Life Is A Marathon

When I decided I needed to lose some weight and get in better shape, the first action I took was to go buy some running shoes. I had no idea, then, that that small physical act would significantly change the course of my life, but it did. You see, deciding to change your life and taking the first physical action to change your life are very different things. In this episode, I share 4 emails I received that support this idea. Listen as I explain: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Mentioned in this show: "Transform Your Life!" and other live events Worry No More! book Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! Watch on YouTube! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook

The Ego isn't bad, it just likes to wander away from the heart and do things on its own. It wants to be the boss, get all of the attention, and take all of the blame. The Ego (our mind), however, is capable of great creativity when it is correctly aligned with the guidance of The Heart. Here are some tips to help you realign your Ego with your heart. Listen as I explain: Listen to/download this episode here: Listen/Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Play | Stitcher | RSS This episode is sponsored by Holosync®, the most powerful meditation, brain enhancement, and stress-relief tool in the world! My listeners get over 30% OFF with a 100% money-back guarantee! Click here: Want to sponsor episodes of the LIAM podcast? Click here. Mentioned in this show: Get out of your comfort zone! Attend "A Weekend to Break Free!" Join the "Climber Community" Get a FREE copy of The Science of Getting Rich Join Bruce's Mastermind Group Worry No More! book Subscription/Social Links: www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Instagram Bruce Van Horn on Facebook

Relationship breakups can be very difficult to overcome because rejection is one of the most painful feelings we can experience. However, the rejection we feel is all based on a story we tell ourselves about why it happened. Change the story, change your perspective, change your feelings. Listen as I propose there is no rejection, there is only project, and there is no failure, only data: Listen on iTunes or Listen to/download this episode here: Show Outline: In our personal lives: We all experience rejection, it's part of life How that rejection makes us feel is 100% the result of the story we tell ourselves about it. Two of my favorite quotes: God removes people from your life for a reason. Don't run after them! God puts people in your life for a reason, and removes them for a reason. Do you believe there is a purpose and plan for your life? Then you must believe everything that happens is part of that purpose, no matter how painful. To believe it is rejection, is to disbelieve in God's plan, or worse, to assign harmful or malicious intent to God It's all protection. All for the purpose of keeping you on the path meant for you. It's all preparation to shape you into the person you are supposed to be. In the Life Planning I do, it amazes me how many people do their "ideal life scenario" and it doesn't include the person they are with or the job they are doing now, they they are afraid to leave either because of fear. Do you love that person enough to want them to have the best possible relationship with the best possible person? Are you, right now, that person, the person he/she really deserves? If not, get about the business of becoming that person--but do it for YOU! Do it because YOU deserve the best and to be the best you can be. Do it because, when the right person comes into your life, he/she deserves you to be the best. You never know if your paths will cross again Story of college sweethearts, broke up, met again 10 years later, got married. Better people, less clingy. In business/sales: You are in the sifting and sorting business, not the begging and pleading business. You must believe that your product is valuable and not to be taken lightly or used by just anyone You must protect your product from being used by the wrong customer Not all customers are good customers You must protect yourself and your company from low-profit, high maintenance customers You must protect your customers by not selling them something they don't need or won't truly benefit them. "No" simply means it wasn't the right fit for the customer at this time. Do not take it as rejection. There is not such thing as failure, there is only data. Why did they not want to buy Why did you decide it wasn't the right match Mentioned in this show: Boston Marathon #Miles4Smiles Fundraiser Download: Affirmations for Abundant Living LIAM Team Life Coaching Community Subscription/Social Links: Subscribe on iTunes! Subscribe on Stitcher Radio! LIAM on Twitter: @LifeIs262 LIAM on Facebook / LifeIsAMarathon Subscribe to the LIAM Mailing List www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Facebook

In this episode, I talk about how we control the outcomes in our lives by controlling our responses to events. The formula E+R=O shows us that, if we don't like the way a certain event has affected us (the outcome), we can change that by changing the way we respond that event. Show outline: Most people believe their lives are controlled by the events that happen in their lives, or, at least, they let their lives be directed by the events. It is easier to blame external forces than to claim responsibility Traffic made me late My boss/spouse/parent makes me so mad It's all the government's fault The economy is bad This type of thinking leaves us as the victim of circumstances You cannot change the event, but you can change the outcome by changing your response E+R=O - I learned it from Jack Canfield, but he got it from W. Clement Stone It's simple math. The Event is Constant. Your Response is the Variable that determines the answer (Outcome) Some examples: Event = Heavy Traffic. Outcome = Late for work, Anxious, Angry, Why Me?, need to make excuse to boss Alt 1: Response = My fault, I did leave on time. The world didn't end. Apologize, but take ownership Alt 2: There was a bad accident. Response = those poor people. So thankful that wasn't me. Apologize to boss, but keep those people in your thoughts/prayers, be thankful throughout day it wasn't you. Event = Someone runs a red light, nearly hits you. Outcome = Anger/Hatred toward person, victim Alt: Response = Person may have had a good reason to be in such a hurry. Hope all is OK. Compassion instead of rage. Just simply "Sorry, I'm late. I got held up in traffic" is better than "Oh, sorry I'm late. Can you believe that traffic out there. I was sitting there barely crawling..." The drama simply increases the stress and reinforces victim-thinking. Ownership / Responsibility always makes you feel better about yourself. Choose a response that is useful, leaves you in control of your feelings, and serves to build your self-esteem. It's all about the story you tell yourself about the event, how it fits with your self-image and world-view. It's not what other people say or do to you, it's about what you say or do to yourself afterwards Story of insulting an audience member Yourresponseshould be based on reality, not a lie--that won't help your self-esteem It's about framing the event in a way that is useful and helpful to you. Your ability to craft a differentstoryquicklyis based on your self-esteem/self-image, which is why it is so important to work on building these up. A high self-esteem makes you stronger, more resilient to negative events Listen to Episodes 14 & 15 Very often the best response is no response at all The event happened. Period. No response, no story, no drama. Let it go. A catastrophic event is painful, true,butmay be an opportunity for rebirth Andy Andrews' Gulf oil spill story There are many stories of people who turned catastrophe in to triumph You can use the E+R=O method to change how you feel about the past Nikki Schmutz decided to tell herself a different story, to choose a different response to the abuse she suffered as a child. If someone hurt you in the past, you continue to hurt yourself by replaying it as a victim. You continue to give that person or event power over your life. You can choose rewrite the story in the present This happened, but it is no longer happening. I can live victoriously. I can take control and have power over my present and future. This takes daily practice, but it can be liberating! You are only in control of YOUR response to an event, not anyone else's response. When you don't like how someone responds to an event, that is a new event for you and you must decide how to respond, if at all. Fear of how we think someone will respond often paralyzes us

It's not enough to know what you want, you need to know WHY you want it! Once you know the WHY, you can start working on the HOW to create it. I had a conversation with Corey Poirier about his important book, The Book of Why and How. Listen to this fun and meaningful conversation: Listen to/download this episode here: Subscribe: Apple Podcasts | Android | Google Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | iHeart Radio | RSS Leave a "LIAM 500" voice message at: 804-601-0043 Get early access to podcast episodes and more exclusive content by following and supporting LIAM on Patreon. Social Media Links: www.BruceVanHorn.com Bruce Van Horn on Patreon Bruce Van Horn on Twitter Bruce Van Horn on Instagram Bruce Van Horn on Facebook