Step 4 - Help Me See What I Am Not Seeing w/ Bill K
08/20/24 • 50 min
In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin B., a recovering sex addict, discusses Step Four of the 12-step recovery program with guest Bill K. Bill shares his personal journey, exploring his struggles with sex addiction, his family’s history with alcoholism, and the impact of past traumas. He recounts his experiences working on a searching and fearless moral inventory, revealing both his weaknesses and strengths. Bill emphasizes the importance of honesty, forgiveness, and letting go of fears, illustrating how Step Four helped him uncover his sins and grace-filled moments, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of God's love and a path toward redemption. Key announcements include the virtual SAL conference and the podcast's sponsorship by Circles of Grace.
Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference.
Learn more about our conference sponsor - Circles of Grace.
00:00 Introduction and Announcements
01:49 Introduction to Step Four
02:33 Bill K's Background and Journey
03:21 The Impact of Addiction
05:16 Facing the Past and Finding Recovery
08:00 Understanding Step Four
14:24 The Role of a Sponsor
16:02 Identifying Character Defects and Strengths
22:42 The Importance of Honesty and Vulnerability
29:44 Working Through Resentments and Fears
41:14 Addressing Harms and Making Amends
45:45 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
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In this episode of the Pathway to Recovery podcast, host Justin B., a recovering sex addict, discusses Step Four of the 12-step recovery program with guest Bill K. Bill shares his personal journey, exploring his struggles with sex addiction, his family’s history with alcoholism, and the impact of past traumas. He recounts his experiences working on a searching and fearless moral inventory, revealing both his weaknesses and strengths. Bill emphasizes the importance of honesty, forgiveness, and letting go of fears, illustrating how Step Four helped him uncover his sins and grace-filled moments, ultimately leading to a deeper understanding of God's love and a path toward redemption. Key announcements include the virtual SAL conference and the podcast's sponsorship by Circles of Grace.
Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference.
Learn more about our conference sponsor - Circles of Grace.
00:00 Introduction and Announcements
01:49 Introduction to Step Four
02:33 Bill K's Background and Journey
03:21 The Impact of Addiction
05:16 Facing the Past and Finding Recovery
08:00 Understanding Step Four
14:24 The Role of a Sponsor
16:02 Identifying Character Defects and Strengths
22:42 The Importance of Honesty and Vulnerability
29:44 Working Through Resentments and Fears
41:14 Addressing Harms and Making Amends
45:45 Final Thoughts and Encouragement
SA Lifeline Foundation
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Transcripts
Previous Episode
Q&A - Is relapse a part of recovery?
In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the concept of relapse in the context of recovery from sexual addiction. The main discussion revolves around whether relapse is part of recovery, differentiating between terms like lapse and relapse, and emphasizing the importance of rigorous honesty and a recovery mindset for long-term recovery. They also address the partner's perspective on dealing with relapse and the importance of having a relapse preparedness plan in place for safety. Throughout, they highlight the necessity of continuous and honest recovery efforts for sustainable recovery.
Register for the 2024 S.A. Lifeline Conference.
Learn more about our conference sponsor - Circles of Grace.
Check out Dr. Jill Manning's Relapse Preparedness Plan download.
00:00 Introduction and Announcements
00:21 Upcoming SA Lifeline Virtual Conference
01:56 Q&A: Is Relapse a Part of Recovery?
02:58 Defining Lapse vs. Relapse
04:11 The Importance of Rigorous Honesty
08:52 White Knuckle Sobriety vs. Positive Sobriety
12:04 Relapse Preparedness for Betrayed Partners
15:36 Conclusion and Final Thoughts
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Next Episode
Q&A - What are some barriers to working Step 4 and how do I overcome them?
In this episode, hosts Tara McCausland and Justin B. discuss the challenges and significance of Step Four in the recovery process. The hosts elaborate on the fears and barriers associated with Step Four, emphasizing the need for trust in God, honesty, time, and support from sponsors and group members. They address the added complexities for betrayed partners dealing with acute trauma and discuss the need for individuals and groups to acknowledge the trauma and provide space and time for partners to achieve adequate safety and stability before proceeding with step 4 work. The episode concludes with insights on embracing pain as a necessary step towards progress and healing.
00:00 Introduction and Conference Announcement Click here to learn more about our conference sponsor, Circles of Grace.
01:49 Understanding Step Four
05:05 Personal Experiences with Step Four
08:52 Support Systems in Step Four
12:45 Addressing Betrayed Partners
20:05 The Role of Pain in Recovery
22:26 Encouragement and Final Thoughts
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SAL 12 Step
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Transcripts
Pathway to Recovery - Step 4 - Help Me See What I Am Not Seeing w/ Bill K
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Step 4 - Bill K - Help Me to See What I am Not Seeing
[00:00:00] Justin B: Welcome to the Pathway to Recovery podcast. My name is Justin B, and I am a grateful recovering sex addict, grateful to be here today and be one of the hosts of the Pathway to Recovery podcast. Before we get started in today's conversation that I'm having with Bill K about step four, I've got a couple of very important things that I need to bring up about a sponsor that we have he
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