Teachers
10/12/22 • 54 min
Where are our teachers? This episode is specifically for you! We've gotten questions about how you might implement this type of parenting/relationship building in a classroom, so we decided to talk about it!
Before we can talk about classroom management strategies, we HAVE to remember the brain science associated with our kids. If you're not familiar with that, listen here, here, and here! When kids (or adults) have flipped their lid, they are incapable of learning new information, making good choices, and processing language.
If you are contributing signs of danger to kids when they are dysregulated, their nervous systems will not allow them to calm or follow directions. Signs of danger include yelling, angry facial expressions, threatening body posture, etc. These responses to behavior will ALWAYS lead to increased dysregulation and more poor behavior.
1. Consider your non-negotiables - these should generally only be safety related (physical, emotional, social, academic safety)
2. If you are constantly triggered by the same behaviors, you may want to look at that for yourself and try to determine what is driving that feeling in you
Sometimes teachers feel like if they don't stay firm on everything, they might lose control and this is really more of a myth. The more boxed in people feel the more this will trigger their systems. The more flexibility and negotiation you can integrate into your classroom, the more kids will feel in control and responsible for themselves.
Our #1 tip for managing behavior in the classroom: LET KIDS LISTEN TO THEIR BODIES!!! Let them:
- go tothe bathroom when they need to
- eat when they're hungry
- stand up when they need to
- move around to regulate
- take a break when needed
Discipline is a hot button topic in most schools and classrooms, with lots of differing opinions. In our opinion, behavior charts generally create shame, embarrassment, and guilt in kids, which research has shown does not actually change behaviors long term and can do more damage, particularly for the kids who struggle behaviorally. This is true even for adults, which has been identified here. If you want more information on how these charts and systems are problematic, check out this article, or this video.
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Where are our teachers? This episode is specifically for you! We've gotten questions about how you might implement this type of parenting/relationship building in a classroom, so we decided to talk about it!
Before we can talk about classroom management strategies, we HAVE to remember the brain science associated with our kids. If you're not familiar with that, listen here, here, and here! When kids (or adults) have flipped their lid, they are incapable of learning new information, making good choices, and processing language.
If you are contributing signs of danger to kids when they are dysregulated, their nervous systems will not allow them to calm or follow directions. Signs of danger include yelling, angry facial expressions, threatening body posture, etc. These responses to behavior will ALWAYS lead to increased dysregulation and more poor behavior.
1. Consider your non-negotiables - these should generally only be safety related (physical, emotional, social, academic safety)
2. If you are constantly triggered by the same behaviors, you may want to look at that for yourself and try to determine what is driving that feeling in you
Sometimes teachers feel like if they don't stay firm on everything, they might lose control and this is really more of a myth. The more boxed in people feel the more this will trigger their systems. The more flexibility and negotiation you can integrate into your classroom, the more kids will feel in control and responsible for themselves.
Our #1 tip for managing behavior in the classroom: LET KIDS LISTEN TO THEIR BODIES!!! Let them:
- go tothe bathroom when they need to
- eat when they're hungry
- stand up when they need to
- move around to regulate
- take a break when needed
Discipline is a hot button topic in most schools and classrooms, with lots of differing opinions. In our opinion, behavior charts generally create shame, embarrassment, and guilt in kids, which research has shown does not actually change behaviors long term and can do more damage, particularly for the kids who struggle behaviorally. This is true even for adults, which has been identified here. If you want more information on how these charts and systems are problematic, check out this article, or this video.
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Previous Episode
Girls, Girls, Girls
This episode continues our discussion about gender and parenting, talking through how to raise resilient girls.
Overall, we want our daughters to own their voice and opinions, be confident in their thoughts and feelings, and to understand their worth and that it's not dependent on anyone else.
Similar to boys, we want to avoid most of the gender stereotypes, including clothing, toys, and activities. We always want to model healthy relationships and gender roles/norms. How you structure your family and divide responsibilities is not what's most important, but instead how you talk about those roles and responsibilities is what will teach your kids how to think about these activities.
It's very important that our girls learn that they are not responsible for the behavior of other people. This can start really small but grow as they age to make them responsible for the anger, sadness, violence, or assult of other people.
Research has clearly demonstrated the impact social media has on our girls and their self esteem, mental health, and social well being. Research has also shown that basic education about how social media works can help protect our girls from the negative effects of social media as they enter adolescence.
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REPLAY: She Blinded me with Science
In this episode Leah really nerds out on the neuroscience associated with this type of parenting - did you know we have more than 5 senses?! She discusses several different theories and research, including the science of interoception, Allan Schore's paper on regulation and attachment, and Stephen Porges' Polyvagal Theory. While this information may be difficult to take in and fully understand, it also supports many of the ideas and interventions associated with parenting our kids from this perspective.
We want our kids to feel safe and connected, recognizing that the concept of neuroception means we're constantly scanning for danger. As parents, we don't want to be a sign of danger or feeling unsafe, requiring us to look at our response to our kids differently.
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