Let the air out of the balloon to prevent resentment in relationships with Sammi and Nathan Jaeger

02/10/23 • 14 min

We chat with Sammi & Nathan Jaeger, Co-Hosts of The Date Forever Podcast about how to increase the positive or the goodwill in your relationship to help you counteract the negative or the deficit that we tend to collect in our relationships.

Saami and Nathan were around 23 and 24 when they got married in December 2012. And they've been together now for about 15 years, just celebrated their 10th Wedding Anniversary. Congratulations! At LoVita, we're always curious as to why people get married. Everyone has their own reasons, and we really wanted to know why they decided to make that step after 5 years of being together in their relationship. Sammi mentioned that's something she had struggled with herself in the beginning and shares their wonderful story of how she ended up eventually taking the name Jaeger.

Bonus - an exercise to keep fueling their love tank. They had so many things to share. One of the first things they talked about, which I loved, is how they phrased it "let air out of the balloon". It's a weekly check-in conversation to help prevent resentment in their relationship. On what they do to build a healthier relationship, Sammi starts with saying they put goodwill into our relationship all day, every day. Listen to the episode for more.

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Website: https://dateforever.com.au/
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Podcast: Date Forever

If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with 1 close relationship or anyone else who would enjoy listening to this as well.

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Connect with Sammi and Nathan Jaeger

Website: https://dateforever.com.au/
Instagram: dateforever
Podcast: Date Forever

Previous Episode

I'm sorry it's not always enough with Raashi Bhatnagar

Have you tried the Quiz to find your Apology Language yet? If not, check it out from the link below and find out what’s your style?

There 5 Apology Languages are

Planned Change: outline the changes you intend to make and show how you will live up to them as a form of retraining broken trust.
Make Restitution: Apologize by indicating what action you plan to take to make things right.
Accept Responsibility: Admitting that you regret your past behavior and acknowledging your role in the wrongdoing.
Expressing Regret: saying sorry and adding specifically what action has spurred the regret.
Request Forgiveness: is adding will you forgive me? To your apology.

Learn more about our inspiration for this episode from the link below 🔗
https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/apology-language

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Next Episode

2/2/2 Date Night Framework for Partners to Build a Healthier Relationship with Saami and Nathan Jaeger

Our conversation with Saami and Nathan Jaeger was filled with fun Activities, Practices and Rituals that Partners can take away and practice in your relationships to add fuel to your love Tanks. First they share about a Gratitude Practice that they use for MANAGING RESENTMENT. Then, we get into one of their rituals of 2 COFFEE AND A TREAT and I love it not just because it has 2 coffees in it but also a treat. At the end, we get into their practice of 2 x 2 x 2 DATE NIGHTS.

The Framework of 2/2/2 Date Night, which they found on a Reddit feed sometime ago, adapted to their liking, is that

Every 2️⃣ weeks we go on a date
Every 2️⃣ months, we go on a weekend away
Every 2️⃣ years (or twice a year), we'll go on a bigger adventure or a bigger holiday

This is definitely another exercise that we are excited to try out in our relationship. Our cadence might change to different numbers but the idea remains the same. What do you think would be an ideal frequency for your date nights - 1/1/1 or 2/3/2 or something else? Let us know in the comments below

Listen to the full episode to hear what they share about how this changed their relationship and got them out of their worst fight early on.

If you enjoyed listening to this episode (or the podcast), please share your diagnosis with 1 close relationship or anyone else who would enjoy listening to this as well.

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