
Episode #12: Developing Better Boundaries with Damien Bohler
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05/30/22 • 74 min
This episode is for those of us who have ever struggled with our boundaries... So basically all of us on Planet Earth right now. Boundaries are so crucial if we want to live this life with fulfilling relationships, less triggers, feeling more empowered, and capable.
Unfortunately not many of us grew up with an upbringing that supported the cultivation of a healthy boundary system. This episode is for those who already think they understand how to have healthy boundaries and for those who are still getting started.
Damien is brilliant at explaining these concepts. You might have thought you had a good understanding on what boundaries are and how they apply to your life... At least that’s what I thought before coming across Damien’s work. His understanding and explanation of these concepts was unlike anything I’d ever come across before. Buckle in because you’re about to have your mind blown in the best way possible and be gifted with so much valuable insight.
In this episode, we cover:
- What is authentic relating and how can it assist you in developing relational intelligence?
- The 2 main blocks humans have that are in the way of relational harmony
- An explanation of how your childhood & your nervous system impact your relationships
- How to identify a regulated vs. a dysregulated nervous system state
- The media & the mythology of the anxious-avoidant dance
- What are boundaries? Dispelling the confusion between healthy boundaries & putting up walls
- Examples of how your childhood may have impacted your boundary system
- A breakdown of the different types of boundaries and understanding how they are relevant to your relationships
- Steps for you to start developing more healthy, elegant boundaries
This episode is so freaking valuable & Damien is so generous with everything he shares. I hope it has such a positive impact on you & all of your relationships.
Let me know how it lands for you!
Lots of love,
Emelitta
If you feel called to share on Instagram, make sure you tag me! @_emelitta
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Damien is an intimacy geek, evolutionary pioneer and investigator. He inquiries deeply, facilitates and teaches in the worlds of authentic relating, attachment, nervous system regulation, boundaries, polarity, integral theory and much more. His gift resides in the ability to synthesis complex knowledge and present it in digestible and impactful form. The containers he facilitates are transformative experiences and his greatest passion is in supporting the evolution of consciousness on planet earth.
You find Damien via:
Instagram: @evorelating
Facebook: Damien Bohler
Website: evolutionaryrelating.org
This episode is for those of us who have ever struggled with our boundaries... So basically all of us on Planet Earth right now. Boundaries are so crucial if we want to live this life with fulfilling relationships, less triggers, feeling more empowered, and capable.
Unfortunately not many of us grew up with an upbringing that supported the cultivation of a healthy boundary system. This episode is for those who already think they understand how to have healthy boundaries and for those who are still getting started.
Damien is brilliant at explaining these concepts. You might have thought you had a good understanding on what boundaries are and how they apply to your life... At least that’s what I thought before coming across Damien’s work. His understanding and explanation of these concepts was unlike anything I’d ever come across before. Buckle in because you’re about to have your mind blown in the best way possible and be gifted with so much valuable insight.
In this episode, we cover:
- What is authentic relating and how can it assist you in developing relational intelligence?
- The 2 main blocks humans have that are in the way of relational harmony
- An explanation of how your childhood & your nervous system impact your relationships
- How to identify a regulated vs. a dysregulated nervous system state
- The media & the mythology of the anxious-avoidant dance
- What are boundaries? Dispelling the confusion between healthy boundaries & putting up walls
- Examples of how your childhood may have impacted your boundary system
- A breakdown of the different types of boundaries and understanding how they are relevant to your relationships
- Steps for you to start developing more healthy, elegant boundaries
This episode is so freaking valuable & Damien is so generous with everything he shares. I hope it has such a positive impact on you & all of your relationships.
Let me know how it lands for you!
Lots of love,
Emelitta
If you feel called to share on Instagram, make sure you tag me! @_emelitta
—
Damien is an intimacy geek, evolutionary pioneer and investigator. He inquiries deeply, facilitates and teaches in the worlds of authentic relating, attachment, nervous system regulation, boundaries, polarity, integral theory and much more. His gift resides in the ability to synthesis complex knowledge and present it in digestible and impactful form. The containers he facilitates are transformative experiences and his greatest passion is in supporting the evolution of consciousness on planet earth.
You find Damien via:
Instagram: @evorelating
Facebook: Damien Bohler
Website: evolutionaryrelating.org
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Episode #11: Spacious Self-Occupancy & Arriving in One's Heart with Jamie Shūjūn
I cannot wait for you to join Jamie & I on this podcast episode journey. Jamie has been a significant part of my growth since we met in 2018. She brings so much wisdom, clarity & love to the space. There are many pieces of wisdom for you to take in from this episode. Words really cannot describe, but I’ll try...
In this episode, we cover:
- Moving from self-abandonment, self-betrayal, self-avoidance to arriving at spacious self-occupancy
- The process of turning inward instead of seeking outside of yourself
- Spirit Encouraged Life-Force (SELF) vs. Essence Getting Obstructed (EGO)
- Creating the space & trusting the process
- How to best put your mind/ego to work
- When to pivot vs. when to persevere
- Tuning into your heart
Sending you so much love. I hope you enjoy it so much. This episode has me feeling all warm & fuzzy inside.
Love you.
Love,
Emelitta
Sharing on Instagram? Tag me! @_emelitta
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Interested in my upcoming 4 week program, Cherished? You can find more details via bit.ly/to-be-cherished
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Jamie is a Transformation Guide passionate and deeply dedicated to supporting others through significant periods of life-changes and spiritual awakening. Jamie specialises in providing individualised guidance in creating spaciousness and trust in one’s body, heart and intuition as they reclaim their authority, creativity and voice. Jamie is gifted at translating and bringing forward subconscious information beneath energy blockages from a spiritual etheric level down to the physical, cellular and emotional level.
Her potent body of work has impacted and initiated tremendous positive change in one's relationships, health, career, creativity and a plethora of expansive environmental circumstances both inside and out.
Jamie’s work is accessible both in-person in Brisbane Australia as well as digitally worldwide.
Follow Jamie on Instagram: @jamieshujun
Jamie’s Website: www.jamieshujun.com
Link to our IG live chat ~ PIVOT: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CaZD0U_h7d3/
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Episode #13: Experiencing the Full Spectrum of Yourself Through Embodiment with Laura Escudero
My somatic psychotherapist has helped me with so, so much and I am SO excited to have her on the podcast. Laura is someone with a wealth of experience, knowledge, compassion & brings so much richness to my life. This is such a great episode.
We go into:
- Laura’s journey with embodiment through yoga, dance, plant medicine & how her health issues inspired her to connect deeper with her body
- Laura’s take on what somatics & embodiment actually mean & why incorporating a mind-body approach is such a strong part of repatterning trauma
- Why talk therapy alone may not be enough to heal
- The true gifts of embodiment & how it impacts our life
- Embodiment as a social justice act
- Having compassion for ourselves when we go back into old patterns
- Emelitta’s story of how she used to bypass her needs & how she identifies, speaks & meets her needs now
- People dancing on Instagram & calling it embodiment - is it empowerment or attention seeking?
- Trauma & hypersexuality vs sexual repression - finding the middle ground
- What does it mean to be “trauma informed” & why do people think it’s a cult?
Hope you love it so much! Let us know how it lands.
Lots of love,
Emelitta
If you feel called to share on Instagram, make sure you tag me! @_emelitta
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Laura is an embodiment facilitator who is also a somatic psychotherapist, counsellor, mover, yoga teacher & bodyworker with more than a decade of experience in body-based therapies. She supports individuals who are seeking to transform stress, trauma, anxiety, overwhelm, PTSD and depression through a somatic & a spiritually-oriented approach to therapy and embodiment practices. This work also helps Laura to stay centred, humbled and connected to her path.
Laura describes herself as empathetic, open minded, grounded, kind-hearted, authentic and a deep listener. Above all, Laura is dedicated to love, self-empowerment, inspiration, service and connection.
Laura loves to be of service to others and witness them heal themselves, realising that they don’t have to be stuck and can come back to alignment and healing in a grounded way.
Laura’s website: https://www.lauraemilia.com.au/
Follow Laura on IG: @lauraemilia.__
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