continue follow through with something when the motivation runs out. And with discipline, we have the ability to make healthy choices & carry on with committment in everything we do.

Productivity isn’t one I thought of off the bat, but it came up in my research time. But it’s true. When we are following through with our promises, we are leaning less into procrastination & are more focused, which leads to getting more completed. And the last one I wanted to mention was the improvement in our relationships. When we can demonstrate that we are able to keep promises to ourselves, we show how responsible & reliable we are.

Let’s get into How to Keep Promises to Yourself & Make It Mean Something:

Figure Out Why You Struggled With This in the Past
Be Realistic With Your Goals
Create a Plan
Find the Perfect Reminder
Track, Reflect & Celebrate Your Progress

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The biggest reason to keep promises to yourself is the added effect of becoming more confident while doing so. I'm sharing more about that & other tips & knowledge in today's episode.
Show Notes:

I want to go over the importance of keeping promises to yourself, how doing so fosters becoming our best selves every single day, then share some tips on how we can accomplish this every day.

Let’s get into How to Keep Promises to Yourself & Make It Mean Something:

Figure Out Why You Struggled With This in the Past
Be Realistic With Your Goals
Create a Plan
Find the Perfect Reminder
Track, Reflect & Celebrate Your Progress

Support the show

Previous Episode

How to Manage Distractions Getting in the Way of Working On Yourself

We all know that distractions just get in our way of completing whatever needs to get done, but despite knowing this, we STILL allow distractions to take us away from whatever is highest priority at the moment. These distractions could be our family, friends, wandering thoughts, socials, or anything we suddenly find to do in the moment because we are putting off what we know needs to happen.

Today we are speaking specifically about getting distracted from taking care of our mental health & mindset. And allowing distractions into our lives isn’t too different, regardless of what we are getting distracted from, but the strategy we use will have a few different focuses that relate more to mental health than just getting work done.

But before we get into it, I want to mention that being distracted is totally normal. We can’t always be in total focus on everything we do. Sometimes it’s helpful to have a distraction to give ourselves a chance to reset & take a break from things we are too dialed into.

This could still apply to mental health because we might be too focused on working on ourselves in one specific way and welcome the distraction of moving onto to something else & getting shaken up a bit to even try new things.

Just know, there should be no self-induced shame for giving into distractions because we’re all human and not perfect.

Here are 5 Tips on How to Manage What’s Distracting You from Working On Yourself

Identify Your Distractions
Create & Enforce Personal Boundaries
Develop Discipline
Become More Mindful
Seek Accountability

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Why It's Important to Love Ourselves As Much As Others - Because You Matter

Show Notes:
I don’t really have a personal story to share specifically about this topic, except that I am a recovering people pleaser. But I did take a moment to reflect on how I often would love others more than myself, but I rarely saw that reflected back. And that doesn’t lead me to be upset or even disappointed, but it does prove that self-awareness allows you to see things on a deeper level than normal. I never even noticed this while I was a hard-core people pleaser, but it’s easy to spot now. And something that would cause me to pause & better understand why it wasn’t happening, and hopefully pull away from the behavior because I realize it’s not the healthiest choice.

Loving ourselves just as much as we love others is necessary to our mental well-being. Anyone that struggles with self-worth or is a people pleaser WILL struggle with this, but I KNOW you can do it. I believe I can do it, but only if we keep at it & don’t give up on this challenge.

I as doing research for my affirmation/manifestation book when I came across this idea of needing to love ourselves just as much as we love others. And, like you might imagine if you know me, it stopped me in my tracks & I needed to really think about it. I needed to think about how important this was, how so many people need this reminder on a regular basis and how I don’t do this at all. And if I don’t do this, that means there are so many other people that don’t do this either.

The importance of loving ourselves as much as we love others is to develop a positive self-image, strong self-esteem and build up our self-worth. Have you ever noticed that when we love someone, we WANT to take care of them & make sure they feel the love & support? This is also how we need to be with ourselves. We need to love ourselves so we WANT to take care of ourselves & prioritize our needs and make ourselves feel our own love & support.

Like I mentioned in the beginning, we often struggle with loving and even accepting ourselves because we lack self-worth, might have low self-esteem, be wrapped up in people pleasing, deal with trauma that has affected all these things & our ability to see ourselves as something more than broken, the list goes on. But we CAN overcome these things. We just have to do the work.

In the next episode, I will share with you HOW you can start loving yourself more to get to the point of loving yourself just as much as you love others. But today, we are going to talk about the importance and benefits of loving ourselves just as much as we love others.

Here are 5 Benefits of Loving Ourselves to the Fullest:

Increase in Mental & Emotional Well-Being
Better Self-Esteem & Self-Confidence
Our Relationships Get Better
We Take Care of Our Bodies More
Increase in Fulfillment & Purpose

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RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health - Why It's Important to Keep Promises to Yourself - Foster Self Trust & Confidence

Transcript

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This is the Real Positive Girl podcast, and I am your host, Sabrina. I'm here chatting with you about your emotions, your mental health struggles, how to take those first few steps towards being more vulnerable, more honest, and being more self-aware. Self-awareness is like the best new thing to do. Please don't forget that. And we do that two times a week here. So welcome if you're new. And if you're not new, welcome back friends. So today we're gonna be chatting abo