Ep. 332: Those Unseen Costs of Staying Still

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09/01/20 • 46 min

Raise Your Hand Say Yes with Tiffany Han

Yes. Raising your hand and saying yes to what you want for your life is going to require time and energy. And you might have precious little of it (hey! There's a free challenge for that!). But this week, I'm talking through all the things that not following through on what we want for our lives is costing us. And what I know is that it's time for us to shift our standards of what's acceptable. To stop letting doubt make our decisions. To take a stand for what we want even when circumstances are less than ideal. Overcoming inertia will always be a challenge. It will only get harder the longer you wait. And those things keeping you up at night? They aren't going anywhere. So what would happen if you started investing in yourself. (Yes. Even right now.) In this episode, you'll hear me talk about helping you set a foundation of being yourself in your life. Showing up to everything as the single version of you. Living on the outside as who you know you're ready to be on the inside. It's bold and brave and beautiful. Let's go. What I Said: "Your pre-COVID life was too much. No wonder you don't know where to put yourself right now." "Continuous improvement is not your life's purpose." "Staying where you know you don't want to be is never going to help get you what you want." "I'm asking you to step into simultaneously easing up on yourself and holding the entire world to a higher standard of what's okay and acceptable." "Long-term stress is killing us." "Extreme dissatisfaction can be an impetus for change." "The resistance keeping you still is only going to get louder the longer you wait." Those Timestamps: 04:57 - The unseen cost of not saying yes to yourself 13:36 - Knowing when to start looking for something else 20:04 - Extreme dissatisfaction and overcoming resistance 29:17 - The power of rest and slowing down 35:36 - Taking a step closer every day 38:35 - Are you playing the game you want to win? 43:31 - How to start making your shift Show Notes: RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Previous Episode

Ep. 331: Glennon Doyle on Becoming Untamed, Real Self-care, and Changing Your Mind

This week, I'm kicking off Season 8 with Glennon Doyle!

Glennon is a New York Times Bestselling author, an activist and thought leader, and is the founder and president of Together Rising, an all-women led nonprofit organization that has revolutionized grassroots philanthropy – raising over $25 Million for women, families, and children in crisis.

In this conversation, we talk about Glennon's new book Untamed (it's ESSENTIAL READING y'all!), and cover the following: doubt, faith, what's required before you can really take care of yourself, how to consider what the most true and beautiful version of your life is, why permission to change your own mind is critical, and how you can find your own "there she is" moment.

What Glennon Said:

"May our dreams become our plans."

"Faith is a belief in the unseen order of things."

"It's impossible to take care of yourself and your family if you don't first untame."

"There is no construction of the new without destruction of the old."

"The goal of family is to create a community where everybody gets to bring their full self to the table."

"Truth is kindness even if it makes people uncomfortable."

Listen to Learn:

08:09 - Living the truest most beautiful life (and how this is available to everyone)

14:38 - Believing in the unseen order of things and how to hold onto that faith when things feel rocky

18:29 - How Glennon deals with doubt (yes! She has it too!)

22:46 - Permission to change your mind and why it's a hard thing to think about

27:50 - Living an 'untamed' life (The cheetah story) and how we're thinking of our goals all wrong

36:47 - Overcoming the fear of rocking the boat

46:39 - How Truth-Telling the truth is kindness

54:14 - Finding that 'there she is' moment (and how it might be different from what you think!)

Show Notes:

Get on the early-bird notification list for the RYHSY Inner Circle

Submit a q or topic idea for a future podcast episode

Take the Agency Archetypes Quiz

Connect with Glennon:

Site | Instagram | Twitter | Facebook

Glennon's books:

Untamed | Love Warrior | Carry on, Warrior

Together Rising

We are the Luckiest by Laura McKowen

Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Finding your Bigger Yes

Laura McKowen on RYHSY: Telling the Truth. Out loud.

Nat Lue on RYHSY: Boundaries, Emotions, and the Dark Side (!) of People Pleasing

Nat Lue on RYHSY: Relationships, Bandwidth, Anxiety, and Respect

Next Episode

Ep. 333: Gillian Freeman on Finding Peace & Freedom

I am so excited to be talking with one of my current Inner Circlers Gillian Freeman, of Pen & Thimble, this week! Gillian creates handmade, eco-friendly products for her business and is a busy mom of 2.

In this episode, we talk about her experience in the Inner Circle, what brought her to the work, what she learned about pausing and taking breaks, and why she didn't really believe that what's happened for her was possible (but it was!).

We also talk about how things changed for her along the way, why she's taken up a new hobby, and where she's looking next.

Applications open Monday 9/14 for the next round of the Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle (we start October 1!) and if you're wondering if it's a good fit for you, Gillian's story will be helpful so you can see what's available!

What She Said:

"Success that's built on a foundation of burnout is not success."

"It's not just about the business but who you are as a person - what you believe and what you want."

"You don't have to put all of your ambition on hold in order to feel good in your life."

"Whatever you need to do, start now... It's a journey."

Those Timestamps:

07:18 - Not being a robot 20:46 - It's okay to hit pause 26:52 - Doing the work with bigger/deeper alignment 31:38 - How Gillian got into crocheting 35:42 - Relaxation and reconnecting with oneself 44:09 - What's next for Gillian? 50:38 - Reopening with grace and faith 59:55 - How to do the work without the burnout

Show Notes:

RSVP for the free September 8-10 Choose Yourself Challenge

The Raise Your Hand Say Yes Inner Circle

Connect with Gillian:

Site | Instagram | Pinterest | Etsy | Amazon

The Nap Ministry

RYHSY Episode on Burnout