Cultivating Joy in Children: How To Get Through Difficult Times
05/04/23 • 12 min
Life is filled with difficult times so let's teach our children how to get through them. If they learn now they will be able to get through difficult times successfully as adults and become less anxiety ridden.
In this episode I talk about the importance of why children need to know how to do this and how we can teach them to do this.
How do we teach them?
- Respect their feelings. Don't sugar coat them. Don't tell them it's no big deal, don't tell them let it go. Instead, validate how they are feeling. You can say something like, "I can see why you are sad".
- Identify feelings.
- Allow yourself to feel them.
- Talk about feelings.
- Identify the physiological changes in your body when you have a feeling change.
- How can we feel better.
- Make a list of what you can do to feel better.
- Imagine your favorite place
- Take a walk
- Get a drink of water
- Take deep breaths
- Count to 50
- Jumping Jacks
- Stretches
- Play a game
- Talk with someone you trust
- Use a fidget
- Draw
- Write in a journal
- Blow bubbles
- Read a funny book
- Color
- Build something
- Listen to relaxing music
- Take a break
- Take a shower/bath
- Use a calming jar
- Gratitude
- You can also remember these steps by using the acronym RAIN
- Recognize what you’re feeling. Let yourself be open to your emotions of sadness, anger, or fear, and name it.
- Allow it to be here. Let go of any agenda for it to change and, for a few moments, give it permission to be just as it is.
- Investigate how it feels in your body on an energetic level without getting into the story behind it or trying to get rid of it. Bring a curiosity or interest that involves simply exploring the landscape of your emotion without needing to figure it out.
- Non-identification—meaning, don’t take it personally; don’t assume the experience reflects who you are at your core. (For example, don’t say to yourself, “I’m an angry person.”) Recognize that everyone experiences emotions; they are part of the human condition. Open up to that truth and don’t let it define you.
- Make a list of what you can do to feel better.
Drive-A-Logue link: https://drivealogue.com/?sca_ref=4141865.xLTkWKLvJW Put NJT in the coupon box for a 20% discount!
Lauren's Book, My Dad Died From ALS and How I Found Joy 30 Years Later
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B2J15M3Z
CONNECT WITH LAUREN AND HER FAMILY
Email: [email protected]
IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurensdailyjoy/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lauren.g.raymond
Life is filled with difficult times so let's teach our children how to get through them. If they learn now they will be able to get through difficult times successfully as adults and become less anxiety ridden.
In this episode I talk about the importance of why children need to know how to do this and how we can teach them to do this.
How do we teach them?
- Respect their feelings. Don't sugar coat them. Don't tell them it's no big deal, don't tell them let it go. Instead, validate how they are feeling. You can say something like, "I can see why you are sad".
- Identify feelings.
- Allow yourself to feel them.
- Talk about feelings.
- Identify the physiological changes in your body when you have a feeling change.
- How can we feel better.
- Make a list of what you can do to feel better.
- Imagine your favorite place
- Take a walk
- Get a drink of water
- Take deep breaths
- Count to 50
- Jumping Jacks
- Stretches
- Play a game
- Talk with someone you trust
- Use a fidget
- Draw
- Write in a journal
- Blow bubbles
- Read a funny book
- Color
- Build something
- Listen to relaxing music
- Take a break
- Take a shower/bath
- Use a calming jar
- Gratitude
- You can also remember these steps by using the acronym RAIN
- Recognize what you’re feeling. Let yourself be open to your emotions of sadness, anger, or fear, and name it.
- Allow it to be here. Let go of any agenda for it to change and, for a few moments, give it permission to be just as it is.
- Investigate how it feels in your body on an energetic level without getting into the story behind it or trying to get rid of it. Bring a curiosity or interest that involves simply exploring the landscape of your emotion without needing to figure it out.
- Non-identification—meaning, don’t take it personally; don’t assume the experience reflects who you are at your core. (For example, don’t say to yourself, “I’m an angry person.”) Recognize that everyone experiences emotions; they are part of the human condition. Open up to that truth and don’t let it define you.
- Make a list of what you can do to feel better.
Drive-A-Logue link: https://drivealogue.com/?sca_ref=4141865.xLTkWKLvJW Put NJT in the coupon box for a 20% discount!
Lauren's Book, My Dad Died From ALS and How I Found Joy 30 Years Later
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B2J15M3Z
CONNECT WITH LAUREN AND HER FAMILY
Email: [email protected]
IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurensdailyjoy/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lauren.g.raymond
Previous Episode
Sharing JOY through "My Aloof Vagina" with Martha McBride
I'm so excited to share this conversation with Martha McBride. We connected over social media and found we have a lot in common, especially our goal to live in JOY daily.
Martha shares her experience with a bad breakup that led to depression and how she was then able to get out of that.
She also shares how she knows she is living in a state of JOY each day. One way she knows is if she is singing. Not just songs on the radio but even when she can't find her keys. Haha! I love it! She also shares how she consciously chooses JOY during daily tasks that "have to" be accomplished.
Finally, we hear how she is sharing JOY with others, especially with women who are in perimenopause. How BRILLIANT is this! Menopause is something that isn't talked about and women have a negative connotation about this time of their lives.
Martha really brings laughter, light, information, and JOY into a topic that we all think is so negative!
Well, ladies...It DOESN'T have to be!!!
Here is a link to her podcast!
https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/my-aloof-vagina-a-cheeky-guide-to-perimenopause/id1671264417
If you are approaching this time in your life, are going through it, or have passed through it, I encourage you to listen to this wonderful podcast!!!
Drive-A-Logue link: https://drivealogue.com/?sca_ref=4141865.xLTkWKLvJW Put NJT in the coupon box for a 20% discount!
Lauren's Book, My Dad Died From ALS and How I Found Joy 30 Years Later
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B2J15M3Z
CONNECT WITH LAUREN AND HER FAMILY
Email: [email protected]
IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurensdailyjoy/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lauren.g.raymond
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Invitation to the Listeners
As we celebrate finishing our first year of podcasting, we are inviting listeners to share with us topics they want to hear about in season 2.
What areas in your family are joy crushers?
Do you need tips on creating more joy?
Do you want to share with us how you strive to bring JOY into yours and your family's life?
Bring it on and reach out so we can continue to bring value to every listener out there.
We all can use MORE JOY in our DAILY LIVES!
Drive-A-Logue link: https://drivealogue.com/?sca_ref=4141865.xLTkWKLvJW Put NJT in the coupon box for a 20% discount!
Lauren's Book, My Dad Died From ALS and How I Found Joy 30 Years Later
https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0B2J15M3Z
CONNECT WITH LAUREN AND HER FAMILY
Email: [email protected]
IG: https://www.instagram.com/laurensdailyjoy/
FB: https://www.facebook.com/lauren.g.raymond
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