How to Take Breaks & End Toxic Friendships & Relationships

04/15/22 • 43 min

RealPositiveGirl - Weekly Encouragement & Mental Health

Not all relationships last forever. Some for a season, fewer for a lifetime.
Sometimes you have to take a break to come back stronger or just end it for your better health.
Show Notes:
I didn’t really understand until I was a young adult in college that relationships, platonic or romantic, didn’t have to last forever. Even family ones.

Honestly, this was really good for me to discover because while I was in college, I needed to put some space between my father & me. There are times in our lives when we can just become overwhelmed with the differences of opinions, hurt feelings, miscommunications, all the things. And rather than continue to verbally abuse each other or sometimes physically (hopefully not), taking a break can be a better option.

However, I do want to mention that there might be times when you have already tried to take breaks from one another, maybe several times, but nothing changes. This might mean that you need to end the relationship. Sometimes you're no longer willing to pay the cost to be in that relationship.

Many relationships have an expiration date. Some are only meant to last for a season & others can last a lifetime. Relationships take work from both sides. There will not be perfect balance all the time or even often, but it needs to go back & forth between both people. When that doesn’t happen, it can become too much and you have to make the choice to endure or move forward.

Here are some red flags for when it might be better for you to end a relationship:

They betray your trust
They are more often negative & have a victim mentality
There seems to be drama with & around them too often
They don’t seem to listen to you or care when you need support
They don’t respect your boundaries

Sometimes trauma or abuse that happens in a relationship causes you to instill a break or an ending. These will be moments where you need to decide what is best for you & what needs to happen for you to endure as little pain as possible & no abuse. My suggestion to you is that if you are being abused, that should be an immediate end of the relationship. Trauma is tougher because being around those that were present during your trauma experience can be triggering for you. Which could lead to you taking a break from those relationships or even having to end those if it’s just too much hurt.

Today I want to share with you some tips on How to Take a Break or End Friendships & Relationships:

Really Think Through the Reasons Why You Want to Take a Break or End the Relationship.
Don’t Ghost Them, Have the Conversation Out of Respect.
Don’t Come to Someone in Anger or Reflect Their Anger in the Moment.
Don’t Play the Blame Game & Only Speak How YOU Feel.
Share Your Boundaries With Them to Know for the Future.
Make Plans to See Each Other in the Future.
Forgive Them.

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Here are some red flags for when it might be better for you to end a relationship:

They betray your trust
They are more often negative & have a victim mentality
There seems to be drama with & around them too often
They don’t seem to listen to you or care when you need support
They don’t respect your boundaries

Today I want to share with you some tips on How to Take a Break or End Friendships & Relationships:

Really Think Through the Reasons Why You Want to Take a Break or End the Relationship.
Don’t Ghost Them, Have the Conversation Out of Respect.
Don’t Come to Someone in Anger or Reflect Their Anger in the Moment.
Don’t Play the Blame Game & Only Speak How YOU Feel.
Share Your Boundaries With Them to Know for the Future.
Make Plans to See Each Other in the Future.
Forgive Them.

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

Come visit me on my Instagram page @sabrinajoyperozzo.

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Doing the Work - Tips on How to Heal Emotionally & Become Stronger

Talking about 'Doing the Work' sounds great, but do we actually know what that means? I'm here to share with you some tips on how we can 'Do the Work' emotionally & engage in some self-healing to become our best selves.
Show Notes:
Emotional healing is a ton of work. It’s exhausting, overwhelming & sometimes painful because you bring up old wounds & have to face people & situations that have hurt you before and you fear now. It’s a lot of work, but it’s so worth going through.

Of course, it doesn’t feel fun or worth it while it’s happening, which is why you have to have hope for what your future looks like once you slog through some of it. And it doesn’t usually take long to see some growth & relief & burden release if you commit to doing the work. It also takes perseverance & determination that you want your life to change for the better & you’re willing to put in the effort to do so.

A lot of times we want things to change, but we don’t want to do the work. We just want the change to happen without having to feel uncomfortable. And that would be nice if that were the way it worked. But it doesn’t. Not only do we need to make the decision to change, but we need to put action behind that decision. That is where doing the work comes in.

‘Doing the work’ is this phrase that I feel is easily thrown around with people within the wellness world. And despite how important I think doing the work is, I think this phrase is a little ambiguous on what that even means. It sounds good to say, but it doesn’t really say much or what needs to happen.

Basically, doing the work means you are putting in the time and effort to do self-healing & improve who you are. You are making an effort to understand yourself better, self-awareness at its best, and make changes that will help you heal & become your best self.

That brings me to what I want to talk about today, tips for How to Do the Work & Heal Emotionally:

Examining your beliefs & values.
Deal with unhealed trauma & pain.
Start setting & enforcing personal boundaries.
Understand what gives & takes away your energy.
Honoring your feelings.

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Struggling Doesn't Mean You're Failing - Keep Going

Struggling isn't failing because by not giving up on your struggle & not allowing it to hold you captive you are actually succeeding. I have 4 reasons why struggling isn't failing.
Show Notes:
Do you ever feel like you aren’t succeeding the same way others are? Or maybe you’ve been going through so much crap & problems lately that it feels like all you’re doing is struggling. When we are feeling like we aren’t succeeding and others are getting further ahead in life it can cause us to question how well we are doing. That darn comparison obsession.

When you’re going through struggles it can feel like you’re failing. It can feel like you’re never given enough time to recover. It can feel like you’re the only one going through this experience, too. Struggles can feel so isolating. You’re dealing with feeling overwhelmed, trying to come up with the best problem-solving solution & keep everything else in your life together. It’s just a lot.

Meanwhile, people are out here telling you that the other side of your struggle is the place you want to be and to keep going. Which sounds nice, but isn’t always the most helpful thing you can hear in these moments. To be honest, there really isn’t too much that can be said while you are knee-deep in the struggle that will make it magically better. Motivational phrases here and there, genuine people coming to the rescue when you need support and having the ability to take mental and physical breaks can be great helps, but it’s still just all up to you.

And I do need to mention that failing is not a terrible thing. It can feel terrible in the moment because what you wanted to happen didn’t happen and this means more time spent and effort put out in the long run, which isn’t fun. But failing isn’t the end of the world because there is so much you learn while failing. There is so much opportunity for growth and change and shifting your perspective. And if you continue to avoid failure in your life, you’ll never discover new things about who you are and what you are capable of doing because you aren’t pushing yourself beyond your perceived means. It’s worth it if you’re willing to fall down a bit.

Today I want to talk to you about how going through struggles doesn’t mean you’re failing. It can certainly feel like you’re failing because what you’re going through isn’t getting any better and sometimes more problems end up piling on top of what you’re already dealing with and again, it’s just too much.

But you’re not failing. If anything, you’re succeeding to the most because you’ve decided that not giving up isn’t an option. You’ve decided that you need to keep going and not let your struggles control you and dictate your future. But persevering and making that mental shift from “this is too hard” to “this isn’t too hard for me to get through,” is the key.

Here are 4 reasons why struggling isn’t failing:

You’re Actually Trying
It’s Just Taking Longer for Your Results
Success Doesn’t Come Without Setbacks (luck is short-lived)
You’re Growing Through this Struggle

Thank you again for listening & I hope this episode was helpful.

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Hello everyone. And welcome to the real positive girl podcast with me, Sabrina. This is the show that's gonna help you become your best self. And today we are gonna be talking about how to take breaks and end toxic friendships and relationships. But before we jump into that as always, I want to invite you to come say hi to me on Instagram. I am at Sabrina, Troy perso. I'd love to hear from you in the DMS. We can be come friends online. If you prefer, you can send me a