#83 Lost Boys

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11/01/24 • 52 min

We're diving into the sticky topic of boys today. We tackle the often-overlooked struggles boys face in today’s world, inspired partly by Richard Reeves from the Brookings Institution (youtube link below). While we wholeheartedly celebrate the progress made for girls and women—a movement that is crucial and long overdue—we also need to shine a light on the alarming new statistics regarding boys: declining college graduation rates, slipping school performance, and the fact that 4 out of 5 suicides are male. What does modern masculinity look like? Is there still a place for masculinity in our modern society? And how do we define it when so much of historical masculinity needs to evolve or be left behind?

This topic is undeniably sticky. It can feel like supporting boys somehow detracts from empowering our daughters, but we’re here to set the record straight: lifting up one group doesn’t mean leaving another behind. We can—and must—do both!

As we explore these complex issues, we’re excited to announce that today, November 1, coincides with the kickoff of Movember! Max is diving into the spirit of the month by growing his first mustache to raise funds for men’s health issues. Join us in making a difference: you can donate to Max's Movember campaign below or be a part of the inaugural Milkless Mo team to help raise awareness and funds.

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#82 Sharing the Load with Dr. Morgan Cutlip (Pt. 2)

In the second episode with Dr. Morgan Cutlip, we dive deeper into the complexities of attachment styles and the mental load that accompanies parenting. Dr. Cutlip shares her insights on the invisible burdens we carry and how they impact our relationships.

From balancing emotional well-being to the logistics of daily life, we explore the fine line between nurturing and overextending ourselves. As Max and Matt navigate the challenges of parenting, they discuss the often-unseen pressures that lead to burnout and resentment. Dr. Cutlip offers practical advice on how to foster healthier communication with partners, emphasizing the importance of mutual support and understanding.

Whether you’re knee-deep in laundry or juggling sports schedules, this episode is packed with valuable strategies to help you lighten your mental load and strengthen your family dynamic.

And here’s the link to the guide Dr. Cutlip mentions in the episode about how to talk about the mental load.
And a link to her book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself
And a link to her new book, A Better Share
And a link to her Instagram

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#84 No Drama Discipline w/ Author Tina Payne Bryson, PhD (Pt. 1)

One of the main reasons Matt and Max started this podcast was to become better parents themselves, and both of them think this might be the most helpful episode they've ever been a part of. Tina Payne Bryson, PhD - the renowned co-author of Best Sellers like Whole Brained Child, No Drama Discipline, The Yes Brain, The Power of Showing up, and the upcoming The Way of Play - joins the pod for a wide-ranging conversation on everything from discipline, to regulation, to the things we broadly misunderstand about "gentle parenting."
Dr. Bryson's work has preceded her in both of our households, with her and Dr. Dan Siegel's science-backed Whole Brain Parenting approach having informed the way we parent for years. This was the rare and wonderful occasion when the person herself totally lives up to the power of her work. Brilliant, honest, practical, relatable, and genuinely funny - Dr. Bryson is literally spitting wisdom out here. We hope you enjoy the conversation as much as we did. (This is Part 1, enjoy Part 2 next!)

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