Gaslighting, Betrayal Blindness & Self-Deception w/ Michelle Mays
10/01/24 • 48 min
In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Michelle Mays about the complex and harmful phenomenon of gaslighting. Mays explains the four types of gaslighting—lying, reality manipulation, scapegoating, and coercion—and the impact each has on those who experience betrayal trauma. The discussion delves into the mental health ramifications, the stages of gaslighting, and the journey of healing for both the gaslighter and the gaslighted. Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and professional support, the episode offers valuable insights into overcoming the layers of self-deception and relational harm caused by gaslighting.
Connect with Michelle at www.michellemays.com or www.relationalrecovery.com
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:53 Podcast Update
01:57 Introducing Michelle Mays
03:07 Understanding Gaslighting
03:47 Types of Gaslighting
04:29 Impact of Gaslighting on Mental Health
06:14 Scapegoating and Coercion
10:15 Recognizing Gaslighting in Relationships
14:39 Addicted Partner's Perspective
20:46 Stages of Gaslighting for Betrayed Partners
22:38 Stage Two: Defense Mechanisms
23:51 Stage Three: Depression and Despair
27:50 Understanding Betrayal Blindness
37:08 Healing from Gaslighting
46:12 Final Thoughts and Advice
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In this episode, host Tara McCausland speaks with Michelle Mays about the complex and harmful phenomenon of gaslighting. Mays explains the four types of gaslighting—lying, reality manipulation, scapegoating, and coercion—and the impact each has on those who experience betrayal trauma. The discussion delves into the mental health ramifications, the stages of gaslighting, and the journey of healing for both the gaslighter and the gaslighted. Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and professional support, the episode offers valuable insights into overcoming the layers of self-deception and relational harm caused by gaslighting.
Connect with Michelle at www.michellemays.com or www.relationalrecovery.com
00:00 Welcome and Introduction
00:53 Podcast Update
01:57 Introducing Michelle Mays
03:07 Understanding Gaslighting
03:47 Types of Gaslighting
04:29 Impact of Gaslighting on Mental Health
06:14 Scapegoating and Coercion
10:15 Recognizing Gaslighting in Relationships
14:39 Addicted Partner's Perspective
20:46 Stages of Gaslighting for Betrayed Partners
22:38 Stage Two: Defense Mechanisms
23:51 Stage Three: Depression and Despair
27:50 Understanding Betrayal Blindness
37:08 Healing from Gaslighting
46:12 Final Thoughts and Advice
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Pathway to Recovery - Gaslighting, Betrayal Blindness & Self-Deception w/ Michelle Mays
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Gaslighting, Betrayal Blindness & Self-Deception w/ Michelle Mays
Tara: [00:00:00] Hello, Pathway to Recovery listeners. So happy that you're here with me today. Before I introduce our guest for today's episode, which I'm really excited to share with you, this was an excellent episode about gaslighting. But I wanted to just give you a little heads up. Justin and I have been putting out episodes faithfully every week for about a year [00:01:00] and a
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