Why People Pleasing Feels Safe - And How to Let It Go
01/08/25 • 45 min
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Beth sits down with psychologist Dr. Laura Bersenbrugge to dive into the mental health challenges and societal pressures faced by people navigating their 20s and 30s. Together, they explore key topics like planning life choices, understanding fertility timelines, and breaking free from societal expectations. Laura shares her inspiring journey to becoming a psychologist and offers practical insights on cultivating self-awareness, challenging negative core beliefs, and embracing your unique path. This episode is a must-listen for anyone striving to prioritize well-being, set boundaries, and live authentically.
We Also Talk About:
- Mental health and its complexities, particularly for individuals in their 20s and 30s.
- The impact of societal pressures on personal choices and life timelines.
- The importance of self-awareness and personal development.
- Challenges related to fertility and family planning among young women.
- The significance of planning and being strategic about life decisions.
- The nuances of people-pleasing behavior and its effects on mental health.
- The role of technology and social media in shaping self-perception and anxiety.
- The need to identify and align with personal values amidst societal expectations.
- The transition from childhood to young adulthood and the unique challenges faced.
- Encouragement to seek support and embrace individual journeys without societal constraints.
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Beth sits down with psychologist Dr. Laura Bersenbrugge to dive into the mental health challenges and societal pressures faced by people navigating their 20s and 30s. Together, they explore key topics like planning life choices, understanding fertility timelines, and breaking free from societal expectations. Laura shares her inspiring journey to becoming a psychologist and offers practical insights on cultivating self-awareness, challenging negative core beliefs, and embracing your unique path. This episode is a must-listen for anyone striving to prioritize well-being, set boundaries, and live authentically.
We Also Talk About:
- Mental health and its complexities, particularly for individuals in their 20s and 30s.
- The impact of societal pressures on personal choices and life timelines.
- The importance of self-awareness and personal development.
- Challenges related to fertility and family planning among young women.
- The significance of planning and being strategic about life decisions.
- The nuances of people-pleasing behavior and its effects on mental health.
- The role of technology and social media in shaping self-perception and anxiety.
- The need to identify and align with personal values amidst societal expectations.
- The transition from childhood to young adulthood and the unique challenges faced.
- Encouragement to seek support and embrace individual journeys without societal constraints.
Resources
- Subscribe on YouTube
- Subscribe on Apple Podcasts
- Subscribe on Spotify
- Follow on Instagram
- Follow on TikTok
- Follow on Pinterest
- Therapy Support Website
Affiliate Links:
Osea - Skincare By The Sea - Use code QTCPOD10 to receive a one time use 10% off your order at oseamalibu.com
Mowellens - Organic. Regenerative. - Use this link to check out clean skin care products we love mowellens.com
Bombas - Goods That Do Good - Use code QTC20 to receive 20% off your first order at shopbombas.com
Kuli Kali - Pure Mooring Powder - Use this link to shop some of the delicious superfoods we love kulikulifoods.com
Little Words Project - Built On Kindness - Use code QTC to receive 15% off your first order at littlewordsproject.com
Fusionary Formulas - Discover the Power of Turmeric - Use code QUIETTHECLOCK to receive 15% off your first order at fusionaryformulas.com
MomMed - Caring for Moms, Empowering Families - Shop all of MomMed’s products at mommed.pxf.io/QTC
Reflect - Finding your calm just got simple - Code QTC15 at meetreflect.com/shop?ref=qtc15 to receive 15% off your first order
Deweffect - Why the Deweffect? - Use code Quiet15 for 15% off at www.deweffect.com
Bite - It’s Time To Brush Better - Use code QTC10 for 10% your first order at https://www.bitetoothpastebits.com/QTC10
CalmiGo - Achieve Calm in 3 Minutes - Use code QTC30 for $30 off your first device at calmigo.com.
Blumene - Enhance, tighten, lift and rejuvenate at home - Use Code QTC for 35% off the Best Sellers Collection at https://blumene.com?sca_ref=7556235.ZiTyRI2G2S
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- Embracing introspection and finding meaning in struggles
Resources
- Subscribe on YouTube
- Subscribe on Apple Podcasts
- Subscribe on Spotify
- Follow on Instagram
- Follow on TikTok
- Follow on Pinterest
- Therapy Support Website
Affiliate Links:
Osea - Skincare By The Sea - Use code QTCPOD10 to receive a one time use 10% off your order at oseamalibu.com
Mowellens - Organic. Regenerative. - Use this link to check out clean skin care products we love mowellens.com
Bombas - Goods That Do Good - Use code QTC20 to receive 20% off your first order at shopbombas.com
Kuli Kali - Pure Mooring Powder - Use this link to shop some of the delicious superfoods we love kulikulifoods.com
Little Words Project - Built On Kindness - Use code QTC to receive 15% off your first order at littlewordsproject.com
Fusionary Formulas - Discover the Power of Turmeric - Use code QUIETTHECLOCK to receive 15% off your first order at fusionaryformulas.com
MomMed - Caring for Moms, Empowering Families - Shop all of MomMed’s products at mommed.pxf.io/QTC
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- Holistic approaches to healthcare and women's wellness
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- Building community and support for those facing fertility and health challenges
Resources
- Subscribe on YouTube
- Subscribe on Apple Podcasts
- Subscribe on Spotify
- Follow on Instagram
- Follow on TikTok
- Follow on Pinterest
- Therapy Support Website
Affiliate Links:
Osea - Skincare By The Sea - Use code QTCPOD10 to receive a one time use 10% off your order at oseamalibu.com
Mowellens - Organic. Regenerative. - Use this link to check out clean skin care products we love mowellens.com
Bombas - Goods That Do Good - Use code QTC20 to receive 20% off your first order at shopbombas.com
Kuli Kali - Pure Mooring Powder - Use this link to shop some of the delicious superfoods we love kulikulifoods.com
Little Words Project - Built On Kindness - Use code QTC to receive 15% off your first order at littlewordsproject.com
Fusionary Formulas - Discover the Power of Turmeric - Use code QUIETTHECLOCK to receive 15% off your first order at fusionaryformulas.com
MomMed - Caring for Moms, Empowering Families - Shop all of MomMed’s products at mommed.pxf.io/QTC
Reflect - Finding your calm just got simple - Code QTC15 at meetreflect.com/shop?ref=qtc15 to receive 15% off your first order
Deweffect - Why the Deweffect? - Use code Quiet15 for 15% off at www.deweffect.com
Bite - It’s Time To Brush Better - Use code QTC10 for 10% your first order at https://www.bitetoothpastebits.com/QTC10
CalmiGo - Achieve Calm in 3 Minutes - Use code QTC30 for $30 off your first device at calmigo.com.
Blumene - Enhance, tighten, lift and rejuvenate at home - Use Code QTC for 35% off the Best Sellers Collection at https://blumene.com?sca_ref=7556235.ZiTyRI2G2S
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