Love on the Air - Podcast of The Whole Parent

I learned to be happy in spite of the divorce. I found a way to embrace myself and my joy within the darkness and aloneness that tried to overwhelm me after the divorce. I lost my kids and I knew I’d have to reemerge as a happy and healthy dad, so they could learn from my example. I am showing my kids how to live. I am giving them examples, even now, nine years after the divorce, of how to form healthy relationships. And I am attempting to keep sharing my happiness and hopefulness with them.

I wish I could’ve had more time with my kids. I wish my then-wife had agreed to 50/50 shared parenting. I wish my ex-wife would be a more collaborative parent. But even as I wish about these things, even as I can feel regret about the lost time, I am HAPPIER NOW THAN I HAVE EVER BEEN IN MY LIFE.

Read the entire post here: Next-Level Parenting

When we are mood challenged, we’ve got to assemble our care team with care and focus. You need professionals on your team. A talky doctor, a meds doctor, and others, who can guide and support you through the challenging journey ahead. If you know you’re moody, maybe begin to observe what things take you higher and what things bum you out. Do more of the good stuff and less of the bad stuff.

To my friends and lovers who have suggested my antidepressants are unhealthy or masking my real feelings... Um, yes, I love you, but you have no idea what you’re talking about. Let’s establish some healthy boundaries right upfront. The Al-Anon program will give you a great system for staying focused on your own issues and not the issues of another person.

I alone am responsible for how I navigate each day of my life. My care team comes into play when I have questions or need a fresh perspective on what I’m struggling with. Make sure you’ve got people around you that you can contact when you need them.

Read the full article here: Finding Balance

In the past, I had a partner who had a hard time deciding where she wanted to eat. I’d say something like, “Well, can we start with what kind of food you want to get?”

“Um, I don’t really care.”

“All right, how about breakfast tacos?”

“No.”

“TexMex?

“No.”

“Okay, how about Italian or Thai?”

“I don’t know.”

STOP.

Okay, this is a simplified example. But here is what I’ve learned about myself (that I am attempting to understand better in this post) in this example.

I Want To Know Your Decision, Your Wishes, What YOU Want

I'll see you on the whole parent. Here is the text of this episode. Pausing In the Gap on The Whole Parent.

In our conversation, Eva and I cover a lot of ground about sex and relationships. And here were my immediate takeaways that will be fleshed out in the full podcast. This is a fraction of what we cover:

Sexual awareness and liberation begin with yourself. Your own experience of sex. What turns you on. How you please yourself. How confident and comfortable you are with your own sexual body. I had to give a hearty yes to this one. And it dovetails nicely into Eva's path to progress in her work.

Desire: If you understand your desire and what you want (both in a partner, in a sexual experience, and in life) you can take clear and intentional actions toward that goal. Your desire is your guide and your fuel. Your path is always towards what you want. Tuning into your desire is step one.

Body: Your body is where the magic happens. This is where ecstasy happens, and this is where trauma or dysfunction can also be trapped. By connecting with and having conscious conversations with your own body you can begin to unlock more energy to fuel your journey. Shut down parts of our body are where we store shame, trauma, sexual fears, inhibition.

Voice: By connecting with your desire and your body you can give rise to a more powerful and directed voice. Your authenticity comes through when you are connected to your body and your ambitious desire. You must give voice to your goals and needs. Even in leadership outside the bedroom, a person who is well-grounded in self-love and awareness has a stronger stance to lead the rest of the world from.

In the board room and in the bedroom, desire is the fire that gets things done. The more you can connect and harness your desires and aspirations, the more power and passion you will have to light the way forward to creating your best life.

You can find Eva Blake's information on her Facebook page Liberating Desire: Sex, Love, Relationships

Be sure and listen to the whole podcast to get the most out of Eva's advice and expertise. And check The Whole Parent for more illuminating content about relationship-building, dating, sex, and parenting.

John McElhenney - Relationship-Building Coach

Have you ever met someone and felt the immediate electrical shock of sexual chemistry? It is sort of the panacea most of us are seeking when we approach our next lover/relationship/partner. Maybe not everyone is into sex, but... Well, I’ll leave it at that. When the sexual chemistry is on, I know immediately that I am in trouble. I need to take sexual intelligence into consideration and not just sexual chemistry.

You can read this entire podcast here on The Whole Parent.

Thanks,

John McElhenney