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Life Is A Marathon - LIAM 077 – No Rejection, Only Protection! No Failure, Only Data!

LIAM 077 – No Rejection, Only Protection! No Failure, Only Data!

03/19/15 • 49 min

Life Is A Marathon
Relationship breakups can be very difficult to overcome because rejection is one of the most painful feelings we can experience. However, the rejection we feel is all based on a story we tell ourselves about why it happened. Change the story, change your perspective, change your feelings. Listen as I propose there is no rejection, there is only project, and there is no failure, only data: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Show Outline: In our personal lives: We all experience rejection, it's part of life How that rejection makes us feel is 100% the result of the story we tell ourselves about it. Two of my favorite quotes: God removes people from your life for a reason. Don't run after them! God puts people in your life for a reason, and removes them for a reason. Do you believe there is a purpose and plan for your life? Then you must believe everything that happens is part of that purpose, no matter how painful. To believe it is rejection, is to disbelieve in God's plan, or worse, to assign harmful or malicious intent to God It's all protection. All for the purpose of keeping you on the path meant for you. It's all preparation to shape you into the person you are supposed to be. In the Life Planning I do, it amazes me how many people do their "ideal life scenario" and it doesn't include the person they are with or the job they are doing now, they they are afraid to leave either because of fear. Do you love that person enough to want them to have the best possible relationship with the best possible person? Are you, right now, that person, the person he/she really deserves? If not, get about the business of becoming that person--but do it for YOU! Do it because YOU deserve the best and to be the best you can be. Do it because, when the right person comes into your life, he/she deserves you to be the best. You never know if your paths will cross again Story of college sweethearts, broke up, met again 10 years later, got married. Better people, less clingy. In business/sales: You are in the sifting and sorting business, not the begging and pleading business. You must believe that your product is valuable and not to be taken lightly or used by just anyone You must protect your product from being used by the wrong customer Not all customers are good customers You must protect yourself and your company from low-profit, high maintenance customers You must protect your customers by not selling them something they don't need or won't truly benefit them. "No" simply means it wasn't the right fit for the customer at this time. Do not take it as rejection. There is not such thing as failure, there is only data. Why did they not want to buy Why did you decide it wasn't the right match Mentioned in this show: Boston Marathon #Miles4Smiles Fundraiser Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook
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Relationship breakups can be very difficult to overcome because rejection is one of the most painful feelings we can experience. However, the rejection we feel is all based on a story we tell ourselves about why it happened. Change the story, change your perspective, change your feelings. Listen as I propose there is no rejection, there is only project, and there is no failure, only data: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Show Outline: In our personal lives: We all experience rejection, it's part of life How that rejection makes us feel is 100% the result of the story we tell ourselves about it. Two of my favorite quotes: God removes people from your life for a reason. Don't run after them! God puts people in your life for a reason, and removes them for a reason. Do you believe there is a purpose and plan for your life? Then you must believe everything that happens is part of that purpose, no matter how painful. To believe it is rejection, is to disbelieve in God's plan, or worse, to assign harmful or malicious intent to God It's all protection. All for the purpose of keeping you on the path meant for you. It's all preparation to shape you into the person you are supposed to be. In the Life Planning I do, it amazes me how many people do their "ideal life scenario" and it doesn't include the person they are with or the job they are doing now, they they are afraid to leave either because of fear. Do you love that person enough to want them to have the best possible relationship with the best possible person? Are you, right now, that person, the person he/she really deserves? If not, get about the business of becoming that person--but do it for YOU! Do it because YOU deserve the best and to be the best you can be. Do it because, when the right person comes into your life, he/she deserves you to be the best. You never know if your paths will cross again Story of college sweethearts, broke up, met again 10 years later, got married. Better people, less clingy. In business/sales: You are in the sifting and sorting business, not the begging and pleading business. You must believe that your product is valuable and not to be taken lightly or used by just anyone You must protect your product from being used by the wrong customer Not all customers are good customers You must protect yourself and your company from low-profit, high maintenance customers You must protect your customers by not selling them something they don't need or won't truly benefit them. "No" simply means it wasn't the right fit for the customer at this time. Do not take it as rejection. There is not such thing as failure, there is only data. Why did they not want to buy Why did you decide it wasn't the right match Mentioned in this show: Boston Marathon #Miles4Smiles Fundraiser Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook

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Quick Coaching Tip (QCT): Add "Yet" To Your Negative Self-Talk. This is the first of what will be my Quick Coaching Tip (QCT) episodes. A great way to help your negative self-talk, phrases like "I can't," is to add the word "yet" to the end of it. It becomes "I can't, yet," which gives you the hope you need to move through a difficult time in your life. Listen as I explain this and other applications in this quick coaching tip: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Mentioned in this show: Boston Marathon #Miles4Smiles Fundraiser Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook

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Kent Julian learned to apply the formula "Event + Response = Outcome" (E+R=O) to his entire life and it has opened doors for him that he never foresaw. Kent is a gifted, highly sought-after, speaker and coach who teaches teens, young adults, and professionals how to reach their fullest potential by applying this simple formula in practical, actionable ways. Listen to this fun, energetic conversation: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Show Quotes: You have a story, you just need to find the right audience for it. It's not what we do that makes work secular or sacred, it's why we do it. I learned E+R=O from two mentors and that completely changed my life. The worst thing you can do is think, think, think, but never DO anything! The best thing you can do is take action! Read books, learn new things, hire coaches! Always be asking "what is the next best step?" and then take it! You don't know which path to take if you're not actively walking down a path. I felt if I had stayed in the job I now longer loved, I was doing them a disservice. You never really make any mistakes, you learn and grow. A problem is just an opportunity looking for a solution. Thinking is important, but you can think on your feet while you're moving. Take your greatest adversity and turn it into your greatest advantage. That's E+R=O! Mentioned in this show: Kent Julian Website: liveitforward.com Twitter: @KentJulian Facebook: /KentJulian Instagram: @Kent_Julian E+R=O Wristband Boston Marathon #Miles4Smiles Fundraiser "Worry No More" Book Cover Contest Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook

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