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What Is Draining My Energy? Inside an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Debrief [coaching]
04/16/25 • 58 min
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What’s really draining your energy isn’t solely the stressors in your life but the patterns you’ve learned to deal with them. If you’re feeling emotionally drained, constantly second-guessing yourself, or stuck in a cycle of over-responsibility and burnout—you’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you. The ways your unconscious has learned to help you may no longer support the life you want. While the state of the world is undeniably overwhelming, many of the most persistent energy drains come from within—especially in how we respond to stress, pressure, and high expectations. In this real-life Energy Leadership Index (ELI) debrief, I walk through a coaching session with a creative, purpose-driven client who’s feeling depleted. Together, we explore how her energy is shaped by both external stressors and internal beliefs, including guilt around setting boundaries, fear of letting others down, and the pressure to always get things right.
In this episode of Mindset Unlimited, you’ll hear Valerie use the Energy Leadership Index Assessment Debrief to help a client explore the question: “What’s really draining your energy and how can you reclaim it using your strengths?”
Some of what we engage in this episode include:
- What the Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment is and how it works
- The 7 levels of energy and how they influence stress, mindset, and behavior
- How your energy levels can lead to exhaustion, motivation, and or both
- Identifying practical strategies that fit you when it comes to supports like setting boundaries and honoring your capacity
If you’re navigating stress, fatigue, or emotional exhaustion and want insight into how to reclaim your energy and feel more empowered, this episode is for you.
LINKS TO REFERENCES MADE IN THIS EPISODE:
Sign up for the Energy Leadership Index Assessment Use Code APRILELI for $150 off!
Unlocking Your Leadership Energy episode
You’re More Than Your Personality Test episode
CONNECT WITH VALERIE:
Sign up for Valerie’s newsletter
Apply to be coached on the podcast
This podcast was produced by Valerie Friedlander Coaching
Proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective
What’s really draining your energy isn’t solely the stressors in your life but the patterns you’ve learned to deal with them. If you’re feeling emotionally drained, constantly second-guessing yourself, or stuck in a cycle of over-responsibility and burnout—you’re not alone, and there’s nothing wrong with you. The ways your unconscious has learned to help you may no longer support the life you want. While the state of the world is undeniably overwhelming, many of the most persistent energy drains come from within—especially in how we respond to stress, pressure, and high expectations. In this real-life Energy Leadership Index (ELI) debrief, I walk through a coaching session with a creative, purpose-driven client who’s feeling depleted. Together, we explore how her energy is shaped by both external stressors and internal beliefs, including guilt around setting boundaries, fear of letting others down, and the pressure to always get things right.
In this episode of Mindset Unlimited, you’ll hear Valerie use the Energy Leadership Index Assessment Debrief to help a client explore the question: “What’s really draining your energy and how can you reclaim it using your strengths?”
Some of what we engage in this episode include:
- What the Energy Leadership Index (ELI) Assessment is and how it works
- The 7 levels of energy and how they influence stress, mindset, and behavior
- How your energy levels can lead to exhaustion, motivation, and or both
- Identifying practical strategies that fit you when it comes to supports like setting boundaries and honoring your capacity
If you’re navigating stress, fatigue, or emotional exhaustion and want insight into how to reclaim your energy and feel more empowered, this episode is for you.
LINKS TO REFERENCES MADE IN THIS EPISODE:
Sign up for the Energy Leadership Index Assessment Use Code APRILELI for $150 off!
Unlocking Your Leadership Energy episode
You’re More Than Your Personality Test episode
CONNECT WITH VALERIE:
Sign up for Valerie’s newsletter
Apply to be coached on the podcast
This podcast was produced by Valerie Friedlander Coaching
Proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective
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LINKS TO REFERENCES MADE IN THIS EPISODE:
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Forbes article Best Tests to Help You Understand Your Strengths and Weaknesses
You’re More Than Your Personality Test episode
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Stress Release Strategies guide
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This podcast was produced by Valerie Friedlander Coaching
Proud member of the Feminist Podcasters Collective
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Mindset Unlimited: Tips, Tools, and Inspiration for Women in a Time of Change - What Is Draining My Energy? Inside an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Debrief [coaching]
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Hello, my friends, and welcome to another episode of Mindset unlimited. Today we are talking about what's really draining your energy. An inside look into the ELI debrief. Eli stands for energy leadership index, and the debrief is what you get after you take the assessment. We do the debrief, because it's really necessary to be able to understand the assessment. Since this is an attitudinal assessment rather than a personality assessmen
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