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Max and Matt dive deep into the emotional complexities of work trips — how they feel before, during, and after leaving their families behind. The lead-up is filled with guilt and anxiety, and while the trip itself might offer a bit of relief, there’s no escaping the emotional rollercoaster of being away from the kids and the tension with partners. From the chaotic reentry period to the guilt of missing milestones, they talk through how to manage these feelings of guilt while balancing their roles as dads and professionals. They also discuss the dynamics with their partners and kids, the expectations that come with travel, and why sometimes, the family routine takes a little detour when dad's away. Max and Matt explore the mixed emotions of being away — the pangs of leaving your partner with the kids, the inevitable "tantrums" when you come back, and how these trips impact family life and the overall family dynamic. Let's gooo!

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It's time for some HOT TAKES. This is a collection, in no particular order, of things that have made Matt and Max's family life a little easier and better - without requiring much work. Cause really, who has time to add anything more these days? From the modestly profound, to the profoundly modest, here are eleven sweet, juicy pieces of low-hanging-fruit.

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There's no denying it: everybody is worse at everything when they're tired. And that may be more true of parenting than pretty much anything else. We're less patient, less fun, and quicker to snap at our kids when we're gassed. We all know it, and yet a large percentage of us consistently self-sabotage by staying up later than we should. Whether it's doom scrolling in bed, vegging on the couch watching TV, or worst of all: doing both at the same time, the phenomenon of "revenge bedtime procrastination" is widespread and growing. There has been a good deal of recent research into the topic, and Matt and Max are going to dig into it. They'll also speak quite a bit from personal experience - which, unfortunately, they've got a lot of. These two night owls share humiliating stories of self-inflicted sleep deprivation, trade strategies for avoiding those own-goals, and try to figure out why they just can't make themselves let go of the day. This may feel like a strange topic for an entire episode. But if you're chronically underslept, getting even one more hour a night could give you a bigger quality of life bump than just about anything else you could do. So, if you’re bingeing this episode at 2:30am... go the F to sleep and listen tomorrow morning! Otherwise, pour yourself a coffee (early in the day) and buckle up. It’s a fun one. Let’s go!

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We didn't know we had a temper until we had kids. Have you ever completely blown your top? When your kids push your buttons, what's the worst thing you've said or done? All parents deal with frustration and anger when raising kids. On this episode, we swap embarrassing stories from when we've lost it, look at a few studies, and trade tips and strategies to keep the volcano from erupting. This is a really fun episode so we hope you enjoy it!
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We're diving into the sticky topic of boys today. We tackle the often-overlooked struggles boys face in today’s world, inspired partly by Richard Reeves from the Brookings Institution (youtube link below). While we wholeheartedly celebrate the progress made for girls and women—a movement that is crucial and long overdue—we also need to shine a light on the alarming new statistics regarding boys: declining college graduation rates, slipping school performance, and the fact that 4 out of 5 suicides are male. What does modern masculinity look like? Is there still a place for masculinity in our modern society? And how do we define it when so much of historical masculinity needs to evolve or be left behind?

This topic is undeniably sticky. It can feel like supporting boys somehow detracts from empowering our daughters, but we’re here to set the record straight: lifting up one group doesn’t mean leaving another behind. We can—and must—do both!

As we explore these complex issues, we’re excited to announce that today, November 1, coincides with the kickoff of Movember! Max is diving into the spirit of the month by growing his first mustache to raise funds for men’s health issues. Join us in making a difference: you can donate to Max's Movember campaign below or be a part of the inaugural Milkless Mo team to help raise awareness and funds.

• Join Movember Yourself on Team Milkless Mo
• Donate to Max's Movember Page
• Richard Reeve's Youtube Video we Referenced

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