Dealing with Lack of Physical Attraction

04/10/24 • 10 min

Welcome back to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker Podcast. On this week's episode, Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss the complexities of physical attraction in dating and relationships. They go into the question of what to do when someone attempts to set you up with a person who is considered a great match, but you don't find them physically attractive.
Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath explore the nuances of this situation and provide insights on how to approach it.
Key Points:
The Importance of Physical Attraction: Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the significance of physical attraction in relationships, acknowledging its role while also exploring its limitations.
Handling "Hard No" Situations: The hosts provide advice on how to navigate situations where there is an immediate lack of physical attraction and when it's appropriate to decline a potential match outright.
Giving It a Chance: Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath share anecdotes and examples of instances where initial lack of physical attraction evolved after giving the relationship a chance, emphasizing the value of getting to know someone beyond their appearance.
Patience and Decision-Making: The episode concludes with a blessing for patience and wisdom, underscoring the importance of taking time to make the right decision after a few dates and allowing both the heart and mind to align.

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How Long Does It Take to Build Trust?

Join us this week on "Matchmaker Matchmaker" as Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath discuss trust in relationships. They explore the time it takes to establish trust, the link between commitment and the growth of trust, and the impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on trust-building. Throughout the episode, they share practical perspectives, stressing the importance of open communication to navigate challenges related to trust. Tune in to unravel the layers of trust and its pivotal role in the journey of love and commitment.
Key Points:
Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath emphasize the time it takes to develop trust, highlighting that true trust often takes years to develop, as supported by research findings.
Aleeza and Rabbi discuss the correlation between commitment and the growth of trust, emphasizing that trust evolves with the level of commitment within the relationship.
The impact of personal insecurities and past traumas on the timeline for establishing trust is addressed, with the hosts stressing the importance of open communication to navigate these challenges.
Throughout the episode, practical perspectives are shared, shedding light on the significance of consistency, reliability, vulnerability, and personal integrity in building trust within relationships.

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Is Love Enough?

Welcome to another episode of the Matchmaker Matchmaker podcast where your hosts, Jewish dating experts Aleeza Ben Shalom and Rabbi Yisroel Bernath, discuss this week's listeners' question: 'What do you do when a girl doesn't want you But you know, she loves you?'
They break down emotional dilemmas, historical perspectives on marriage, and the practical aspects needed beyond love to build a sustainable relationship.
Key Points Discussed:
Discussion on why love might not be sufficient for marriage, emphasizing compatibility and shared life paths.
Exploring how the concept of marrying solely for love is a relatively modern development, contrasting with historical reasons such as financial or social advantages.
The importance of aligning on life goals, values, and personal habits is discussed as essential alongside love for a healthy marriage.
Evaluating whether love itself can sustain a marriage and what other elements are crucial for a lasting partnership.

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