Why you MUST Stop Apologizing // How the Apologetic Demeanor Erodes Confidence
05/13/23 • 38 min
068. Do you find yourself constantly apologizing for things that don't require an apology? Do you downplay your accomplishments or seek approval excessively?
I've been there too, but in this episode, I share my personal experiences with an apologetic demeanor and encourage you to own your talents and express yourself confidently without apologizing.
In the discussion, I highlight three common ways in which people demonstrate an apologetic demeanor: excessive apologizing, downplaying accomplishments, and seeking approval excessively. I stress the importance of recognizing and owning your strengths and talents, even if you're just starting out.
Furthermore, I urge you to set boundaries and assert yourself in a polite and thoughtful manner, without seeking permission or approval excessively. I believe that having boundaries is vital to protect yourself from being bulldozed over in life and that apologizing for your boundaries is not helpful.
Join me in this inspiring episode, which offers free journal prompts, and challenge yourself to overcome your apologetic behavior and become more assertive. It's time to own your talents, set your boundaries, and express yourself confidently without apology!
Intro 00:08:30 The Main Issue 00:10:19 Confidence and Identity 00:13:05 List of Behaviours 00:14:44 Don't Downplay Your Strengths 00:22:06 Saying Sorry When It's Not Your Fault 00:27:21 Three Strategies to Help 00:34:41 Journal Prompts 00:38:00 Closing
✷ Website → https://marijanel.com/
✷ Companion YouTube Video → https://youtu.be/uYxsMfyzXD8
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068. Do you find yourself constantly apologizing for things that don't require an apology? Do you downplay your accomplishments or seek approval excessively?
I've been there too, but in this episode, I share my personal experiences with an apologetic demeanor and encourage you to own your talents and express yourself confidently without apologizing.
In the discussion, I highlight three common ways in which people demonstrate an apologetic demeanor: excessive apologizing, downplaying accomplishments, and seeking approval excessively. I stress the importance of recognizing and owning your strengths and talents, even if you're just starting out.
Furthermore, I urge you to set boundaries and assert yourself in a polite and thoughtful manner, without seeking permission or approval excessively. I believe that having boundaries is vital to protect yourself from being bulldozed over in life and that apologizing for your boundaries is not helpful.
Join me in this inspiring episode, which offers free journal prompts, and challenge yourself to overcome your apologetic behavior and become more assertive. It's time to own your talents, set your boundaries, and express yourself confidently without apology!
Intro 00:08:30 The Main Issue 00:10:19 Confidence and Identity 00:13:05 List of Behaviours 00:14:44 Don't Downplay Your Strengths 00:22:06 Saying Sorry When It's Not Your Fault 00:27:21 Three Strategies to Help 00:34:41 Journal Prompts 00:38:00 Closing
✷ Website → https://marijanel.com/
✷ Companion YouTube Video → https://youtu.be/uYxsMfyzXD8
✷ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/marijanel/
✷ Support the Show → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Marijanel
✷ Music → https://www.epidemicsound.com/
Previous Episode
Breaking Free from People-Pleasing: Insights and Tips
067. Together we will explore ways to break free from the trap of people-pleasing, we will also look at its benefits, and its unhealthy aspects.
I share personal stories and offer tips on how to recognize the indicators of people-pleasing and how to deal with the motivation behind it.
While pleasing people is an act of love, the danger comes in when people-pleasing hinders individuals from being true to themselves.
Difficulty saying no and setting boundaries are just a couple of the indicators of people-pleasing. Does this ring a bell?
Today I encourage you to reflect on their motivations and seek professional help if needed to overcome any deeper-rooted issues related to seeking approval or fear of rejection. The ultimate goal is to find one's path of destiny and shine where one has the most calling and ability.
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✷ Complimenting YouTube Video → https://youtu.be/kcYiWMIj7Ug
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✷ Broll →https://artlist.io/00:00:00 Intro 00:02:06 The danger of not being true to yourself 00:04:28 How do you know you’re a people pleaser? 00:06:46 People pleasing is like a... 00:08:40 Other indicators of people-pleasing 00:12:50 It's about our motivation 00:15:15 My people pleasing pivot 00:18:39 When I ask How Did I Get Here? 00:20:36 How being a people pleaser affects your life. 00:22:00 How to set boundaries. 00:24:57 Closing
Next Episode
How Boundaries Help Relationships // Use Intuition to Set Boundaries
069. Get ready for an episode packed with tips about setting boundaries and kicking unhealthy people-pleasing to the curb! Join me on the Marijanel Show as I share how boundaries are essential for personal growth and authenticity.
I'll let you in on a little boundary-making secret when faced with opportunities: giving yourself some time and space before making decisions is a total game-changer. It's all about honoring your needs and preferences, so I’ll share with you how to take that well-deserved time to think about opportunities before giving a people pleasing answer. Today’s will reveal my Time and Space decision making strategy in a way that will help you stop and consider your impulsive “yes” and “no’s”.
Then we talk about communication and how it’s the key to your boundaries.
But wait, there's more! I'll dish out some real talk on surrounding yourself with people who truly care about you. Say goodbye to seeking constant approval or playing the people-pleasing game. It's time to create a community that loves and supports you for the amazing person you are—no strings attached. I will also leave you with a big challenge.
Today you’ll learn how boundaries and intuition go together like coffee and cream! I'll share some secrets on how to tap into your inner wisdom and use it to set those rock-solid boundaries. Trust me, following your gut will lead you to a happier, healthier life.
This podcast will be a powerful reminder that saying "no" creates space for the perfect "yes" to come your way. It's time to put yourself first, establish those healthy boundaries, and create a positive environment for yourself and your relationships.
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Until next time, get ready to unleash your potential and live your most authentic life.
✷ Website → https://marijanel.com/
✷ Companion YouTube Video →https://youtu.be/SG6HS0ckdFw
✷ Instagram → https://www.instagram.com/marijanel/
✷ Support the Show → https://www.buymeacoffee.com/Marijanel
✷ Music → https://www.epidemicsound.com/00:00:00 Intro 00:02:10 Setting healthy boundaries in your life 00:03:18 What do boundaries mean? 00:05:00 How to set boundaries with decision-making 00:07:48 How boundaries help us to say no 00:13:38 Identify your own feelings 00:15:34 How to be authentically yourself 00:18:22 What does it mean to have boundaries? 00:20:17 The importance 00:22:52 Knowing and understanding your intuition when it comes to boundaries 00:23:00 Closing
Marijanel Show - Why you MUST Stop Apologizing // How the Apologetic Demeanor Erodes Confidence
Transcript
What if I was to tell you that you are not an inconvenience you are not a waste of space and your ideas are not a waste of time. Your opinion voice and message matters. Your strength and talent is not an intimidation you must have apologizing for being you for being strong and talented. In today's podcast, we'regonna dive deep into the sub topic of people pleasing, where we explore the apologetic demeanor, saying sorry, you being sorry, ac
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