Seeking Support from Your Tribe, Dealing with Insecurities, and Getting Over a Breakup | ASK ME ANYTHING

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02/08/23 • 65 min

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In this week’s ASK ME ANYTHING, Kipp Sorensen and Shawn Villalovos take on your questions from the Iron Council and the Order of Man Facebook Group. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.

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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

(3:40) What are your thoughts on overcoming the shame cycle that you can experience when struggling with a habit you want to kick or a limiting belief you hold?

(15:30) Not a question but a best practice that has been impactful for bring my wife closer to me: If your spouse is a 'Words of Affirmation' partner (5 Love Languages), buy some small cards & write notes about why you love and appreciate them & hide them around the house for her to find at a later time. This has been a wonderful way for me to express my love to my wife and a nice surprise for her when she stumbles upon them.

(19:30) How do you get support and feedback from your tribe of men on deep private issues in your relationship while respecting the privacy of your girlfriend/wife and not exposing her personal stuff?

(28:00) I've read extreme ownership and the follow up book is on my book list, but what are some leadership courses or programs that you would recommend?

(33:30) How do you maintain your frame with your spouse, but at the same time, being humble and patient and kind.

(45:40) If you choose to put a man in your circle and he makes a mistake, is it your responsibility to hear him out?

(52:00) What would you say is your biggest insecurity or insecurities that you’re working on?

(58:50) How do you get over a breakup where you sacrificed everything for that person?

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SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

(3:40) What are your thoughts on overcoming the shame cycle that you can experience when struggling with a habit you want to kick or a limiting belief you hold?

(28:00) I've read extreme ownership and the follow up book is on my book list, but what are some leadership courses or programs that you would recommend?

(33:30) How do you maintain your frame with your spouse, but at the same time, being humble and patient and kind.

(45:40) If you choose to put a man in your circle and he makes a mistake, is it your responsibility to hear him out?

(52:00) What would you say is your biggest insecurity or insecurities that you’re working on?

(58:50) How do you get over a breakup where you sacrificed everything for that person?

Get your signed copy of Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto

For more information on the Iron Council brotherhood.

Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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Download the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner App and maximize your week.

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CONNOR BEATON | Acquainted with Our Anger

Anger issues are something a lot of us, as men, deal with – more than would like to admit. And, while most of us are pretty good at disguising our anger, frustration, and resentment, all too often, it’s lying just under the surface ready to expose itself to some unexpecting victim – usually the ones we love most. I’m joined by my friend, Connor Beaton, author of his newest book Men’s Work: A Practical Guide to Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, and Find Freedom. Today, we discuss what he calls “dysregulated” or erratic behavior and how to reign it in, overcoming the shadow of our fathers, the danger of self-abusive relationships, and why and how we need to become acquainted with our anger.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS:

How to get the most out of yourself
We are often the ones standing in our own way
Understanding your anger
Its ok to take care of yourself
We don’t need to try to solve people’s problems
Building a healthy relationship with Anger
What is hidden in the father will be revealed in the son
You can’t be a rock when you are searching for the approval of others
Men must develop the skill of self-validation
The role of God and faith
Four steps for working through anger

Get Conner’s book, Men’s Work, at the link below:

Mantalks.com/book

Get your signed copy of Ryan's new book, The Masculinity Manifesto

Want maximum health, wealth, relationships, and abundance in your life? Sign up for our free course, 30 Days to Battle Ready

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Download the NEW Order of Man Twelve-Week Battle Planner App and maximize your week.

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Vulnerability is Pointless Without This... | FRIDAY FIELD NOTES

In this week’s FRIDAY FIELD NOTES, Ryan Michler shares SIX steps to ensure that you are being “vulnerable” in an appropriate and effective way, through taking ACTION. Hit Ryan up on Instagram at @ryanmichler and share what’s working in your life.

SHOW HIGHLIGHTS

Evaluate two things before you share a vulnerability: a) who are you telling and b) why are you telling them