24: Decrease Porn Cravings Using Pleasure Conditioning
09/06/23 • 56 min
FREE LESSON: Pleasure Conditioning - Decrease Porn Cravings
To overcome porn addiction, we need to understand how our other daily choices and activities affect our susceptibility to addiction.
My first few years recovering from porn were a real struggle. If I would have known the concepts of pleasure conditioning way back then, I would have had an easier time quitting porn.
Here’s the basic idea:
The more I engage in one type of pleasure or another, the more "conditioned" I become to that type of pleasure. So, the more frequently I engage in base pleasures, the more I’ll desire them; even negative pleasures, which the brain can find enticing. Similarly, the more I engage in meaningful and peaceful pleasures, the more I will desire those instead.
What are these types of pleasures?
- Base pleasures
- Meaningful pleasures
- Peaceful pleasures
Porn addiction recovery is not about battling cravings and temptations - it’s about setting up a physical, mental, and spiritual environment in which we don’t face as many of those cravings.
Base pleasure activities make us more susceptible to pornography addiction). We talk about what these specific activities are in the episode.
Meaningful and peaceful pleasures make us less prone to cravings for porn.
We find meaning in what we do when it fosters growth and/or blesses others. The more meaning we experience in life, the less we desire base pleasures, including addictive behaviors. We overcome the need for these not by simply stopping them, but by replacing them.
A life of high stimulation, instant gratification & constant distraction fosters mental chaos, depression, anxiety, and darkness.
If we want to stop watching porn, we need to give our mind time to rest and be still.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
MORE ARTICLES
The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
How to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps
8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from Porn
Stop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust Habits
Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction
FREE LESSON: Pleasure Conditioning - Decrease Porn Cravings
To overcome porn addiction, we need to understand how our other daily choices and activities affect our susceptibility to addiction.
My first few years recovering from porn were a real struggle. If I would have known the concepts of pleasure conditioning way back then, I would have had an easier time quitting porn.
Here’s the basic idea:
The more I engage in one type of pleasure or another, the more "conditioned" I become to that type of pleasure. So, the more frequently I engage in base pleasures, the more I’ll desire them; even negative pleasures, which the brain can find enticing. Similarly, the more I engage in meaningful and peaceful pleasures, the more I will desire those instead.
What are these types of pleasures?
- Base pleasures
- Meaningful pleasures
- Peaceful pleasures
Porn addiction recovery is not about battling cravings and temptations - it’s about setting up a physical, mental, and spiritual environment in which we don’t face as many of those cravings.
Base pleasure activities make us more susceptible to pornography addiction). We talk about what these specific activities are in the episode.
Meaningful and peaceful pleasures make us less prone to cravings for porn.
We find meaning in what we do when it fosters growth and/or blesses others. The more meaning we experience in life, the less we desire base pleasures, including addictive behaviors. We overcome the need for these not by simply stopping them, but by replacing them.
A life of high stimulation, instant gratification & constant distraction fosters mental chaos, depression, anxiety, and darkness.
If we want to stop watching porn, we need to give our mind time to rest and be still.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
MORE ARTICLES
The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
How to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps
8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from Porn
Stop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust Habits
Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction
Previous Episode
23: Porn Addiction Ruined My Sex Life: How Can I Fix It?
Do you feel like your porn addiction has ruined your sex life with your spouse? Do you worry that your feelings about sex will never be the same? Is porn a point of serious contention between you and your wife / husband?
Porn addiction can do a pretty serious number on our sex life. Watching porn trains our brain to view other people as objects. Despite our best efforts, sex with our spouse (instead of being a connective, intimate experience) can become an objectifying, means to an end.
We don’t like to talk about this. But the reality is that our sexual relationship - even when it is within the bonds of marriage - can be affected PERMANENTLY because of our pornography addiction. And that includes after we quit porn - even YEARS later.
This can feel very discouraging; like we’ll never be the same because of the effects of porn use.
But there is hope.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
MORE ARTICLES
The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
How to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps
8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from Porn
Stop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust Habits
Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction
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25: Getting Honest About Your Addiction
Today we’re going to talk about something that I have been historically very bad at - both during and after my addiction to porn. It’s honesty and accountability.
This is something I’ve been working a lot on in my own personal recovery - getting more REAL and honest with myself, God, and others about my pain, my feelings, my insecurities. It’s what I teach my clients to do in my porn addiction recovery program.
Not being “honest” from a place of self-pity, victimhood, or superiority. But from a place of humility, openness, and vulnerability.
When we’re an addict, we can get in the habit of telling lies. And most of those lies may not look that bad - they’re justifications, rationalizations, half-truths, stretching the truth. They’re defenses, or even “standing up for ourselves” when we think we’ve been wronged.
These lies are not just about our pornography addiction. They’re about everything - mostly about those things that cause us to feel:
- Shame
- Fear
- Insecurity
- Inadequacy
To overcome porn addiction, we’ve got to start being HONEST with ourselves, God, and others about these feelings. We need to stop hiding from them, and start leaning into them and moving through them with our Savior Jesus Christ.
“Honesty comes from seeing and accepting things as they really are. Accepting that I need God’s help, that He can help me, and that I am worthy of saving. When I start lying, being deceitful, or diving into my addiction it is because I don’t want to accept reality. The reality of my pain, my insecurity, and that God is always available to guide me through.” - Anonymous
You can break free of porn addiction, my friend. But first you must learn to be honest and open in every part of your life.
BUILD THE NO MORE PORN LIFESTYLE
FREE WORKSHOP: The 8 Keys to Lose Your Desire for Porn
FREE EBOOK: The 10 Tools to Conquer Porn Cravings
Intensive Porn Addiction Recovery Program
MORE ARTICLES
The 4 Root Causes of Porn Addiction
How to Help Someone with a Porn Addiction in 3 Steps
8 Rules to Get You 3 Months Sober from Porn
Stop Porn Cravings | 7 Tools to Overcome Fantasizing & Lust Habits
Trauma, Attachment, Shame & Porn Addiction
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